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Originally Posted by BrookeButtons
Being a parent has to be tough with teens today. I would think you would have to be more aware of your teens life, and making sure you keep the talks with them about sex. Many schools don't offer sex ed classes, and parents shouldn't have to depend on schools, churches or other parents to teach their children about "the birds and the bees".
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We started talking to our girls when they were five in age appropriate ways. The oldest got a major jump start though. When she was five or six, I was babysitting and she was at the kitchen table where she could see me watching TV in the living room. I was watching "Wings".
I needed to take a long break in the bathroom and rather than leave it on Wings due to the potentially racy SITCOM, I flipped the channel to PBS while it was on a fund-raising break and headed to "the library".
I emerged about 10-15 minutes later, fully informed on the everything in the local newspaper, to see my daughter sitting about a foot from the TV.
PBS was airing a Human Sexuality documentary that was very scientifically correct and extremely detailed. The narrator was saying something like, "...and then the male ejaculates semen containing sperm deep into the female vagina..."
My instinct was to freak and to turn off the TV abruptly but instead, I forced myself to sit down in the chair and pretend I was reading the paper.
After the baby was born and the woman goo was wiped off so that it could be swaddled and handed to mother, the show concluded.
My daughter looked at me, pale, frightened... she asked something about the pain.
I told her that when she got older, her body would mature and that there would be pleasure too and that the body releases strong hormones to help manage the pain of child birth. I then quickly suggested she talk to her mom when she got back.
I gave my bride a quick heads up when she got home. The two went back into my daughter's room and talked for about an hour.
Our "morality" talks have focused on the idea that sex releases extremely powerful feelings and that it's best to be emotionally mature enough to handle the intensity of the emotions. We also talked about being strong and confident enough to only do what they were comfortable with and avoid being pressured into anything, in any aspect of their lives. Somewhere along the line, I'm sure they've heard me say that sex is an important aspect of life satisfaction and that we want for them to have it be something that improves their lives and happiness.
At 21 and 16, they both seem to be in control of their lives. The 21 y/o is pretty open with me. She's done some limited experimentation but is a nun compared to what I was like at her age.
I was actually trying to do some research on this last night, didn't come across this but I will have a great read today while eating some cheese and crackers.
. Guess I'll stick to covered fs. Might I just add a little tid bit...as of yet, almost embarking on a year, i have done bbbj's since day one and still have no STDS! yay party for me 
Got it. We agree for whatever that's worth.
