Paying when paranoid

[Ginger Doll]

A client should never wait until the end of a date to pay. That kind of behavior puts the provider in the very uncomfortable position of having to ask for it, and most of us don't even want to talk about money. An envelope should be laid out in plain sight prior to the date beginning.

If you're both uncomfortable with the date, then discussing a mutually agreeable amount for her time and trouble shouldn't be an issue... I'd say half is appropriate. While there were no activities involved, she could have missed another opportunity while she was there with you.

[nwaarguy]

Well a provider just meeting you for the first time might be paranoid we are all strangers until we meet the donation might be the least thing on a providers mind even with screening take it for what it is.

I look at like this i give the donation up front or place it on a dresser in plain sight i did the envelope once i won't due it again the girl counted out the donation in front of me then looked under the light to see the water mark of my uncle ben.... and asked if it was counterfeit........ anyway.

Worst case scenario on a hobbyist end you don't screen and she cash and dashes yeah it sucks but there will always be other hobbys.

I look at like this see legit eccie providers avoid the headache.

[theotherguy1]

Originally Posted by Ginger Doll

A client should never wait until the end of a date to pay. That kind of behavior puts the provider in the very uncomfortable position of having to ask for it, and most of us don't even want to talk about money. An envelope should be laid out in plain sight prior to the date beginning.

If you're both uncomfortable with the date, then discussing a mutually agreeable amount for her time and trouble shouldn't be an issue... I'd say half is appropriate. While there were no activities involved, she could have missed another opportunity while she was there with you.

What about if you show up and she has completely misrepresented herself. Should you still pay half?

I met Felina once and forgot to leave the envelope and she called and reminded me. That was embarrassing to me and her. Someone that I met before I sometime put the envelope down and sometimes I don't until I am about to leave. Someone new I always put the envelope down first if she has misrepresented herself.

I once had an young lady drive to Orlando from Tampa to see me and she in no way look like she was the same race as her photo online. She was taller, a lot bigger and did not look anything like her picture. Then she wanted to upsell me.

[Ginger Doll]

Total misrepresentation is a different issue entirely.

Most guys that I've talked to give a $20 and directions to the door.

[Danielle Reid]

Originally Posted by theotherguy1

What about if you show up and she has completely misrepresented herself. Should you still pay half?

I met Felina once and forgot to leave the envelope and she called and reminded me. That was embarrassing to me and her. Someone that I met before I sometime put the envelope down and sometimes I don't until I am about to leave. Someone new I always put the envelope down first if she has misrepresented herself.

I once had an young lady drive to Orlando from Tampa to see me and she in no way look like she was the same race as her photo online. She was taller, a lot bigger and did not look anything like her picture. Then she wanted to upsell me.

I had a guy get through screening set up a date and show up a few minutes late. This forced to me to push back a date I after after him (the 2nd date canceled because I pushed him back and he was pressed for time). I had two more calls but I denied them because the guy showed up ready to play.

Well when he walked into my room he started with some small talk, asked me about my day and how I was enjoying NWA. Then when I asked "so do you want to sit with me on the bed?" He said I wasn't the girl he thought I was and bolted. I missed out on 3 dates for this guy so of course I expected some sort of time wasting fee.

Needless to say he didn't pay. Even though he called me the next day saying he would stop by with half the cash. I even gave him the option of a gift card or Paypal.

So what happens when a guy wastes a girl's time? Shouldn't she get something out of it? Or is it ok since the guy with the cash makes the rule?

[theotherguy1]

Originally Posted by Danielle Reid

I had a guy get through screening set up a date and show up a few minutes late. This forced to me to push back a date I after after him (the 2nd date canceled because I pushed him back and he was pressed for time). I had two more calls but I denied them because the guy showed up ready to play.

Well when he walked into my room he started with some small talk, asked me about my day and how I was enjoying NWA. Then when I asked "so do you want to sit with me on the bed?" He said I wasn't the girl he thought I was and bolted. I missed out on 3 dates for this guy so of course I expected some sort of time wasting fee.

Needless to say he didn't pay. Even though he called me the next day saying he would stop by with half the cash. I even gave him the option of a gift card or Paypal.

So what happens when a guy wastes a girl's time? Shouldn't she get something out of it? Or is it ok since the guy with the cash makes the rule?

I think she should unless it is like a bait and switch, but I believe you let it all hang out so they should not be surprised or disappointed when they show up. I have had to cancel appointments at the last minute and I think the lady should be compensated for that unless my son gets sick then fuck you.

[Danielle Reid]

Originally Posted by theotherguy1

I think she should unless it is like a bait and switch, but I believe you let it all hang out so they should not be surprised or disappointed when they show up. I have had to cancel appointments at the last minute and I think the lady should be compensated for that unless my son gets sick then fuck you.

Some excuses are good excuses. Showing up at my room and claiming I'm not the girl in the photos (even though most people here and on BP have seen what I look like inside and out in photos and videos) is NOT a good excuse.

I also had a guy run out on me because he saw a cop car parked outside in the parking lot of the hotel. Turns out the cop was there because he got a call about drunk people that partied too hard. He was in uniform and wasn't trying to be secretive. He was in no way worried about my ass at all.

Had a guy tell me he got pulled over for speeding and couldn't make the appointment.

Another say he rear ended someone and had to make an insurance claim. He should've been rear ending me...it would've been less expensive and less painful

Another guy in Little Rock showed up a hour late because he couldn't find my room. The hotel was only 2 floors

There are good excuses like illness in the family...then there are shitty excuses like "my car suddenly exploded".

Paranoia isn't a good excuse in my book. I'm paranoid every time I get a call. I just hide it when I get in the man's room/house, but my guard is up 100%. I've dealt with guys that are paranoid. If I mention sex first they think I'm a cop. If I give them the room number before they confirm they are at the hotel they think I'm a cop. If they see a white charger in the parking lot they think I'm setting them up.

Paranoia ruins good things. We could have the time of our lives in only 60 minutes but now your dick is broken because I sneezed wrong

[nwaarguy]

I have seen two providers in this thread payed their rate left happy dose it always happen this way????? yes if you screen i never have been paranoid on who meet here i'm just saying.

gingerdoll the perfect milf and a sweet person

danielle the hot porn star that calmed my nervous ass.

see in a fantasy world we can get what we want.

[Danielle Reid]

Originally Posted by nwaarguy

I have seen two providers in this thread payed their rate left happy dose it always happen this way????? yes if you screen i never have been paranoid on who meet here i'm just saying.

gingerdoll the perfect milf and a sweet person

danielle the hot porn star that calmed my nervous ass.

see in a fantasy world we can get what we want.

Once we got passed the nerves we had fun

[watchoutthegameisrigged]

Well, my ride did not exactly explode - but the serpantine belt that runs the battery charger, power steering, water pump and whatever else did - and I was on my way and within a few minutes of a hobby appointment. I wrestled it off the interstate (any one who has had their power steering fail knows what I'm talking about) into a safe parking lot, looked at my pegged temp gauge and shut it down. That was a text I absolutely hated to send to the lady but I had other issues to deal with and no way to get to her anyway. Shit happens.

[nwaarguy]

Originally Posted by Danielle Reid

Once we got passed the nerves we had fun

To true all on me i never though in my little fantasy world. I would see a pornstar. 18 year old me would be jealous for sure.

[theotherguy1]

I have this question for you. A provider came into town for the first time. I picked up at the train station because she asked me to. We had an appointment and I was about to leave she said that she had not eating and since I knew my way around town would I take her to get something. I did and I paid for the meal. We got back to the hotel and she wanted me to pay her for her time eating dinner with me. Now I did pay for the appointment time, but not for the time where I picked her up or took her to dinner. I believe that if I had asked her to go to dinner with me then that would have continued the date. Was I wrong or right?

[Lonesome]

Originally Posted by theotherguy1

I have this question for you. A provider came into town for the first time. I picked up at the train station because she asked me to. We had an appointment and I was about to leave she said that she had not eating and since I knew my way around town would I take her to get something. I did and I paid for the meal. We got back to the hotel and she wanted me to pay her for her time eating dinner with me. Now I did pay for the appointment time, but not for the time where I picked her up or took her to dinner. I believe that if I had asked her to go to dinner with me then that would have continued the date. Was I wrong or right?

You were right. It was nice of you to pay for the meal since she invited you.

[watchoutthegameisrigged]

Hell no, you were right. She asked you to take her to get something to eat. You did and paid for it. No way in hell you should pay for that time. I had a similar situation a little over a year ago. I had a session with a lady that had flown in. After, she asked me if there was a drugstore around and said she would take a cab. There was a drugstore close so I took her there (it was fairly late). She told me when we got there that I could just drop her off and she'd get a cab home. I'm not going to drop a lady off in a town she does not know after dark. So I waited for her and drove her back to the hotel. No big deal - but if she had asked me to pay for that time I would have said hell no and been royally pissed. I don't see much difference between what you did and I did, other than the price of a meal.

[MrGiz]

Originally Posted by Danielle Reid

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