Regular Clients Part Deux

[Jake B]

It sounds like you're in a relationship. Think outside the hobby and do as a regular person would do. Talk about it. Communicate. If that doesn't work then you are really just $$ to her.

Don't mean to sound cold but sometimes that is how medicine is best served.

[Prime Time]

Nothing like saving tons of time and money.

[Alyssa Marie]

Originally Posted by L.A.

Any anytime somebody starts off with "I don't mean to be rude" you can be pretty sure the rest of what they have to say will be just that.

Whatever...I'm already in a bad mood and you're not helping.

Either that or they are trying to truthful while trying to keep in mind that the person they are speaking with is upset.
I think Jake said it best.
Sorry that you wrote about a problem that you had and didn't get the reply that you were hoping for? Or maybe this is the reply that you're hoping for? I wouldn't want to speak for you....
But you came to a public message board with an issue, so I'm not sure what you expect to hear.
I wished you a good weekend and etc, but that doesn't matter.

[modus]

I think you've been pretty good advice. Talk it over with your provider.

She'll either take care of you, act like nothing has changed, or blow you off. At least you'll know when you stand with her.

[Jewish Lawyer]

Originally Posted by L.A.

Last December I posted a thread about regular clients.
http://www.eccie.net/showpost.php?p=...88&postcount=1

Basic points of that thread were were:

Some of the benefits of being considered a regular as they pertain to me:
1. Screening is done
2. Multiple contact methods makes it easy to reach each other.
3. Comfort level...she knows exactly what I like!
4. Preferential scheduling. Maybe it's wrong and maybe not but it's hard to blame a provider for this.
5. Locked in discounted rates.


Today my issue is as a regular client you are taken for granted. Right now I'm butthurt and yes I need tissue but I'm going to vent anyway.

I know in my own life that if I had a guaranteed monthly source of income of around 275 coming in that it would be noticeable to lose that.
So I've been seeing basically the same provider for almost a year. I love our sessions and typically everything is what I'm looking for. There have been a few bumps in the road but nothing crazy. Mainly oversleeping but she's young and likes to go out and I like early weekend appointments so I've come to expect that and can deal with it.

I was going to go into some specifics of a few things that have happened all very recently that have really bothered me but I'll just be a little more general.
In no way shape or form is it cool to cut my session short on time. Roommates should not be scheduling appointments back to back.
This was a first and I can't even describe how "hobby" upset I am. I never would have expected it from her and today I felt like just another wallet coming in. Get him to finish and get him out!

I am in the hobby for a couple of reasons. It's rare but when I leave a session disappointed I have to question what the hell am I even doing this for if I'm not even enjoying it and I leave a session feeling worse than before. I get that there is a risk of a bad session with somebody I've never seen before but not with an ATF...that should NEVER happen.

I really don't want to stop seeing her and maybe I'm risking it by posting all of this. After today it doesn't seem like I'm valued as a client anyway. She rushed her regular client of about a year out the door so her roommate could take an appointment. Not cool.

Ok...so the moral of my story is when you have a good thing going (both providers and clients) don't take it for granted! Each session could be the last.

If you have been seeing her for a year, and until this time you were quite pleased, you should consider yourself quite fortunate. From my point of view, she has only made one minor mistake. Are you sure there isn't something more? I not saying your feelings aren't valid, but if I got rushed out the door once or twice a year and everything else was good, I wouldn't be too concerned. It is probably a little stressful for the girls to deal with everyone coming and going, and making everything perfect all the time is impossible.

[Guest112814]

Interesting post that could spawn many sub topics.

I want nothing more than to have one or two ladies that are the only ones I see. However that seems to be very difficult - JL makes a great point that the more often you see someone the more difficult it is for everything to be perfect every time. My experience has been the more I see someone the quality of those visits goes down quickly. I have one ATF here and to not ruin it I try to limit visits with her to once every two or three months.

I can't judge if Op did or didn't do the right thing, we all have a breaking point and it's for each of us to decide. I don't want to feel taken advantage of and for $275 a month like he's saying my limit would be very short on bad experiences. Most of us won't go back to a restaurant after one or two bad meals and seems the logic here should be the same.

[Guest100514]

Originally Posted by Jewish Lawyer

It is probably a little stressful for the girls to deal with everyone coming and going, and making everything perfect all the time is impossible.

So very true JL. But I think that L.A. has a very valid point here. Correct me if I am wrong but was she late to the appointment as well as cutting it short?
Either way, regular or not, if you paid for the hour, you should get no less than the hour. It is a big pet peeve of mine when providers do not give a client the full time they paid for. I have heard of and seen providers cutting clients time short, putting the clock 10-15 mins fast, etc. It bothers me because I feel like at some point the client becomes jaded and feels that all providers do it. I have had people text me and say "I want the full hour, nothing less" because that have had it happen so many times.
I do not even have a clock in the room. I would rather be focused on each other than have either of us watching the clock. If one of us needs to be somewhere at an exact time, we can set an alarm. I just don't feel that it is right for you to get any less time than you paid for.

[L.A.]

Originally Posted by Jewish Lawyer

If you have been seeing her for a year, and until this time you were quite pleased, you should consider yourself quite fortunate. From my point of view, she has only made one minor mistake. Are you sure there isn't something more? I not saying your feelings aren't valid, but if I got rushed out the door once or twice a year and everything else was good, I wouldn't be too concerned. It is probably a little stressful for the girls to deal with everyone coming and going, and making everything perfect all the time is impossible.

There have been a couple of bumps along the way but nothing too much. Just the basic hobby/client stuff everybody has come to expect. I wouldn't go to far as to say there has only been this one minor mistake and I'm also not sure I would consider this just a minor mistake. Up until she got a roommate everything was going much better. Since the roommate there have been 4 separate incidences that have not occurred before. I don't think my provider is high volume but I think her new roommate might be.

Originally Posted by EasyLover214

My experience has been the more I see someone the quality of those visits goes down quickly. I have one ATF here and to not ruin it I try to limit visits with her to once every two or three months.

In my case I don't think the quality of our visits has diminished but I do believe that some of the things that have happened would not have happened if we did not see each other every 2 or 3 weeks.. I think my original intent (other than to vent) was the taking each other for granted. I'll put it this way....there is no way that event would have happened on a first or second visit to somebody who regularily participates on this board. I've seen her like 14 times and unless I'm ready to burn that bridge she knows I wouldn't write a bad review of her.
Limiting my visits to once every two or three months would keep things fresh but not sure I can do it!

Originally Posted by Jillian Price

So very true JL. But I think that L.A. has a very valid point here. Correct me if I am wrong but was she late to the appointment as well as cutting it short?
Either way, regular or not, if you paid for the hour, you should get no less than the hour. It is a big pet peeve of mine when providers do not give a client the full time they paid for. I have heard of and seen providers cutting clients time short, putting the clock 10-15 mins fast, etc. It bothers me because I feel like at some point the client becomes jaded and feels that all providers do it. I have had people text me and say "I want the full hour, nothing less" because that have had it happen so many times.
I do not even have a clock in the room. I would rather be focused on each other than have either of us watching the clock. If one of us needs to be somewhere at an exact time, we can set an alarm. I just don't feel that it is right for you to get any less time than you paid for.

Our appointment times have always been pretty fluid. "Are you available around 2 tomorrow?" So I'll get there around 2. It has never been a problem until she got a roommate.
Typically it's a go with the flow thing and more than likely my appointments have been more like 45-50 minutes but that's just how they worked out. I'm sure we may have gone over for a few minutes other times. I've never felt rushed and have never left feeling like I did yesterday. Yesterday was an isolated incident with the short time but it really bothered me. Again there is no way that would have happened on a first or second visit so why did it happen on a 15th visit?
I do like your approach of going with the flow. I'm sure you'll get some that will try to take advantage of that too.

[str8.2.bbbj]

I think some of y'all take this shit waaaaaaaaay too seriously. IJS, we're buying pussy. That's the long and the short if it.

These chicks have a lot going on. If you're one of her regulars, do you think you're the ONLY regular she has?

I'm trying to figure out what happened to meeting a chick that you like, spending some money, having a great time, and then hitting the road. A lot of you Mofos wanna "wife up" these chicks on the cool and it really makes you look raggedy and thirsty as hell.

[L.A.]

Originally Posted by str8.2.bbbj

I think some of y'all take this shit waaaaaaaaay too seriously. IJS, we're buying pussy. That's the long and the short if it.

These chicks have a lot going on. If you're one of her regulars, do you think you're the ONLY regular she has?

I'm trying to figure out what happened to meeting a chick that you like, spending some money, having a great time, and then hitting the road. A lot of you Mofos wanna "wife up" these chicks on the cool and it really makes you look raggedy and thirsty as hell.

You're buying pussy...I'm buying an hour of time.

I don't really understand "wife up" "on the cool" "raggedy and thirsty"
I'm not as hip as you obviously.

You are free to have your expectations of a regular hobby relationship and I'm free to have mine (assuming somebody would see you on a regular basis).

[Alyssa Marie]

^^ pretty much.
Sometimes guys say that us girls have no clue, but we do. We all have things that we like that we spend money and time on. Mine is concerts.
I have seen my favorite band way more than 14 times..
One tour they canceled a date I had planned to go to due to lack of ticket sales. I just went straight to Las Vegas instead.
One tour was canceled, the whole thing, because they just don't have a big draw in America. That was annoying, but we just planned a different summer vaca.
I went to Australia for vacation and part of that vacation was to go see a huge musical festival that my favorite band was playing. I saw that festival in two cities and then I saw my favorite band play a side show in one city, but saw something else on a day that they played, but I just didn't want to "over do" it.
One tour was a co-headlining. I was bummed when one I went to they were playing first, but it's ok...

Life is about having a balance. I have many other things that make my life happy besides going to see my favorite band.

That being said, if I kept buying tickets and they kept canceling... Or I kept buying tickets and they didn't preform like I had wanted.. I would probably rethink buying tickets next time they came through town.. Or planning a trip around it.

I know it can be frustrating when you pay for something and aren't getting what you hoped in return, but if that's the case.. Remember, when you are the consumer you have the power to stop consuming.

If it's something that you can talk about, "excuse me, but my steak is well and I asked for medium-rare" then do it. Have the kitchen fix it. If they don't offer to fix it, or they don't fix it right.. Check out another steak house. If they fix it, enjoy that steak and there you go.

[Hercules]

Find another regular provider. Might take time but the search is fun.

[FunInDFW]

Originally Posted by str8.2.bbbj

I think some of y'all take this shit waaaaaaaaay too seriously. IJS, we're buying pussy. That's the long and the short if it.

These chicks have a lot going on. If you're one of her regulars, do you think you're the ONLY regular she has?

I'm trying to figure out what happened to meeting a chick that you like, spending some money, having a great time, and then hitting the road. A lot of you Mofos wanna "wife up" these chicks on the cool and it really makes you look raggedy and thirsty as hell.

Damn that's funny. You know what gives the thirst, all that salt.

[Chung Tran]

[QUOTE=Alyssa Marie;1055326392
I have seen my favorite band way more than 14 times..

Life is about having a balance. I have many other things that make my life happy besides going to see my favorite band.

[/QUOTE]

I gotta know.. who is this favorite band of yours?

[Alyssa Marie]

Originally Posted by Chung Tran

I gotta know.. who is this favorite band of yours?

Katy Perry! I kid, I kid.. I do love me some Katy Perry, but..