Screening

[LgTdyBr]

When asked for referances, I also include acouple of the ladys that have decided that I am on their own personnel DNS list, and try to include why (if I know) and that they are a negative review of me. Just as YMMV with the ladys for us, YMMV for ladys with us.

Hey, I know that I am no way near a "perfect ten" and I understand that some of the ladys have standards just like we guys do, and we all can have a better time together if those standards are close.

'bear'

[pipefitter73]

Originally Posted by bladtinzu

I never balked at screening. I use date-check and p411. The only issue I would have is if they wanted employment verification. Sure I can give them a number to call but it will be either me or one of my 16 employees that answers. Does that defeat the "rules" or not?

I have both p411 and Date Check accounts, and am White Listed 6x on TER. I'm always happy to provide references too. But I own my own business and there's no way in hell I'm showing my Drivers License or letting a lady know where I work... just saying.

[lisa.lisa0302]

I have guys contacting me giving me fake info here. Whats up with that. I cant see them, so why waste each other times with fake ass info.

Originally Posted by HeatherNicole

Perhaps this has been discussed before and I missed it. The past few days have seemed like a constant replay of the same scenario. I get requests for appointments but when it comes down to screening the gent balks for some reason or another. I hear everything from I have provider references but I don't want you to contact them to they don't feel comfortable giving various info. So guys please tell me what screening you are uncomfortable with. I know this varies from person to person but is there a option providers don't commonly use that You would be more comfortable with. I am an established provider and have been for years. I don't understand why I am still having issues when it comes to screening.

And this is really a damn shame!!!! When will providers learn that there are plenty of men to go around, and that they don't have to offer deals to pussy block us. Just plain ole stupid.

Why would a provider pussy block a traveling gal. Makes me sick. They live there for crying out loud. Traveling ladies are moving on to a new town.

Sorry had to vent, its so bad when the local men have to give traveling ladies another traveling gal as a ref, because their local ladies are not team players.

Originally Posted by Fallon Kelly

Now I do understand why some gentleman don't want to give provider references. I used to look down on this and thought well they must have something up their sleeve if they don't want me to contact the other ladies.....

During the Holidays, I noticed a trend that caused me to change my screening habits. When I got references from a certain couple of ladies in a certain area, bingo the hobbyist would always last minute cancel on me with a lame excuse. (We've heard them all, trust me)

Most of my friends are coming from P411, I check a couple of "special" sites online; and I am no longer asking for provider references. What happens between me and the gents is our business. I will continue to gladly give provider references, I am a member of P411, DC, & RS2K; but I am no longer asking for provider references for discretion's sake.

I did meet with another lady who follows this same screening method and got tips from her and it's working splendidly.
I also seem to be a "Newbie Magnet" so I am pretty used to helping gents get started off in the hobby anways. Some will join P411 without hesitation and that is very helpful.

(And it wasn't the ladies in Alabama that prompted me to make this change)