Long-time client passes away

[Guest022315]

Sorry for your loss but at least you will be able to reflecton upon the fond memories

[rrabbit6926]

Sorry for you loss

[Guest071514-1]

Sorry for your loss sweety

[chuckfinley]

It doesn't matter the basis for your relationship. What matters is that you had a close, personal relationship with someone. Deep inside we all want to matter to someone and your response to his death is proof that he mattered to at least one person. He would not want you to be sad but it would make him very happy that he meant something to you. My hobby hope is that I can find the same type relationship that you two had

[geecue]

Sorry for your loss Ava, just goes to show that some ladies do care.

[alluringava]

Originally Posted by geecue

Sorry for your loss Ava, just goes to show that some ladies do care.

We had seen each other for such a long time and the good part was also that his wife was fully aware of it. She knew he would never leave him, as they were married 22 years and the only thing really missing was the passion. They both worked and drifted apart over the years, but stayed together for the boys, both of whom were extraordinary students who were talented musicians and played the cello and violin. I knew a lot about his family. While we always knew the boundary between us because he was a married client and I was a pro, we certainly shared a lot of our personal lives and thoughts together. When his family wasn't around at the hospital I went to visit him as well. And now, I'll be visiting his grave.

[Guest041413-2]

You are an awesome woman. Classy, sexy and true. My condolences as well in your loss of a friend and confidant.

[tuckahoe]

So sorry for your loss, Ava. Thank you for sharing your story. It shows there is a lot of good in your heart!

[cumalot]

Thanks for sharing Ava, sorry for your loss, we all hope that we are remembered and not forgotten in the end and you remembered him well...

[burkalini]

Originally Posted by alluringava

Just a few moments ago, I received word that a long-time client of mine, who became more like a friend than a 'customer,' finally lost his 4 year battle with colon cancer. He struggled mightily with it, going through enough rounds of chemotherapy and radiation enough to poison and nuke Hiroshima and Nagasaki all over again.

It was his wife who actually called me to tell me. Strange, I know, but he and his wife had an understanding that since they were no longer in love ( but stayed together for their teenage boys, she was well aware of him seeing me exclusively, almost like a mistress) . He asked her that upon his passing, to have her call me and let me know. We used to communicate frequently by e mail and text message.


I have to admit that I started to cry. He didn't have a lot of money and came to see me every few months like clockwork, but we had seen each other for ten years, and then he got sick. And even then, he'd pay me for company and I'd always let him stay longer than the hour. I found myself looking through all the little gifts he had given me through the years and the cards, and you know, I never thought I'd feel this heartbroken over someone whom our initial encounter was as client and escort.


It just goes to show you that sometimes, this 'job' is not what it always appears to be. Sure, men pay for sex, we're there for the money, but there's also that other very real aspect of the business called humanity and compassion, especially for those regulars whom we get to know over the years. I don't know if any of you guys or gals would feel the same way if your ATF or a favorite client regular died, but there's a little empty feeling in me right now. I can't help feeling the way I do. Naturally, I'm not going to 'show up' at the funeral, but I will visit his grave and put some flowers there, and maybe a little box of Viagra, in case there's 'any action up there' in heaven.

It shows you have a good heart Ava. Alot of providers would think for second and then on to the next guy. My condolences

[Guest120615-3]

Ava- you're a special woman!

You're sharing this gentleman's memory with gratitude, dignity and respect. I'm sure you provided him a great amount of comfort, happiness and joy through some tough days. Smile today because you went above and beyond, and gave him something that was priceless.

[SCBOY]

Ava, I'm sorry for your loss.
The feelings that you have shared, show you have a good heart.
You are a very special and caring woman.
Please don't ever change.

[guest060112-3]

*hugs* Cancer is an awful thing, and I'm sure having you there throughout the past four years comforted him, and also his wife, quite a bit. Having family members with cancer is a very rough thing, and so his continued visits to you allowed her some time off (depending on their caretaker situation) where she obviously trusted you to take good care of him in her stead. So that speaks very highly of you as well.

I think that's a great thing for the wife to have that sort of openness with her husband, and I admire her a lot for that.

[alluringava]

I got to see him off and on but he hung in there, tough as nails, former Vietnam vet who survived several bayonet and bullet wounds so he was one tough cookie. Ultimately the thing that did him end was his war with cancer....not the war overseas. Rest in peace, F. You will always be fondly remembered.

[Tip Tulane]

My sympathy and condolences, Ava. What a beautiful, sad story.

Your words remind me of a statement a provider I saw only once made to me more than 35 years ago, which I've never forgotten: "You bought my time, I gave you my body".

In your case, it may be that but you also gave him your soul/humanity. God love ya, girl.