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Originally Posted by Naomi4u
Yeah it's cheaper to keep her but I don't get why one would rather stay in such relationship and be miserable for the rest of their lives. I rather be broke and happy than financially secure and miserable.
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after having the questionable pleasure of being first hand exposed to such a disastrous marriage that nevertheless lasts and lasts and will always lasts concerning all these facts, i`d say its simple:
some people are rather financially secure than happy. Plus , some are terribly afraid of being alone.
It comes with age. And if you are used to a certain lifestyle being a wife of a rich man who takes care of you, its hard to step down.
People are more flexible when they are younger.
His wife kept telling me (and others) how much easier and better i have it in my life and how hard she has it (btw: she got a family house and a great inhgeritage and would be settled financially with a divorce - versus me : i get no inheritage, have no house, had to work all my life with the expectation of creating income and not just because its "fun" ...) so its all a matter of definition. She also frequently explained on how she "needs her husband" because she is old. MHM, but .. also, i was the "whore" in all that drama, but i never charged her husband, nor did i ever NEED anyone in my life.
If you have never been really forced to work for your life and divorce is seen as a "failure" especially for a conservative woman who has nothing else except her husband to define her self worth as a woman from, it can be a bit tricky to be 50 something and start all over again.
Its easier said than done. Its easier to stick to the convenient. Too much fuzz. People are convenient, don`t underestimate that. And there are a lot of women out there totally willing to support a married man in need (for free or for money). Two months after we broke up, he had the next secret lover , same drama, same story. Just in THAT case, it was ME who told his wife :-)))) as a revenge because she thought without me her husband would be a tame dog and never do things like that, and i am the bad bad bad evil influence in his life and brainwashed her poor innocent husband :-)))) (lol)
I explained to her that escorts usually operate like that: calling innocent husbands out of the blue and convincing them to use their services :-). and then making them call them all over again and initiating a relationship and keeping it that way. (lawls)
for some "happiness" is not the ultimate goal in life.
And some people are incapable of having empathy and seing people as something else than just tools for their convenience. That is the most disturbing of some people`s marriages i have to say. The total lack of empathy and the ability to be able to do something so absolutely cruel to your partner and then .... turn around and do it again without thinking twice.
