Needing Advice

[Elko67]

Hello everyone, I have a question. I have been interested in the hobby for some time now, but I have been too busy. I would like to see a reputable provider, but it seems references are required. As i am new, how am i supposed to get a reference without being able to set up an appointment?

[Lacey Companion]

You have to go through a rather extreme screening process by a very reputable provider that should be well known in your local area. Some gents don't want to give up their personal information but us ladies have to protect our person and paper. To relieve your stress, I will say that a reputable provider cannot be reputable if she breaks discretion. Discretion is the number one rule in the hobby. So, if you see someone you trust, even if they aren't your first choice, get that referral. Expect to be screened thoroughly though. Arkansas is a hotbed of ill fate. I haven't made the most friends here but I will vouch that nobody here with several reviews written or on them is gonna violate you. Occasionally a newbie can get a well known hobbyist to screen and vouch him because sometimes it is easier to trust a man with so much personal 411. It would have to be a hobbyist with a VERY well known reputation so do your homework. Giving your 411 to a hobbyist that has only been here a year won't work. A pm, a phone call and a beer on you just may be your ticket, but be prepared to prove everything you say with HARD EVIDENCE. The ladies here won't be entertaining that method so an offer of dinner will not work. Either/or...You have to earn your trust just like everyone else AND A PHONE CALL TO VERIFY EMPLOYMENT IS JUST NOT ENOUGH IN TODAY'S TIMES (that's for everyone, not just you). Welcome! And remember, it's always best to post your questions for multiple responses. Lacey

[Lacey Companion]

You well known hobbyists may make an offer to certain ladies to help screen newbies; especially if the economy has been particularly hard on you. I would think an improper "thank you" would be in order for that service. I'd give a discount or freebie to one of my favorite clients for helping me add a wonderful newbie to my client list. Then said newbie would have 2 vouches for Gina and so on...

[gimme_that]

Just see a newbie friendly provider or a touring provider as they are usually more liberal. Try not to talk about rates and or services since you dont have any references yet. being personable isnt a bad step either. You might try booking an outcall in your name as well. Some providers verify your name that way and may find it less risky to pursue.

You maybe asked for a full name in some cases. This is totally up to you. But know that this may limit some of the choices of ladies you can see further if its their preference. After you get a reputable reference or two it wont be too much of an issue most times. But realize you may want to make that choice wisely. Things can and will happen and be prepared to deal with the information you provide and to whom.