How to Role Play: The DominatriX

[Guest080311-2]

I usually play the SUB, THE SLAVE!! But it seems I get more people wanting me to switch roles and me to play the Dome Fem...
I have had lots of practice being a Sub..and roleplay is my speciality..
I think to myself
Do I want to bring My Sub to their knees! Do I want to leave them breathless and yearning for more! Are you ready for a night of pure, unbridled pleasure? then the answered YES to any of these questions, then it's time for you to take control of the situation and of your lover just for one night. And yes, I did say control!! Unleash my feminine powers on my sub by becoming a seXy, strapping Dominatrix!

Female dominance in most cases refers to a power eXchange in which the female assumes the dominant role, usually in BDSM activities (bondage and discipline; dominance and submission; sadism and masochism ). BDSM encompasses many activities, including - but are not limited to - forms of dominance, submission, discipline, punishment, bondage, sexual role-playing, sexual fetishism, and sadomasochism, as well as the full spectrum of mainstream personal and sexual interactions.

That all sounds good....
but I think I need a 101 class On domination Certain clothes? restraints? paddles? Masks?
I love the outfits and the role play though I have always been the submissive one.
I know when I have a master who sees me the fantasy is planned I do what they say from the time they walk through the door, The fantasy starts...from what I am wearing to there comands...
How hard is it to change roles?
Princess Laeya



When I'm good I'm very, very good, but when I'm bad, I'm better.
Mae West

[Krunkman]

Changing from the sub role to the dom role is higly dependent upon your persona, as well as the interaction with the person you are going to be playing with. Unfortunately there isn't a "one size fits all" - but that is the case pretty much with any personal interaction. Having been in the submissive role, you already have a good idea of certain characteristics in your dominants that feed your submissive needs.

As always, it's important to understand a little about the person you are going to be playing with. The things that they enjoy, the things they don't, and the things you need to stay away from. Sometimes it may seem like pulling teeth to get someone to open up about their emotional needs (especially men). However, if you can at least find out what things you need to stay away from, some careful and judicious trial and error activities will help at least define some boundaries.

I take it this is something you are interested in professionally, or personally?

[enigma878]

This isn't easy for me to answer due to the fact that many Dommes take on a role and won't share their thoughts about what occurs during a scene. No one can read a mind.

Most importantly for me as a starting point is to make sure we mesh in our areas of interest. Without having common areas to play in, it would be totally unsatisfying for both parties.

[AveryMoore]

I bet you will be a natural! Since you know what you, as a sub, want out of a scene, I'm sure you will be doing your best to give that to anyone who is submissive to you.

I'd suggest that you not get too hung up on the props and the tools if they make you feel uncomfortable. I mean, don't expect yourself to be an expert ropeswoman right away! There are some great books on every subject under the sun (ball busting, ropes, paddling, etc.) and I'm sure you will find clients and personal friends who are happy to give specific suggestions and be your guinea pig. Once you learn something new, keep honing the skills whenever you can. But with that said, I do believe it's all in the energy dynamic and usually less about the razzle-dazzle around it. I'm sure you already know that from your own experiences—the right word can matter just as much if not more than the right implement.

[RickO'shayRabbitt]

In my opinion, the props and tools are unnecessary. It is the mind where all the action is. Now I might be in the minority so take what I say for what it's worth. Because I can't think of a better way of saying it, I prefer to rolePLAY in a somewhat subservient role. What I have found--to my chagrin--is whenever I mention that I like to play D/s, the lady automatically thinks I mean whips, bondage, pain, etc.
For me there is a more sensual, erotic side I wish to explore, but for some reason can never get past the term D/s.

My point? As hard as it might be to verbalize your needs/desires, communication is muy importante. Most ladies don't want to talk ahead of time for fear of incriminating themselves (I guess). It's a slippery slope that I have quite frankly given up on.