Elena,
Again a measured response! And I wouldn't disagree that many of the girls look at how guys post before deciding to see them. But I only look at the girls because it may cost them money! I can think of a handful of girls that, on various boards, have severely hurt their income potential by alienating a lot of the guys by not taking the "higher road".
I kind of liken it to arguing with the wife. Even if I know I'm right, I have to way the cost of proving my point. I might win the battle but lose the war! Sometimes it's just better to say "Yes Dear" and move on, none the worse for it. But some people just can't let anything go. They fight every point, fight every post and, even if they may be wonderful in person, they end up giving off a truly negative persona because all the potential customer sees is post after post of negativity.
I can think of two ladies in the last week that have had no previous input onto this board and start right off jumping on someone to defend themselves. Again, they have every right to do so. But it's HOW they did so that makes you go "REALLY? OK THEN" and walk away. Someone like yourself, that has a lot of posts and a lot of interaction on many topics wouldn't necessarily give off that same feeling to most guys because we can look at the body of your contributions (or just your body!!
) and see it as part of a whole. But in these cases it IS the whole, and whole reflects badly upon them.