SUGAR BABY Suicide Threats - LONG

[Randall Creed]

Bullshit!!

Don't fucking ignore this. This IS your business, simply because you're aware of it. You can do it anonymously, but her parents or somebody needs to know.

Attention-seeker?? Ohhh, no one's ever actually killed themselves before. They ALL bluff. Oh,wait...[record scratch].

Dude, do whatever you can to help this person, even if it's nothing but reporting. A little bit of intervention just might save her life, as well as an innocent baby.

[Guest123018]

Suicide is very serious. However she's trying to intimidate you. I'd cut off all ties, block her and have no contact, that is if you're really wanting to move on from her for good

[Randall Creed]

Hmm. Pregnant. No money. Losing car. Dropping out of school. No support, be it financial or helping hands. Dealing with pregnancy discomforts, and may have deal with not having a place to stay later on. Very young, and first time dealing with serious life issues

Yeah, she's probably just screwing around with you.


Fuck....every....single one of y'all in this thread.

[Guest061814]

Simply tell her family. That's the right thing to do. They can help her if needed. And if she's simply being a drama queen then she deserves to be outed as such.

[SA Angel]

She might be being manipulative but the other option doesn't bear thinking...

Report her threats to kill herself. She either has an embarrassing stay in the hospital for trying to to take advantage of you or she gets the mental help she needs.

Everyone "wins" except the the poor baby in an unstable environment....

[Gotyour6]

Originally Posted by SAangel27

She might be being manipulative but the other option doesn't bear thinking...

Report her threats to kill herself. She either has an embarrassing stay in the hospital for trying to to take advantage of you or she gets the mental help she needs.

Everyone "wins" except the the poor baby in an unstable environment....

This,
Call someone and have them give her a mental health check

She will either stop with the bullshit or get the help she needs

[Babylee]

Originally Posted by Gotyour6

This,
Call someone and have them give her a mental health check

She will either stop with the bullshit or get the help she needs

For that matter you can call your or her local police department and do a welfare check on her. Explain that she has expressed to you concerns of suicide and request MHMR come as well and check her out. They will make the decision after an assessment, and take it out of your hands. You did your duty as a friend to her to make sure she is ok. After that, then I think it would be wise to break all ties, but that would be your decision.

[April Cox]

This is your fault dude. I do not know your age. However, just because there is a young college age female willing to spread her legs for you does not me you have any business inserting your penis. You are supposed to be a grown responsible adult.

You created this dumb ass, what did you think was going to happen? Did you think she was going to fall in love with you and stay with you? She had a boyfriend and a baby. You cut her off after you enabled her? I have a feeling that you were using and manipulating her just as much if not more than you say she is trying to manipulate you now. I do not feel sorry for you. She is young, just because over 18 does not mean she is grown. This was all about your EGO, as are all SD/SB relationships. All about the SD EGO. And that makes you a creep! If you want to spend time with younger ladies, stick to the young professional ladies here. The lines here are clearly defined.

What ever her drama is, you have contributed. You are responsible, so yes, see it through asshole. Finish what you started. And I hope you think twice before you start some shit like this again.

Originally Posted by OTTER7001

I started a SB/SD relationship in October 2013 with a girl who lived in my town. She was going to the local College in my town and got pregnant by her boyfriend who lived 1.5 hours away and dropped out of College, but remained in my town and I took care of her for the next 8 months. We grew close and I developed feelings for her and vice versa. During this I paid her rent, car payment etc.

During the 9th month she decided to move closer to home to be around family and got back with her Baby Daddy. We still communicated, but didn't see each other. She broke up with her Baby Daddy again and is now behind on her bills and is begging me to help her, but I really don't feel the need to help her...that's not the question.

She is two months behind on her car payment, lost her car insurance and other bills are mounting up and she is stressing out. Her family is just as borke as she is so they can't help financially. Since I won't help her with her bills she is threatening suicide if her car gets repo'd.

My question is: should I notify her mother through Facebook and let her know her daughter is threatening suicide or just mind my own Business? I do care for her but I'm not real sure she will commint suicide, but having lost 5-6 friends due to suicide I'm not sure if this is a cry for help or trying to extort/bluff money from me. Any suggestions?

[Bigstk01]

I know this is after the fact... But...
You should have ground rules in the very beginning of ANY "SB" relationship.
I do..
Agree to a firm cost.
Agree to firm number of visits.
Agree to an EXIT PLAN....important!!!!

When its done... Its done. No going back.

Simple but worked for me.

[RALPHEY BOY]

ISTEN VERY CLEARLY GUYS; HOOKERS, ESCORTS, WHATEVER YOU WANT TO CALL US MAKE MORE MONEY THAN YOU. IF LADIES ARE COMING TO YOU FOR FINANCIAL HELP, THERE IS SOMETHING ELSE GOING ON THAT YOU DO NOT WANT TO BE INVOLVED IN, UNLESS YOU LIKE DRAMA. IT COULD BE MIS-MANAGEMENT OF MONEY OR WHATEVER, BUT THERE IS NOT EXCUSE FOR THIS BEHAVIOR EVER IMO.

OMG! you are so awesome!!! I agree 100%

and its not your problem nor your concern, This girl has obviously made poor choice after poor choice.... she lets her loser bf creampie her.. WTF??..

[Guest061814]

Originally Posted by Bigstk01

I know this is after the fact... But...
You should have ground rules in the very beginning of ANY "SB" relationship.
I do..
Agree to a firm cost.
Agree to firm number of visits.
Agree to an EXIT PLAN....important!!!!

When its done... Its done. No going back.

Simple but worked for me.

I'm curios as to what GotYour6 has to say about this...sounds like the "hooker on retainer" described previously.

So, OP, any update? Comments on April's thoughts?

[thebuffmantraples]

Is April the kind of person that can cool and calmly rationalize this opinion?
I don't mean disrespect but that's a stretch with the information given beforehand.
Theres ladies of all ages that pull this trick. I'm not saying its always a stick up but it happens.
Now, only the OP has intimate knowledge of said lady, so his the closest at being able to resolve those signs!

Either way the intention was related. The OP, by now, knows to relay the info to some third party better suited to such "situmiation" ya I said it.

Lots of luck, toodles.

[OTTER7001]

As far as April's comments...don't care. BUFF is correct she doesn't have all the info...just pieces.

I have talked to the girl and she said she was going through some rough times and said she couldn't do that to her daugher. Said she is doing better. I also talked with one of her girlfriends. She was going to visit her in a few days and is supposed to talk to her.

[Randall Creed]

Providers making 'more' may be some kind of fact, but they don't always make STEADY money, which is the cornerstone of financial stability.

99% of us hobbyist types get paid every two weeks pretty much, without fail, whereas a provider may kick ass for a good stretch, then may not do so well for another stretch, assuming this is their only source of income. She's got to balance her good stretches with bad ones, with cash (many don't have bank accounts like many of us hobbyists). Cash is a whole lot easier to spend [wastefully] than a bank, credit, or debit card.

Getting money (cash, that is) in bunches likely encourages reckless spending. 'Oh, let me get those glittery pair of shoes that I saw...and I need two outfits to match it. Car repairs. Baby stuff. Other bills (electricity, phone).

While she's swimming in money one week, it may not 'rain' for a week and a half, or even 2. Or maybe she only sees a couple guys in a long stretch, of say, 2 weeks. While it may feed her or pay her incall fee, it may not do both. Maybe her car payment is due, or rent at her actual house/apt., for those that don't provide out of their houses.

Given the above and even some things I left out, 'making more money' than us very subjective and highly relative to her lifestyle. I don't fault them or anything for money troubles, because people have to LEARN how to spend money well. Keep in mind these are young adults making crazy money. Fast money. Some have bad influences around them, like punk ass pimps and loser boyfriends who help spend the money and not help to make it.

Come on, what are they supposed to do in life? I doubt they've taken any financial classes or took any college, many of them. They can only go with what they know.

[bc7274]

I lost a cousin last year to suicide. Make the call and have her checked on.