House: "She's faking. The Cat told Me."

[julesmilano]

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I'm very lucky to be blessed with an ability to tap into an orgasm with very little effort. But for those who have difficulty achieving an orgasm, what's so bad about faking it?

Why do women fake orgasms? Women, don't always experience orgasms with sex, sometimes due to Anorgasmia (inability to achieve an orgasm) but men may be disappointed if she doesn't have one. Faking an orgasm makes the guy feel he's done a good job as a lover, and also allows the activity to come to an end, which can be particularly useful with a partner determined to prove his manly prowess.

I may not be a great actress but I’ve become the greatest at screen orgasms. Ten seconds of heavy breathing, roll your head from side to side, simulate a slight asthma attack and die a little. - Candice Bergen

So, what about guys who fake it? Aren't men always able to have an orgasm? After all, the single most common sexual dysfunction among men is that they come too quickly, with anywhere from 10-30% of men reporting premature or rapid ejaculation in various studies. Yet not all men are alike, and some men may actually be unable to reach "The Firework Ending". Ever.

There can be a number of reasons why men may have a difficult time achieving an orgasm during intercourse. Medications, particularly the SSRI antidepressants, are the most common cause. Neurological conditions and diabetes can contribute, by decreasing genital sensation. And sometimes it's psychological.

Sometimes techniques of achieving orgasm during masturbation as a young developing man are movements unrelated to intercourse (e.g. lying prone and rubbing body against the bed) causing a man to have trouble neurologically orgasiming during normal methods of stimulation.

In either case, if you can't have an orgasm, at least faking orgasms to make your partner feel great about their sex life, and their lovemaking skills can have ego boosting psychological benefits. And who couldn't use an ego boost right now?

[JustinCase]

Originally Posted by julesmilano

I'm very lucky to be blessed with an ability to tap into an orgasm with very little effort. But for those who have difficulty achieving an orgasm, what's so bad about faking it?

Why do women fake orgasms? Women, don't always experience orgasms with sex, sometimes due to Anorgasmia (inability to achieve an orgasm) but men may be disappointed if she doesn't have one. Faking an orgasm makes the guy feel he's done a good job as a lover, and also allows the activity to come to an end, which can be particularly useful with a partner determined to prove his manly prowess.

I support the thesis of this post (Faking an orgasm makes the guy feel he's done a good job as a lover). In fact, there was a line on "Two and a half men" last week that I liked: "The size of my male ego is directly proportional to the number of times I make you cum" (or something to that effect).

However, the issue is "Can she convincingly fake it?" to which I would have to answer "No", Meg Ryan notwithstanding. Now I understand that the female orgasm can come in many flavors, some subtle, some, well, not so subtle. Speaking for myself, I need to be witness to those not so subtle Os in order for my male ego to grow. Therein lies the problem with faking these because these are fundamentally associated with uncontrollable physiological phenomena which, IMHO, cannot be faked.

As an aside, if you ever get to Denver Jules, call me.