I think there have been some great points made in the previous post, but to be honest I had to go back a read the original post a couple of times to make sure I understood the purpose of the post.
I broke the post into 3 general statements in hopes to streamline the comments.
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Originally Posted by Gucci
1. I've noticed lately that a lot of people are making posts about falling for and dating...
2. I think some people confuse the girlfriend experience with an actual girlfriend.
3. There is nothing wrong with picking up a " friend " here and there but to go at these situations and fall in love . . . . . . Nah !
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I didn’t include the eHarmony comment. I dismissed this as hyperbole. I don’t think they were suggesting that anyone joins the site or enters the hobby with the intention of finding a girlfriend or a relationship. I also removed statement
I know what it is and what I'm here for, this is highly subjective and personal for the OP. (Everyone experience & reason will be unique).
Point 1: I really have not noticed the increase in post about falling for or dating, but I mainly stay in the local section.
I interpreted this statement mainly as a way to introduce a topic that others have been discussing lately and not as a commentary suggesting this phenomenon is occurring more frequently than it has in the past. As long as this has been a profession relationships have formed as a result of these encounters.
Point 2: Yes, absolutely! This isn’t a new phenomenon. The lines can get blurry in this hobby and a sense of connection with another person can occur.
Point 3: This is a little unclear to me. Did you intent for this statement to mean:
A. You understand that friendships can occur but you will never let it go any further (O.K. – Good for You.)
B. In your opinion no one should let things go beyond a friendship, because in the long run these relationships have a small probability success (O.K. – I get it, sure there will be exceptions to this, but as a general belief I would tend to agree)
What was the intent of the Post?Was this posted so the OP could share their personal observation and judgment or did they intend to have other’s participate in some form of discussion on a topic?
OK – So here comes a post hijack! If the intent was to generate a discussion around a topic then the two topics I think would be the most interesting would be:
1. How have the lines been blurred for you in the past? Did you recognize that the lines were becoming blurred? Did you care? Did you do anything about it? Did you find a way to resolve the issue, etc.
2. Did you ever have things move into what could be considered a serious relationship? What your story? How long did it take for things to move into a relationship? Unfortunately, by the very nature of this topic it’s going to be biased towards short term relationships and failures. After all to a certain extent those that are in a successful relationship are more likely to have a lower participation rate on this site.
