Hobbying with diabetes

[Guest062512]

Anybody experience that "window of opportunity" phenomenon? There is a history of type 2 diabetes in my family and I wanna know what to look for (besides the normal signs). From what I understand, once ya get aroused, ya need to go ahead and release. Once you deflate, it's difficult to get it back, even if you didn't finish.

Is that somewhat accurate???

What do you do in a session if you have this? Finish the business then go to work on the lady? Only do 30 min sessions? Sorry to be so personal. If you'd rather PM me feel free.

CR

[miko44]

I have type II. I suppose it affects people differently and I know the medication is suppose to put a damper on ones drive but since exercise regularly and eat like I should I find my libido/stamina is as good if not better then when I was twenty. So no issues there. As far as signs go that I missed, was thirst. I was constantly drinking water to quench my thirst.

[hd]

I'm type 1 for about 35yrs and on a pump the past 10yrs. I think type 2 is probably more difficult to deal with, imo. But, if you're too high or too low, you can still have erections, but probably won't climax but work up a hell of a sweat trying. The hi and low sugars that at least I have at times affects the nervous system and often the only satisfaction I can get is her doing a HJ, the hand will sqweeze tighter and stimulate the nerves better than either a BBBJ or intercourse will do. And occasionally I can't finish at all, and will tell her why so she doesn't think it was her problem. But I still enjoy the sessions. I go thru the hard/soft, hard/soft cycles, but when it's soft and she starts playing with it, she gets it back on track.

I often disconnect my pump and remove the button on my body so as not to freak her out, although, most of the older ladies usually know and understand some of these health issues we have and some of them no doubt deal with their own problems. It's the young ones that don't know about alot of this, so unless I'm having trouble, I won't bring it up with a young one.

Just be aware that stress will raise your glucose, and even if you think you're fine and cool with everything, it's still there, so keep a check on yourself before and after. Carry some tablets with you, and in my case, I have a meter and syringe in the car in case I'm too high when I leave a session.

I do not have so called stress before a meeting anymore, but more of an anticipation excitement, especially when seeing someone new.

All the advice you get will be helpful, but you are different from everyone else so you have to fine tune your own routine using some of this and some of that. Only experience will get you thru it and each time you learn more about it.

Your question of "window of opportunity" ? My opportunity is there all the time as long as my glucose reading is not too hi or low, but with me, I'll take extra insulin or something sweet to adjust my count if it's out of whack and be back in limits in short time. Type 2 is dealt with differently than Type 1, so you have to know how to work with it and so you can schedule activities around it.

I have had msog in some sessions and sometimes not at all, but I always do at least an hour session to stay relaxed and not to be rushed.

Hope I've given you a little to think about, but as I said, everyone is different so you just have to work thru it as problems arise.

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[hd]

miko44 is way right about the excersize, do it and keep it in your daily activities. I'm probably in better health and fitness then if I hadn't been a diabetic. Hell, I'd probably be an alcholic.

[OldGrump]

Crossroads, you have described it about right - from my experience. Even with the pill. When the flag's up, you salute it or suffer the consequences.

All people respond differently, though.

Whether or not you have diabetes, us older guys need so scrape up the discipline to keep our weight down and exercise up. (One of those "do what I say, not what I do" things). If you have been diagnosed, find a good endocrinologist and get it under control.

There are no significant signs that type 2 has set in. If signs are experienced, it is usually the result of years of neglect and failure to get tested. Most folks who are diagnosed are surprised to find it out. The related damage occurs over time, so the sooner you find out, the better off you'll be.

Most sessions will work out fine. You'll know if this is one of those times you need to strike while the iron is hot ... er...hard. If all else fails, that doesn't take away from the extreme pleasurable feelings experienced while trying.

Take care, and good luck.


PS: Disclaimer: I am not a doctor and I have only reported my personal experiences from treatment and training as a patient. If you suspect medical issues, you should consult your physician.

PPS: I am over 18 :-)

[OldGrump]

While I was composing my post, several others got in.

hd has some excellent observations not the least of which is relaxation and not feeling rushed. If there is pressure to perform within a given time-frame, forget it.

Hang in there guys. Life is good.

[txcwby6]

One of my cousins is Type I and has been on insulin for 40+ years. He's been in and out of hospitals over the years due to highs or lows in the sugar department and has always gotten hit pretty hard whenever he catches something. He has 4 kids, 2 grandchildren and an incredibly attractive and supportive wife. Still, he's mentioned that the diabetes caught up with him about 5 years ago and he started to need "help in the bedroom" which is as much detail as he was comfortable providing. I don't know if that meant drugs like Viagra or something else, but they both seem very satisfied with their lives. They're also very church-oriented and I think both of them draw support from their faith too.

[Guest030911]

Diabetes can be managed and should be managed. If you have diabetes, I recommend seeing a endocrinologist who specializes in diabetes and offers nutritional counseling, too. My experience was that the primary docs rely on the drug reps and they just put you on the latest thing and turn you loose.

Controlling your blood sugar level is your responsibility. Just because you have meds for it does not mean you can continue to eat unhealthily and then to balance it out with insulin afterward. If you are obese, you need to get a handle on that. The side effects of diabetes are avoidable in most cases if you manage your diet and get some daily exercise.* Get that A1c into the normal range. The responsibility is yours. The doctor and the meds are just tools, not a workaround. Get educated, get some discipline, and make diabetes a non-factor in your life. Unfortunately, statistics show that the majority of us will not change their lifestyle.

Diabetes does not have to affect your sex life.


* There are exceptions. Some people do have some complicated issues regarding their diabetes and/or other conditions which make it more of a struggle than most. If you are one of those, then what I said does not apply.

If you are in Dallas and need a good endocrinologist, PM me for a name. I was diagnosed type II with an A1c of 11.7 and the meter read 595 when fasting. I lost about 60 lbs., changed what I ate and the proportions of what I ate and keep an A1c of 5.5 or less for the last 2 years. I did not cut anything out of my diet, either. I just do not eat as much of the "bad stuff" near as often or in large quantities. After 8 months, I was able to do it without any meds. I firmly believe that many others can too, but each individual case varies.

[LazurusLong]

Most endocrinologists don't live in the real world either.

An issue with many is that they tell you what to do and if you don't follow their directions to the letter, they will blame all the complications on your actions even though the strictest and most controlled studies ever done still show certain people will have issues no matter how well and tight they conform.

The endos can also put negative comments in your chart that can affect you later in life such as marking you as non-conforming or other similar terms.

As noted, it is extremely critical to keep weight off and the problem there is that the endocrine system is so intertwined that diabetes causes people to gain weight in many cases no matter how good they think they are doing so working with a dietitian is super critical and let them tailor you food likes and dislikes with a solid meal plan. Small multiple meals throughout the day is best over 2-3 large ones.

Finding a good endo is tough and then getting in to see them can be tougher. I have an ex who really wanted her daughter to see this one endo and it took forever to get in because he was in such demand.

The A1c is critical. Keeping it low as noted above really makes a difference in long term health.

The "trick" to that is to wake up with lower blood sugars so I strongly advise really watching carb intake after you have dinner and have a lower carb intake for that dinner. Long term digestion such as protein helps.

Depending on how long you've had diabetes, you might also want to discuss a kidney friendly diet because eyes and kidneys are two of the first major issues diabetes can bring up.

Being active.

If you sit in an office, park as far away from the door as possible. When you need to use the bathroom, find one on the other end of the building or better yet, 2-3 or 4 floors away and take the stairs there and back. I did that for years and it really helped me keep weight off and keep in better shape.

[Krunkman]

My experience is that YMMV. Everyone has different reactions to things. But like everyone else says, its important to manage it. You may need to use the little blue pill to help out your hobbying efforts.

As far as releasing when you feel the urge... I think that nobody can really answer that except you.

I'm on the same page as Lazarus about endocrinologists. When I saw mine he wanted to get me on insulin (i'm type 2, not 1). Cept I know a lot of people who ballooned up weight-wise when they got on insulin. I've managed mine in other ways and I don't need it. Plus I'm not a brittle diabetic, so that helps me out too.

I think you just need to experiment some and see what works best for you.

[almocsu]

Over two years ago, i was diagnosed as a type II.I learned how to manage it. I changed my eating and drinking habits drastically and now my A1C is 5.3% It is real simple= YOU ARE WHAT YOU EAT AND DRINK & INJEST INTO YOUR BODY

[Guest061111]

Find a good endocrinologist. It can be managed, but you do have to take personal responsibility. Journal.

[Captain Caveman]

I have type II diabetes. I was diagnosed back in 2005. I am under control through medication. My blood typically tests somewhere between 100-130. I am overweight and don't control my diet as well as I should.

In regards to sex I haven't seen any noticable difference. I do have a lower sex drive but I am not sure if it has to do with being on the plus side of 40 or diabetes. I suspect age has more to do with it.

[txcwby6]

There used to be some herb from Africa (Jojimbe?) that was rumored to make erections easier to achieve, made them firmer and long(er) lasting. Saw some postings about how some of the erections wouldn't go away and the men ended up in Emergency Rooms having the blood from their penis surgically drained. Damn.....talk about a tough way to give blood!

[OldGrump]

Thank you, Crossroads for starting this thread.

There is a lot of good information here. Perhaps if anyone reads it thinking they may be headed in the same direction, it will shock them into getting treatment and heading off problems before they start.

Diabetes can be treated and managed - but not cured. The worst thing you can do is waste time by ignoring it.