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Originally Posted by KCboy
Just curious as to what you guys and girls feel about meeting for a drink or dinner date before the main event?
I find these work well for me as they really give a break the Ice period to get that out in the open! Meeting in a public place first seems to be safer as both parties can assess the other better! Whether an in or outcall. I always find them enjoyable but that's just me 
Another question is cost ? Should it be the normal hour fee? A reduced rate? Or no charge based on prelude to the grand event? |
There are two points you have made:
- Break the IceMeet in Public (it is safer for both parties to assess each other)
Enjoyable to meet first is BS, it is difficult for both of you
- Should you pay for this?
Yes, don't be cheap! It doesn't look good
The whole point for meeting first is to determine if it is safe for both parties to continue, but you should always pay for the girls time - that is her income, it is not a date where you might get a reward for dinner (or just a drink because you are such a fine catch), don't confuse the two.
It is safety you are talking about. Even if you find that you do not have an attraction for this woman; be respectful and give her some time for the meeting and go on your way. It is better for both of you. You got to see the preview, but it isn't free.
The public meeting place is OK, but being seen by a lot of people has some problems. Not knowing who you are seeing has more. The reviews only go so far. The telephone conversation should tell you a lot. Do you feel comfortable talking to her? If not, call another. What is her review history (all of it)? Want to be sure, meeting first is OK. I have had mixed results on this: some like the idea - especially if they are UTR, they want to be sure of you. Some have just said that they feel OK, come on over.
What is the final thing: It is something like getting to first base on a first date. Do you, or she, want to go on? If she is dirty, drunk, or high; just walk away and give her a payment for seeing you. It will keep her from screaming at you in public, and she will be happy to get paid for "not working". What did you get out of this? SAFETY! There are girls out there who will rob you, or worse. Don't be a part of it.
As for the screening services: do you really want the possibility of someone showing up at your place of work, or calling your family? Calling the police it in option, but some people know it would be an embarrassment for you and they just don't care about being embarrassed. Be prepared to call their bluff.
Keep one thing in mind, if you meet first - they are applying for the job, not you. You can reject them and you might think you now owe them nothing. But you made the appointment as a FINAL review, you had the free review on the phone, and you chose to continue. For every professional job interview, even for short term work, the companies who hire me have paid for the travel and meals to come see them. It is expected, so pay for her travel time.
If you reject the job applicant, you do not owe the full employment rate.
Like any job they are expected to show up on time, and be prepared to work the time they were hired for.
Breaking the ice? BS! Is it time for you to relax first, and get up your courage? If so, that is something else, and it is your problem.
Both parties want to know, one way or another, if this meeting is to be a nice experience.
JR
