Dating a provider

[tounge ring]

Thanks for all the free help! I really hope it doesn't happen again. I may be gullible but I don't believe she was after my money, I'm not a rich person she knew that. We both gave each other what we weren't getting from our SO.

[AmishGangster]

Tr none of that matters. What matters is don't do it again! If you are beginning to miss her right now go read my list over and over and over until it goes away.

If you do it again, then we will all make fun of you.

[ToriStarr]

Never a good thing. Especially if you expect her to quit and get jealous of her being with others... As others said this isn't e harmony, you remember how you met her right?
My hubby is fully aware of what I do and for the most part OK with it... He likes the $$ and no, he isn't my pimp I control all finances if I left it to him we'd get no where. Often, I've seen men and they tell me your Hubby's a lucky man hope he knows what he has and appreciates it...To which I say being the so of a provider isn't easy. He doesn't have a problem with what I'm doing, he has a problem with the time I spend doing it, something I've got to and have been trying to work on.

[Saige]

Originally Posted by amishgangster

"~ sometimes I just wanna hump certain people.... NSA!!! And I do so often! And repeatedly. Damn.... sounds like this past week!"

Saige, when you get the urge to fuck me for free, my preferred method of contact is PM. No worries, I check them often.

Dammit, where is that emoticon for holding my breath???

I don't F4F.... at least on the first date.

[AmishGangster]

Originally Posted by Saige

I don't F4F.... at least on the first date.

Exxxxxactly my point.

[Taskmaster]

Originally Posted by Saige

I don't F4F.... at least on the first date.

Second date then?

[Taskmaster]

To the original point, it is possible , but must be exceedingly difficult. As with Tori and others in that situation, it must be difficult for the married provider and her husband as well. I don't want to be the fourth guy in line seeing any provider on a given day. I sure as hell don't want to be the fourth guy in line if said provider is my wife or gf.

[Saige]

Originally Posted by Taskmaster

Second date then?

And third and fourth! Maybe fifth!....you free tonight? Lol i need good dick!

[sucrunchman]

My post is certainly a generalized one, as i'm trying to be discreet and not put out there who its actually about. It does obviously apply to many in the same situation...but i'm talking about one in particular that I know a lot about. At first i really did find it kind of funny that a guy could be so stupid/naive to believe that a girl he met like this (half his age) could really love him. He truly feels in his heart that he is in love with her. He literally gives her every single dollar of his paycheck minus what he needs for gas/food. He has borrowed from family and friends alike and has alienated himself from them. He has had the police called on him (by this girl), and yet when rent is due and she's nice to him, he comes crawling back with paycheck in hand! As I said it was funny at first, but now its just pathetic and sad. I don't want to see anyone else in this situation...because if you put yourself in that position, then that's whats going to happen to you. I have known many girls on a personal level who do this (before they were providers). ALL say and do the same things, then laugh about it behind the backs of the guys...As i said before guys, it's their job. Their job is to give you an experience...it's to make you feel like you're their boyfriend...BUT ONLY FOR THAT HOUR! If you get that part through your heads youll live a much wealthier and happier life overall. Just a little general advice for those who are open minded enough to take it. Good luck hobbying

[Guest042416]

or for 10 minutes lol

[ToriStarr]

Originally Posted by Taskmaster

To the original point, it is possible , but must be exceedingly difficult. As with Tori and others in that situation, it must be difficult for the married provider and her husband as well. I don't want to be the fourth guy in line seeing any provider on a given day. I sure as hell don't want to be the fourth guy in line if said provider is my wife or gf.

That's why I try to make sure he's the first before he leaves for work in the am lol.
Doesn't always happen though I try.
Being married and having an open relationship, swinging BEFORE I started providing is difficult and not for everyone.
I'm human I make mistakes too, I fell in "love" with a few guys early on in the open relationship before providing. Almost left hubby til I realized I was being retarded. Sure with one guy I could have had an easier life more secure financially but in the end, it's all about what you value...I valued my kids having both parents together and no body makes me laugh more than hubby-this is more important to me than anything in a relationship, I love to laugh and be stupid.
When I started providing, hubby said he was OK with it bc then it would be business nsa, keeping it business there would be no chance of developing feelings. I care about a few of the men I see regularly now as friends, but I'm a wee bit older and wiser now and know better than to go falling in "love" with anyone.

[sucrunchman]

Well said tori...same thing happened with me and an ex. She "fell in love" or thought she did anyway.

[pyramider]

Originally Posted by ToriStarr

Never a good thing. Especially if you expect her to quit and get jealous of her being with others... As others said this isn't e harmony, you remember how you met her right?
My hubby is fully aware of what I do and for the most part OK with it... He likes the $$ and no, he isn't my pimp I control all finances if I left it to him we'd get no where. Often, I've seen men and they tell me your Hubby's a lucky man hope he knows what he has and appreciates it...To which I say being the so of a provider isn't easy. He doesn't have a problem with what I'm doing, he has a problem with the time I spend doing it, something I've got to and have been trying to work on.

So do you take care of his needs? Or does he have to find another?

[ToriStarr]

Originally Posted by pyramider

So do you take care of his needs? Or does he have to find another?

I take care of him. In our open relationship he has that free pass to see other women. He did a few here n there then stopped, when I asked him about it he said he just prefers me. I need a variety of sex more than he does I think, though that isn't anything to do with his skills our sex is great, I just get off on or get a thrill from being with someone new.

[Plastic Man]

...if you date a dentist free cleanings ...date a hair dresser free cuts ...date a butcher free steaks ...date a vet free dewormings! ...sweet!