It's been a while since I have made a threAD, this one is about client/customer etiquette and tact.......

[Victoria of Houston]

Originally Posted by Anna Nikkole

VoH, it gives me an idea about their character and I will not see them, exactly.

Yup! You can tell a lot about a gent by how he initially approaches/contacts you.

Originally Posted by Anna Nikkole

I personally find it alarming if a guy calls asking to spank. Everyone gets excited and smacks that ass, I like it. I like my hair pulled too. But when someone specifically ask to spank over the phone it sets off flags. Why the interest unless it's something unusual? What if he wants to hurt someone and in a way is looking for permission to hurt someone? Does this alarm anyone else?

Hmmm. For me, (not that I am fs), not so much, but I come from a personal interest background of being into kinky sex.

However, I can understand where you're coming from.

To me, it sounds like you have a really good handle on yourself and how to conduct your business. I've always said, that each provider has the right/prerogative to operate within whatever boundaries she feels most comfortable.

There are a few, little things, that trigger me, as well. To other ladies, they may not seem like a big deal or may not bother them, but to me, they do.

I would say in general though, anyone asking me about specific activities before we've even met the first time, is a huge no no for me, and I would refuse to see them on those terms alone.

Once we've gotten to know each other a bit and feel more comfortable, it makes sense to me that a repeat would want to start exploring other avenues, etc and feel more comfortable to ask me about those, but definitely not before the first meet.

As said, it sounds like you know how to handle yourself well doll. It does suck that we have to continuously state our boundaries as providers, but I also feel that it is also just part of being a provider sometimes, le sigh. Lols.

[Anna Nikkole]

We're human first off, Providers secondly. Dick hunter and a few others might disagree. If I ever let Russ out of my basement, he would tell you I love a good spanking and dicking down. And you made a great point, when you are comfortable with someone who you have seen the spanking can be quite enjoyable :-)

[Guest072624]

Originally Posted by Fancyinheels

Fine. Here's one brief sentence that can be applied by all providers to all clients:

Stick to my rules, or you won't be sticking it.

EXCATLY. IN THAT ORDER.

[pyramider]

Originally Posted by Victoria of Houston

Yup! You can tell a lot about a gent by how he initially approaches/contacts you.

I send seasonal dic pics.

[Guest021817-2]

Thar she blows... Salt water spray to be had by all.

[OldGent]

I want to chime in on an issue I hear about all the time. Lets say we have a provider who has four different sites that have different rate schedules. Now I am not talking about rate changes for travel and such. Just basic rates. So a good hobbyist does his research and reads up on everything he can and sees this and askes for clarification and is rewarded with crappy attitude. Then the provider turns around and pisses and moans about him asking. Hey she created this monster. I don't negotiate or ask for special favors. I pay f what the lady requests, but I can sympathize with some hobbyist who are really just asking for clarification and get dogged for it. Yes there are always going to be jackasses trying to juice the system. No lack of that on both sides, but the ones who vary rates to sites either learn to accept the request or come up with a uniform rate set up. "Oh I just hate it when they call and ask my rates when they are clearly written on my ad." Yeah which ad genius?

[BookOfEli]

Well said fine lady, I did become interested in you because your showcase answered EVERY question I had so that I didnt have to ask stupid questions and make you mad. I cant wait to see you Anna!

[Victoria of Houston]

Originally Posted by OldGent

Yeah which ad genius?

I can understand how that would be frustrating from the client side.

I've never advertised varying rates, so haven't had any experience with this particular issue, but I know other ladies do.

Personally, I don't mind a quick query about the rate, prior to the meeting in person though. If I were to be asked anything about compensation in person, I would definitely freak out and make the person leave.

I believe I even say in my ads/showcase/site, that I will confirm the rate if there is any confusion prior to meeting, but I feel discussion of such in person is just a no, no, no.

I think in general, this is a good issue to bring up, because there are gripes/complaints about how either party handles tcb from both sides.

We are all just involved in a tricky situation and at times proper decorum and conduct can become murky for both parties; it's not like they teach you proper hobbying etiquette in school, but maybe they should, ha.

Also, each lady likes to do things a little differently, so I agree it can be confusing for gents how to properly proceed at times.

I write blog entries about how I prefer everything to be handled. Not everyone reads them, but surprisingly a lot of gents do, because they mention it to me usually prior to our first meeting or during.

I found that to be a great outlet for me to expound upon my concerns/preferences, etc, as a provider, as I am not entirely able to on a site such as this. I was worried at first about making something so public as a hobby blog, but I am finding it to become very useful in my day-to-day dealings.

[OldGent]

Agreed Victoria, it should be resolved pre session. And most of the time a courteous and polite exchange goes further than most people realize.

[Victoria of Houston]

Originally Posted by OldGent

And most of the time a courteous and polite exchange goes further than most people realize.

I vehemently agree with this. I could write volumes on this, I probably have a little, already, here on the board, lols. (There was one post started about this a couple of months ago.)

Professionalism, manners and just common courtesy speak volumes.

[Anna Nikkole]

My rates went up, but they are the same everywhere except every now and then I'll throw a special in my ad that's not on my general showcase rates. I honor a special. Clients are grandfathered to what we agreed on, and p411 gets $20 discount on sessions for 1 hour and up. Outcall rates go up by distance.

That damn adult search grabbed a extremely old ad and I got 2 calls today for a extremely low rate because of adult search. I actually think adult search grabs ads at random.

[Victoria of Houston]

Originally Posted by Anna Nikkole

That damn adult search grabbed a extremely old ad and I got 2 calls today for a extremely low rate because of adult search. I actually think adult search grabs ads at random.

Yes! I don't like them either because they will post "you" without your permission and might not get all your info correct.

[Anna Nikkole]

Originally Posted by BookOfEli

Well said fine lady, I did become interested in you because your showcase answered EVERY question I had so that I didnt have to ask stupid questions and make you mad. I cant wait to see you Anna!

I'm glad you liked what you saw sweetheart!

[BIGSEXY7852]

Does she take trips to Greece????? The answer was probably in the rant, but fell asleep after the first sentence. Oh well, I may never know.

[Victoria of Houston]

Originally Posted by BIGSEXY7852

Does she take trips to Greece????? The answer was probably in the rant, but fell asleep after the first sentence. Oh well, I may never know.

I'm sure the answer is somewhere in her showcase.