I’m asking provider out on date (would love provider input)

[oilman12]

Smh...

[MJ9880]

Originally Posted by B Three

Well, that’s not always true, but it’s hard to know based on short sessions that are based on fantasy. There might be more. It’s happened before successfully, but the OP’s situation is a very long shot.

I Think I might have said it somewhat vague, but the sessions are usually fr 2-3 hours and they tend to go over 30 mins, and she’s never once voiced any issue with it even when I’ve tried to compensate her for the time. Usually goes over due to us talking, which is how the majority of our meetings have been going. I’m planning on stopping the hobby soon, just felt like it was worth a shot considering that we both seem to genuinely enjoy each other’s company as well as there feeling a connection( which again I’m not oblivious to the fact that I pay her to make me feel wanted.)

[Guest083119]

Thanks for the clarification. It could still go either way. She may really like your company but not want to date you otc. She might be totally into you. You don’t want to ruin a good thing by misjudging. Do you all spend time out in the real world? Know each other’s names, etc.?

One way you could feel it out is this...after you’ve paid her, mention you’re going to grab a drink or something to eat. Tell her she’s more than welcome to join you. You won’t necessarily get a definitive answer because she might not be available, but you might get a feel for if she seems open.

Also, be totally honest with yourself. Do you seem like someone she’d date in the real world?

[Kickrocks]

Originally Posted by B Three

Try taking her out in some paid longer dates and see how that goes first. Then try an overnight or short trip. If you’re only seeing her for 30-60 min, you dont really know her. If all goes well, then see what happens.

Originally Posted by TheGentleman56

The only thing I'm going to say.. If you want to take her on a date and lets say you want 2 hours of her time... Pay her 2 hour rate.

Originally Posted by LustyBustyGina38FF

Right thing to do....

Originally Posted by jonrbbc

Don't do it. Providers don't care about you. They just want your money.

Bingo!

[Oldrogue]

OP, I think you're in for an emotional roller coaster ride. Friend of mine did something similar and I think he regrets it.

Read the sticky "So you want to date a stripper" here: https://eccie.net/showthread.php?t=103181. Probably at least some of the points will be valid for your situation.

[Max_Tubing_Pressure]

OP....I feel for you dude.

Every man goes through the ONE-itus fever, at least once in his life. Some, more than once.

Good luck with that! You are going to need that to pick yourself off the ground when you are in pieces.

[mochamagicman2]

OP you're probably chasing a "daydream phantom" (google the term... came from a book I read a long time ago) which is always better than the real thing. Providers that you have chemistry with are great because both parties are getting what they want out of the relationship. As soon as you get serious... you both will have to make compromises to keep each other happy... that's when shit goes down hill (sometimes fast, sometimes slow...).

[xevious1]

Been seeing a provider for 8 yrs now. Know her real name, kids, family and all the shit that hit the fan during all that time. Even rescued her 3 times from eviction and help her out when she is penniless or her car quits on her.

All that said, she keeps doing the same foolish mistakes because she enjoys her freedom.

All I’m saying, don’t expect much and you will be fine. The second you try to get more or change her it will not be good for your own interest.

Just enjoy her companionship and don’t get tangled in something complex.

[VitaMan]

Fortunately, or unfortunately, a provider soon learns this is easy money. Most have an impossible time adjusting to the real world, with less freedom, stricter schedules. daily requirements. They have a hard time holding a real job.....hence they tend to get evicted when all they do is provide, and run into dry spells.


The above poster nailed the life of a provider. They keep making the same foolish mistakes....because this is easy with freedom (but not regular).


If you pursue this, odds are great you will become the regular source of money.

[pxmcc]

OP, i hate to say this, but here's what's up. if she'll fuck you off the clock and hang with you off the clock, she's into you. if not, it's all about the benjamins.

i know that the hobby n RW can get conflated. i had one utr-a perfect 10-who told me straight up that if i asked her to settle down, she'd say yes. another who told me she had a crush on me. and another whom i knew had a crush on me. and another whom i'm still seeing who is complicated, like your relationship.

people meeting on p411 are settling down frequently, so can happen.

just remember what i said..

[DEAR_JOHN]

Originally Posted by MJ9880

So I’m aware there’s about a million of these, but I wanna really illustrate the whole situation clearly. Ive been meeting a provider for a while now, and long story short I want to ask her out on a proper date and really start getting to know each other.
For starters, and most importantly, I’m not under any delusions of what it is she does for a living, nor am I unaware of how our relationship to one another started. I’m not looking to “save” her from what she does, in fact it’s something I’m quite secure about. And I’m not looking to wife her up or even anything serious.
I understand that, especially w GFE girls, it can almost be impossible to differentiate between a provider expressing real interest in you if she’s just really good at what she does (usually the latter.) my perspective on our situation is a bit different. Conversation is wonderful, we have a ton of important things in common, and our meetings seem to go over 30 mins, sometimes an hour without any complaint. What really gets me is that she’s adamant about no contact that isn’t related to setting up meetings, but the two of us keep in contact w each other frequently texting without any mention of scheduling meetings.
Sorry this is so long, but I just wanna hear some folks opinions my wanting to take this relationship outside the hobby. Again I’m not trying to get her to quit and it’s not some scheme to win free sex, just my want to take her out on a date and see where it goes from there, I plan on treating her like a human as I have from the beginning. Would love to hear provider input on how I should go about this, or even if I should haha. Thank you if you read this whole thing

You're already in over your head and you need to find another hobby. I see heartbreak and emotional toiling in your future.


I've been doing this hobby stuff since 1999 (on hiatus since 2007) and I've read this same old same countless times and in only 1 instance, that I know of, has anything good happened where both got out of the hobby and have lived a good life together.


Take up bowling, golf......get you a gun and visit the range, buy a fast car and get into modding the car, etc. You don't seem to be emotionally equipped for this hobby.

[MJ9880]

Originally Posted by B Three

Also, be totally honest with yourself. Do you seem like someone she’d date in the real world?

That's really the only reason I'm thinking about asking her. I really didn't intend on trying to build a relationship with a provider, but I feel like this is something I want to at least try I just don't really know how to go about that. Even if it means just being friends, I'm not trying to marry anybody.

Originally Posted by VitaMan

Most have an impossible time adjusting to the real world, with less freedom, stricter schedules. daily requirements. They have a hard time holding a real job.

This isn't her main source of income, she's got a full time job. I've withheld some info bc I didn't want to spread too much of her business.

Originally Posted by Max_Tubing_Pressure

Good luck with that! You are going to need that to pick yourself off the ground when you are in pieces.

thank you for the empathy

[allaboutthebbbj]

So did you join eccie just to make this post? Being this is your only post here so far its not a very good start for you. Most that have commented have given you sound advice. You should remain where you are with her. If she wanted more than just your money she wouldnt be charging you.

[PhantomofTheOpera]

OP:

As others have written, it won’t work even if she tells you she” loves” you and to “forget” the donation. I have a friend who did not listen and took a hooker at her word that she “loved” him and even went as far to ask him to move in with her. You bringing this up to her is a sure fire way to ruin a good “business” relationship. My friend regrets doing what he did as nothing good came of the situation as she turned out to be BSC, and harassed as well stalked him and his family for years even after she got married and got out of the biz.

Either lose her number or ditch your “feelings” and just pay for her time. In the long run, you will be better off finding some else to spend time with.

[Dudgeonpolymath]

Originally Posted by B Three

Try taking her out in some paid longer dates and see how that goes first. Then try an overnight or short trip. If you’re only seeing her for 30-60 min, you dont really know her. If all goes well, then see what happens.

The guy knows all the pitfalls that the rest of us guys have to advise. Best advice, I would think, is like what is quoted here. Certainly the provider and a woman’s perspective rather than all the mongruls and worthy of consideration.