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Originally Posted by JohnMacnab
Now here is a tricky question. Can I make love to a provider while she is only having sex with me?
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Yes--it happens all the time when one of the couple is in love with the other, but when the other only can view this as a friendship (or in the case of a provider, maybe just as a customer and no more). These kinds of one-sided feelings ordinarily start in teenage years.
So if this thread's definition of "making love" requires the two people to feel the same way about each other, then it probably never happens in the hobby. I suppose it might happen in the case of someone who just briefly tried the hobby and quit to pursue other lines of work or study and a relationship that had developed while "working". Even that would probably be very rare.
My earlier post in this thread was addressing the more simple situation--where for a moment both sides feel an emotion going along with the embrace and sex. In other words, is she really into this, or just thinking about the clock and the fee, and possibly, about "feel good" physical pleasure?
Lots of times, in the middle of sex, my mind is feeling some real tenderness, and maybe even "love" for the woman (if she is one of my regulars)--and I hope (but usually don't believe) that for the moment she has some similar feelings. This is true even though a few minutes later we are each ready to go and get on with our own separate lives.