First, welcome back.
A: As for venturing back in, safely & discreetly. ALWAYS use *hobby* names/cell # & emails.
No matter how troublesome it may seem, to have to garner & keep track of such. It is by far your best friend. A pay as you go phone is ideal. (left tapped to the FAR back, of the inside
of the your trunk of your car when your NOT using it. (turned off of course).
B: Always always always, make sure the ladies you choose to see. Take the time to screen you. (sans asking for any real personal life info). Give them ONLY your hobby info. (yes, even make up a nick name and stick to it).If a lady see's you sans screening. Then she simply doesn't care abut safety, nor discretion. And she's more likely to have a trail of men's info somewhere. Something you want to avoid.
C: It's OKAY to see visiting ladies or utilize incall. (but again, see B). It's who you see, where you see them at (small hotels) and IF they take the time to screen you. That says a lot about themselves, and who whom they *may* be working with.
The more you feel at ease prior to meeting them. The more enjoyable your date will be, with sans of any worries of who's in the next room.
D: Did I mention NOT to use your real name? If you utilize your mobile phone for emails. Set it to delete your cookies etc. automatically upon closing browser.
And make sure the name in your phone is NOT set as your real name. (go to settings to rename your phone) to either initials or a nickname only you come up with.
And make sure ALL your email accounts in your phone are NOT set to default to your RL email.
Nor that they leave a trail of your RL name in them. (this will happen if you set your emails up with your real name)
Lastly, if you still have a spouse are ever find yourself in RW relationship while your still hobbying. NEVER change your routine. never not beg for sex, even if you just got some.
If you were begging at home for it. Keep on begging. Women are not naive.
We notice the little things about the changes in men's behaviour, lack of request for sex, sudden grooming etc.
Good luck and hobby safely & wisely.