For the Men: What things place a provider beyond your grasp?

[charlestudor2005]

OK, this is where you get to set your boundaries. I know there are guys out there that seem to have unlimited resources with which to date. But what about those that don't? Post your boundaries here.

Here are mine:

1. It has to be an outcall. I've had too many bad experiences with NC/NS. If a lady doesn't do outcalls, then she is excluded from my list. Her outcall charge may exclude her anyway.
2. It can't be over $250 per hour for the companionship. I have limited funds with which to play, so I gotta leave it here. I realize that if an outcall makes the price go up, then the lady is excluded from my choices. I never, never ask for a discount, but keep an eye on ads to see if one exists.
3. I limit myself to 1 hr. I'm too old to have multiple pops, and there is no sense in planning a longer session. I could do half hours, but prefer the company for an hour.
4. I prefer the company of a lady that doesn't mind getting wild.

So, men, what are yours?

Ladies, review the responses and comment if you desire.

[heresy]

I agree with must be an outcall, but I don't mind paying more than $250 if I think she's worth it, but few in Arkansas are. An hour is typically about the right amount of time. If she doesn't do bbbj, she can forget it.

[Lonesome]

Charles, do you feel that a NC/NS is more likely when the lady is hosting an incall than when doing an outcall to your place? I've found the opposite to be true. I've never gone to a ladies' incall and her not answer the door, but have sat in hotel rooms waiting for her to show and never see or hear from her.

Back on topic: I think every boundary I've set in the past has eventually been violated. Lately, my opportunities have been too limited to adhere to a certain set of rules.

[MrGiz]

Originally Posted by heresy

.... I don't mind paying more than $250 if I think she's worth it, but few in Arkansas are.....

How many have you seen, to make that call? You don't have to name, names.... just wondering...

Giz

[charlestudor2005]

Originally Posted by Lonesome

Charles, do you feel that a NC/NS is more likely when the lady is hosting an incall than when doing an outcall to your place? I've found the opposite to be true. I've never gone to a ladies' incall and her not answer the door, but have sat in hotel rooms waiting for her to show and never see or hear from her.

The incident that made me adopt this rule was when I went to her hotel incall. It was a classy hotel in downtown Austin, and I hung around in the lobby calling her incessantly every 3-5 minutes for a half hour, with her not answering. I left before the armed security in the hotel started questioning me. I also blew $70 on cabs getting to and from. Ever since then I've done outcalls to my hotel. If she doesn't show, it's no skin of my nose...just a wasted blue pill!!! LOL

[MrGiz]

Originally Posted by charlestudor2005

OK, this is where you get to set your boundaries......
So, men, what are yours?
Ladies, review the responses and comment if you desire.

I appreciate a bargain as well as anyone.... but within reason, I don't set cost boundaries. I usually go for that "june se quoi" quality in a woman.... if the allure is strong enough... I simply have to scratch the itch!

Generally speaking.... I just about always seek incall girls.... unless I happen to be traveling and already have a room. I guess that shows my frugal side!

Okay.... to answer your question.... boundaries.... I guess I'd have to say it's a physical appearance thing. I have to be visually attracted to her! If not... it ain't gonna happen!

Giz

[tuckahoe]

Experience has given you a pretty good set of rules to go by. I, too, have had a lot better luck with outcalls from a reputable provider.
I generally don't go over $200. That is much more than I have ever made in an hour. I would be very appreciative of getting that much.
I alway get a one hour date, though I would prefer 2 or 3 hrs or more. I may be old by some people's standards, but I can last much longer than an hour if I have a cooperative lady. I would really prefer to spend the first hour just kissing and hugging and fondling and exchanging massages.
The woman should like to try different positions. She should enjoy a good daty session.

[Guest022210]

I think if a provider cancels less than two hours before the date they should reimburse you for the Viagra.It only seems fair.
That 250 can be a buzzkiller especially when I
save a thousand dollars every fourth time I
masturbate,and it is having sex with someone who loves me.
There are many providers who see repeat clients at a lower rate which is a great incentive for giving her repeat business.
I really don't have a lot of requirements other than that.
I am easy to please,CBJ?no problem.No GFE,I can live with that.
MSOG,yeah like that's gonna happen.
I do read reviews to find out what a ladies demeanor is.A girl who likes her work and makes me feel welcome is aces with me.I have passed the point of trying to squeeze all the positions of the Kama Sutra into an hour appointment.

[willro]

Originally Posted by MrGiz

Okay.... to answer your question.... boundaries.... I guess I'd have to say it's a physical appearance thing. I have to be visually attracted to her! If not... it ain't gonna happen!Giz

I agree with this. I don't get to hobby often, so I don't mind sometimes donating a little more than the 250 stated in the start of this thread, but I have to have that physical draw to the lady. Sadly, good attitude and good skills will not be enough for me. Men are so visually driven. That's why we always want pics first, yes?

But, I'm easy to please. I don't have many must haves. MSOG not a big deal, etc... Of course, I do expect them to be very clean (as I will be) and very welcoming.

[bluffcityguy]

When I can afford to hobby (which I can't, as I keep whining... but I do see some light at the end of the tunnel, so maybe I'll stop whining and start playing sometime in the foreseeable future)...

Ok... I'll start over. When I can afford to hobby... I find it difficult to draw a financial line, mostly because I strongly prefer more than one hour for a session, and I will just save up for a bit and then when I have a tidy little pot to spend I'll look for what provider looks like she'll provide the kind of session I'm looking for. If a provider grabs my eye but seems a little out of reach financially, I'll email or PM to get the ball rolling and let her know of my interest while I save up a little bit more so I can book her...

The kind of session I'm looking for? "The elusive GFE" (and we've been through that discussion back at the mothership before it crashed, and maybe here, and I'm not looking to re-open that discussion again; let's just say that for me, it must involve kissing. A lot of kissing, and the lady better enjoy it. Or at least be a good enough actress that she can make me believe she enjoyed every minute of it...).

Basically, I hobby because for whatever reason my love/sex life has completely cratered, and I can't seem to get a woman to want to spend time with me unless I pay for the privilege. So for 2-4 hours, I'm looking for a lady that will feed my fantasy that she finds me attractive and interesting and actually cares about me. Make me feel like your boyfriend for the time we're together, and we'll see each other again and again...

And that's pretty much it for me... The rest of the things y'all discuss in the thread... Well, physical attraction is a given (but I'm a bit quirky in what I find "attractive", and I think I can say quite confidently that there's no lady who's posted more-or-less regularly in this forum that I don't find attractive). The rest is just details; we can work it out.

Cheers,

bcg (blathering again; can you tell he doesn't want to, like, work today?)