"Dating" a Dancer or Provider….Relationships doomed for disaster?... A different view on some recent conversation......

[Whispers]

Originally Posted by alcatraz

..........How do you stop it from being weird when she wants you to come hang out while she is working... Just to see her.

Of course you wouldn't get dances from other girls. But how great is it to be there while she is giving dances to other guys. Plus she won't take your money for dances. Even though you do it just so she would be with you and not dancing on other guys?

Hypothetically speaking of course.

Right there.... You've shined a light on the fact that it's gonna bug you....

So stay away.....

My wife was a dancer adn it never bugged me until I KNEW I was in love and by then she was quitting anyway....... I've taken dancers as well as providers to parties and they mingle and mix and I might not see them for two hours and it does not bug me because a the end of the party.... or end of the night... I knew whose bed they were going to be in..... Mine....

She will dance for you for free for a couple of reasons.... A. It makes her happy to do it because she likes you...... B. It makes it look like she is getting more dances than other girls and they are all so competative..... C. She marks her territory by pissing on your leg....

You've identified with your questions that you need to work on you..... You need to give it all some serious consideration, look inwards and come to terms with it and if you do.... you'll figure it out....

When it DOES NOT BOTHER YOU then go see her.... Until then... stay out of the club and see her outside and stay off the subject of her workday....

[Chloe]

Thanks for bringing up a very realistic topic . . ..

If I dated a hobbiest I would expect him to see other providers just as he should expect me to continue providing, that's how we met, that's what we do . . .we are highly sexual beings with the desire for more . . . but expect to mix that with MORE . . .
More being REAL life situations, kids, the ex, work being involved because you are now REALLY DATING . . .fantasy moves into reality, things are not and will not be the same on both ends.

... If the man is a regular paying client that you have depended on income from, it's gone and you now have to compensate for that and therefore leaving you less time and less convenient time to meet up.

......The man feels guilty about that and still wants time trying to compensate in other ways but still feels like it's not real until he he pays nothing because she could be doing this with other guys.

.....The woman feeling like he may be faking to be HER fantasy so he doesn't have to pay anymore for her time holds on to some sort of compensation because he could be doing this with other girls. ...

TRUST is hard to work for when you walk in KNOWING ALL . . . .CLOSENESS is hard to have when you can not be open . . .it doesn't matter what the situation but THIS situation may be more complicated . . .