When to stop seeing a provider

[homer13]

Originally Posted by Absolutely

Okay but were talking about she's NEVER EVEN seen this guy before! He tried to see her with no luck months ago! She kept his email address and phone number and and solicited him for the second time! He asked her to stop again she said she take note again! Some people just never learn! Stop means stop and no means no! It pisses me off ...her bullshit affects my client during my session!

Sounds like her "handler" is fishing for business. Keeping info and reaching out, hmmmmm sounds familiar.

[txAustin202]

Really funny that you posted this Reincarnated. I don't have any advice for you but I can tell you that I can relate. As a matter of fact I made up my mind to stop seeing a particular lady and told her so tonight. I don't know if I'll have the resolve to go through with it but it's a start. I also told myself that a client/provider should only have fun bcd and that's it. Don't know if I truly believe that but that's my current story. I was working out when I made this decision so I was full of adrenaline so who knows. Tomorrow when the adrenaline wears off I might return to being the big ole sap again. Anyways just wanted to say I feel your pain. Sorry I don't have any advice.

[Laney1]

Yes, we know. You workout.


(Just teasing you)


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[guest020313]

Originally Posted by homer13

Sounds like her "handler" is fishing for business. Keeping info and reaching out, hmmmmm sounds familiar.

Familiar? Yes! Well she started on a bad foot with bad reviews! Either she's not independent and has a pimp or mar** didn't teach her right! Either way she needs to learn her keeping records is dangerous To her as well as the hobbyist!

[Whispers]

If you keep "finding" those kind of relationships with providers I think you need to re-evaluate what it is you are looking for because of all the potential P4P I think it is the wrong group of girls to be falling for.

I used to do a lot of overnights and weekends and if I was in between mistresses there were a few providers that I let get too close.

I experienced that a couple of times and adopted a 5 meet limit which was actually more of a monetary limit. When I was spending more in a month to see a Provider than I would spend to keep a Mistress I just figured I was overspending for the experience.

You should take a look at adapting yourself to the SB/Mistress experiences. They can last years as well as develop into a real relationship at times.

[Reincarnated]

Your probably right Whispers...

I am pleasantly surprised about all the good advice here. Keep it coming..

[homer13]

Originally Posted by Whispers

If you keep "finding" those kind of relationships with providers I think you need to re-evaluate what it is you are looking for because of all the potential P4P I think it is the wrong group of girls to be falling for.

I used to do a lot of overnights and weekends and if I was in between mistresses there were a few providers that I let get too close.

I experienced that a couple of times and adopted a 5 meet limit which was actually more of a monetary limit. When I was spending more in a month to see a Provider than I would spend to keep a Mistress I just figured I was overspending for the experience.

You should take a look at adapting yourself to the SB/Mistress experiences. They can last years as well as develop into a real relationship at times.

I didn't think of that but it's great advice. As you pointed out you seem to have many long term provider relationships so a SB thing would be cheaper and give you more of the intimate relationship you want. Shouldn't be to hard to find the right lady since as you mentioned you have fallen for a few of them. The only possible down side is if you don't see a provider at least once or twice a week this will be more of a commitment as you will probably see her at least 4 times a month and maybe even more.

[chipsandsalsa]

I see very little difference in falling in love with a provider or a sugar baby...

If you have been in this hobby for a while, as you have, Reincarnated, you will run across the provider that you meet and things just really click for the both of you...instant attraction...

And you begin to see each other regularly, and the chances of one day you both turn to look at each other laying there on your pillows, and you both blurt out " I love you" at the same time..

It happens every day.

You can fall into the same pitfalls in a sugar baby relationship just as easily; one SB relationship lasted two years; we saw each other once a week; we parted ways, yet to this day remain great friends.

The next SB relationship lasted six months; we clicked, both fell in love, realized it would not work, and parted best friends also.

Look deep down and decide what works best for you; research the SB forum on the national page; excellent information there.

Some of us are just geared to fall in love; absolutely nothing wrong with that.

I am a much richer person for meeting a lot of lovely ladies in this hobby; so go out there and keep meeting and greeting.

[Sir Hardin Thicke]

I guess I'm the odd man out as my former ATF decided to retire and the one I was hoping would be my new ATF won't even return my emails. So there ya go...

[rockerrick]

I find that the term ATF is thrown out by newbies and the obsessed !

[txAustin202]

I'm with DH. These girls get paid to lie to you. She's secretly throwing up in her mouth while telling you sweet nothings. It's not worth it to treat these "ladies" like ladies. These "ladies" aren't worth the pain. So my advice is to not even go there.

[homer13]

Originally Posted by txAustin202

I'm with DH. These girls get paid to lie to you. She's secretly throwing up in her mouth while telling you sweet nothings. It's not worth it to treat these "ladies" like ladies. These "ladies" aren't worth the pain. So my advice is to not even go there.

that's a little harsh. Their job is to give you a great time and make you feel special. Some do a great job at it and even enjoy themselves while doing it. While I wouldn't fall into a trap with any of them it doesn't mean I won't enjoy the experience and maybe even repeat with a special few. Does that mean they are lying to you? Would you consider the lady who cuts your hair and says nice things a lyer or anyone else in sales or service who bends the truth to make you feel better. It's their job, the problem lies in the gents who take any compliment to mean more then it is and fall. Unless the lady tells you they love you the fault really lies in the guys who are always trying to cross the line and see more then there is. It's true this is p4p and the same stuff they say to you they say to everyone after all who's gonna get a good review and build up a steady line of clients telling gents the truth and nothing but the truth. After all we are all their to hear and feel what we want to feel, the truth is what got us to see providers after all.

[purtybaby]

I threw up in my mouth while reading that post

[Laney1]

It's very difficult when you naturally wear your heart on your sleeve. You tend to lose it sometimes. I did once (or twice). I'm only human after all. I have no regrets and very fond memories. A little bruised, but then again...aren't we all.


Edit: Wow, I guess the adrenalin wore off.


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[chipsandsalsa]

Originally Posted by txAustin202

I'm with DH. These girls get paid to lie to you. She's secretly throwing up in her mouth while telling you sweet nothings. It's not worth it to treat these "ladies" like ladies. These "ladies" aren't worth the pain. So my advice is to not even go there.

Man, thats got to be the all time self-alert to all the "ladies" as you say, on this board. Not worth it to treat these ladies like ladies?

If your advice is to "not even go there", then why are you even on this board?

I have to agree with Purtybaby: I think alot of ladies just threw up in their mouths at your comment.