[QUOTE=SexyPlatinum;1057119124]Look I had someone tried to tell me either I have a date with him and spend all night or he will never talk to me again. I will not do something I don't want to do.
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Hi SP,
I would agree with every reasonable person here that "you have the absolute right to choose what, where, when and how you have sessions; and what services you do or don't offer".
But, I'm just curious, because of the way you formatted your opening statement - quoted above... You are writing this because your upset (fairly obvious), but also maybe because you feel that "(the guy) should still see you - but not for overnights" (and you're trying to say that he's a problem because he gave you an ultimatum)?
Because, every "line in the sand" EVERYBODY makes, is (more or less) an ultimatum - isn't it? I mean (and not trying to be offensive... really) your saying "I only want texts" is also (I mean - if you look at it) "an ultimatum"... "Text me, or I won't interact with you"... that's an ultimatum.
So, the reply to an ultimatum is simple - compliance or refusal, right? And the consequences of the decision are clear too (that's what makes it an "ultimatum")
lol... all that for this question: So what's the big deal? "Stay all night, or I won't see you!"
Isn't the answer just "OK, then I won't see you too - have a great life, bye"?
Because it sounds like you're trying to say "(He) shouldn't have a choice to say what (he) says (setting a line in the sand); but you (with your texts statements) do"...
Are (and again, this is just a discussion - for fun. No disrespect meant) you are pissed off that you're loosing a client (you maybe like); and you want to maintain control and still see him (for fun or $, whatever your motive) - but you're upset for him now asking for something you can't offer... and you're the one trying to force him (another ultimatum) to comply with you (but not have the option of him, leaving).
It just sounds like there's more too this and you're presenting it (as everyone can only do) from just your perspective (to make a point).