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Originally Posted by AngelOK
...you just have to remember that cases like this are nearly always caused by reaction formation. He is obsessed with escorts and can't quit looking at our pictures, so he tries to exorcise the thoughts by attacking us as "sinners" and "Jezebels".
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Angel, you
NAILED IT!
I remember one Sunday evening, in the early 1990's, when I took the wife and kids to dinner at one of our favorite restaurants in the small Southwest Ohio town where we were then living.
We were met by one of our "regular" waitresses -- a blonde, freckled, fresh-faced, cheerleader-next-door type, who that evening was wearing a tight tee shirt, short shorts, and gym shoes. She had an athletic figure and looked mighty fine, except for one thing: her eyes were red and swollen.
My wife asked what was the matter.
Still choking back tears, the young woman related that one of the local ministers, who'd been dining there, had just left -- having verbally attacked her as a "whore" because of her attire.
My immediate thought: He couldn't handle his guilt over a normal reaction to an attractive young woman. So he made it
her fault that he felt lust and guilt!