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Old 07-28-2014, 04:06 PM   #16
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This may be something you have already tried but complain to ECCIE tech people. the person is violating points 8 and 17 of the ECCIE general conduct guidelines.
http://www.eccie.net/announcement.php?f=2
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Old 07-28-2014, 04:13 PM   #17
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How about a simple... No Thank You.

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can't agree with encouraging girls to simply never respond. it's one of the most unprofessional and disrespectful things anybody...or any business...can do.

I thought the same thing when I encountered my first screening failure. I sent a very polite response declining the appointment, and wished him well in his hobbying escapades. Needless to say that did not go over well, and he let me know exactly how he felt about it. So when I encountered the potential client noted in this post, I decided to implement the advice of more experienced providers. But it's looking like this is a no-win situation any way you slice it....
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Old 07-28-2014, 04:28 PM   #18
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Well I don't agree with the no response at all. I have been turned down by a provider and I have to admit it bugs me to this day. I wish she had said why. I asked a couple of times and no anserw. My thinking was that there may well be an error in her information. If it is a physical appearance issue I really can't change that so i would let it go. In my case I have 62 okays and 13 reviews. It is quite perplexing.
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Old 07-28-2014, 05:00 PM   #19
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I thought the same thing when I encountered my first screening failure. I sent a very polite response declining the appointment, and wished him well in his hobbying escapades. Needless to say that did not go over well, and he let me know exactly how he felt about it. So when I encountered the potential client noted in this post, I decided to implement the advice of more experienced providers. But it's looking like this is a no-win situation any way you slice it....
That's a whole new ball game! Guys an idiot. Ignore is the right thing to do!
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Old 07-28-2014, 05:16 PM   #20
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Tell the Pilgrim to leave you alone and that your
Not interested in providing any services to him
Dont threaten it will only make it worse
Be nice and go on down the rode this Pilgrim
Has mental issues for sure.... Bad childhood
Im sure... Just be nice and dont agitate

Not sure what the rt thing to do is other than telling him
No thanks , tell him your big blk pimp says no
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Old 07-28-2014, 05:23 PM   #21
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I thought the same thing when I encountered my first screening failure. I sent a very polite response declining the appointment, and wished him well in his hobbying escapades. Needless to say that did not go over well, and he let me know exactly how he felt about it. So when I encountered the potential client noted in this post, I decided to implement the advice of more experienced providers. But it's looking like this is a no-win situation any way you slice it....
once you told him no, then ignoring him is the right thing to do...i just meant in general.
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Well I don't agree with the no response at all. I have been turned down by a provider and I have to admit it bugs me to this day. I wish she had said why. I asked a couple of times and no anserw. My thinking was that there may well be an error in her information. If it is a physical appearance issue I really can't change that so i would let it go. In my case I have 62 okays and 13 reviews. It is quite perplexing.
And this may be one reason the guy may persist. Please understand.......I'm not saying it's right for the guy to keep hounding you. No means no.

But, like Diddleman, I have many reviews and well over 20 oks. Yet, I was just recently turned down for an appointment with a new gal I wanted to meet. I'm letting it go. But...its perplexing. We guys know the ladies have all these blacklists. I'll always wonder what I did wrong, or if I'm on some list somewhere for something I'll never be able to explain.

And so it goes........
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Old 07-28-2014, 06:21 PM   #23
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Well I don't agree with the no response at all. I have been turned down by a provider and I have to admit it bugs me to this day. I wish she had said why. I asked a couple of times and no anserw. My thinking was that there may well be an error in her information. If it is a physical appearance issue I really can't change that so i would let it go. In my case I have 62 okays and 13 reviews. It is quite perplexing.
Same here!! Had a meeting all set up. Then I send a couple of emails about what I like and might like to try if she was willing and then suddenly she doesn't want to see me. No reason why. If you don't want to see me, fine. But let me know what the problem is. I'm trying to get established here and need whatever feedback I can get.
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Old 07-28-2014, 06:54 PM   #24
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I also think a response of No thanks, is better than ignoring.
If he asks why in a decent way, then you can go from there.
If he blows up, then an 'I told you no, please let it go' and ignoring further calls
is appropriate.
Rejection always hurts a little, sometimes just the tiniest explanation can help.

AA, don't second guess yourself, in this case it's probably best to continue to ignore him.

You could try the line about your brother coming home on leave from SEAL training, but in this day of anonymous comm via keyboard, it probably won't work.
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Old 07-28-2014, 11:16 PM   #25
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For some guys, a "no" actually means "yes". They are simply wired that way. We call those people rapists or potential rapists. It could also mean he is in "love" with you or some aspect of your persona he can't let go of. Either way, you could have a problem on your hand. Since you've told him no, telling him again will do no good. Ignoring him/not responding is your best approach for now. Hopefully, this dude is somewhat normal and eventually it will get through his thick skull to leave you alone. It may take months or longer. Now, if this guy truly is deranged, I do think you need to take some measures to protect yourself. If you have a friend who is computer savvy, you might be able to do a background check and get the guys real name and info. With that in hand and hopefully all the records you have of him contacting you, and go to a lawyer and discuss drafting up a cease and desist order or some type of no contact order. I'm not saying go through with that idea, but be prepared to in case you really feel threatened for you physical safety.
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Old 07-29-2014, 12:25 AM   #26
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Thanks for all the input. If we apply the advice as a combined solution, this is what we get:

When it comes to a provider opting not to see a client (failed screening, personal preferences, whatever), there are some clients who are capable of being told “No” and moving on, while others hear “No” and start to get crazy.

Everyone will identify which group they belong to regarding a provider declining their appointment request:

1.) Dismissed and Desist

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2.) Dismissed and Pissed

If you are on list 1, you will be told a polite “no” and provided the reason for your dismissal. If you are on list 2, you will be ignored.


Ha! A girl can dream, right?
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Old 07-29-2014, 01:01 AM   #27
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Maybe peer pressure will get him to stop, tell him to stop publically
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Old 07-29-2014, 04:43 AM   #28
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Well fortunately I'm not in your shoes and have never experienced this lol.

My advice would be to always respond with a no thank you if deciding not to see a guy. How they respond doesn't matter cause once you decline you ignore. It's always gonna be on a case by case basis regardless.
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Old 07-29-2014, 05:31 AM   #29
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Not sure what the rt thing to do is other than telling him
No thanks , tell him your big blk pimp says no
I know, how about she tell him that Skyblaster99 her new racist boyfriend is going to come over and teach him some manners?
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Thanks for all the input. If we apply the advice as a combined solution, this is what we get:

When it comes to a provider opting not to see a client (failed screening, personal preferences, whatever), there are some clients who are capable of being told “No” and moving on, while others hear “No” and start to get crazy.

Everyone will identify which group they belong to regarding a provider declining their appointment request:

1.) Dismissed and Desist

or

2.) Dismissed and Pissed

If you are on list 1, you will be told a polite “no” and provided the reason for your dismissal. If you are on list 2, you will be ignored.


Ha! A girl can dream, right?
While I'm big on being honest, as a provider, it is in none of the ladies' best interest to tell a client that he has been black listed, by whom, or what the details are. If ya want to know why, PM me and I'll explain in further detail if ya like.

Ya might try responding with something along this line, " Thank you for getting in touch, but at this time, I do not feel that the we would make a great fit.", and leave it at that. Then ignore every attempt he makes to contact you. Every time ya answer, it's like feeding fuel to a fire. Lotsa pushy guys out there and no sense in giving them, what they might feel is any kind of interest or acknowledgement.

As providers don't go around badgering potential clients as to why they won't come see them, potential clients should also respect that ladies have a right to choose who they will see, and are not obligated to give specifics. Neither owes the other an explanation. WALDT (We all like different things)
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