yes krunkman, in the past i have looked into gwnn and saade and attended a couple of munches and a public playparty. as you observed, it has been difficult to find dominants who are into submissives who are tv/cd. there seem to be more who are into forced feminization than those that are into just a good ol' t-girl such as myself. fortunately i'm patient.
i am mostly a bottom. i'm not sure if i could switch, but i never rule anything out. i do know that if i was to switch, i would have to do more than just "fake" it; i would truly have to want to and thus make it a legitimate experience. who knows what the future could hold? but for now, i'm very happy as a sub.