Ex boyfriends has my equipment

[Guest110511]

I took my new computer that cost over $300 and my tens unit with attachments that cost over $300, my rose bud sounds that cost $75 and my new violet wand that was $150..oh and an IPhone that I let him use that go's for like 2-$300 on the market.
I took it over there so we could watch movies and play Dr. later.
The next couple of days we broke up..and now he is refusing to give me my work related equipment back.. what can I do?

I don't mind going to court~ how would I go by doing that and getting my stuff back,what if he has damaged my equipment while he has had my things?

You may message me privately if you like~ yes he reads this message board...

[Guest020312-2]

Break into his house and use the largest sound you have. Take that violet want straight to his dick head.. Let's see who still wants to play doctor. LoL, totally kidding. Don't do any of that stuff I was joking. Let him know that you will go to the cops. Do not tell them those toys are work related. If he still won't give you your stuff after you tell him then go to the cops. Keep ALL forms of communication in either text/email or record you all's conversations so you can show them to the cops of when you politely asked for your things to be returned.


P.s. if you are reading this

[Capt. Lincoln F. Stern]

Originally Posted by enursecarrie

I took my new computer that cost over $300 and my tens unit with attachments that cost over $300, my rose bud sounds that cost $75 and my new violet wand that was $150..oh and an IPhone that I let him use that go's for like 2-$300 on the market.
I took it over there so we could watch movies and play Dr. later.
The next couple of days we broke up..and now he is refusing to give me my work related equipment back.. what can I do?

I don't mind going to court~ how would I go by doing that and getting my stuff back,what if he has damaged my equipment while he has had my things?

You may message me privately if you like~ yes he reads this message board...

I have heard that possession is 9/10ths the law.. unless you can show receipts or registrations to serial numbers / warranty cards in your name to those items.. you might be SOL.

I would not advise breaking in and stealing just your stuff back.... sort of points a finger at you. What you should do is consult a lawyer.

or try to get back with him long enough to get your stuff back then break up with him again.

[Anita Lay]

Small claims court in your area... if you bought it with credit cards or a debit card that is proof enough. Keep all messages proving you tried to get your items back.
Send him emials.. Send him texts.... log all attempts. Have copies of statements showing you bought these items and GO TO COURT.
If he is watching thats even better because you are attempting to collect your items and we are a witness to it. Good for you.

[sketchball82]

If anything happens to your stuff, he is responsible for replacing it.

I would take him to small claims court. In most areas, taking someone to small claims is very cheap (<$50) unless a warrant is to be served, which makes the price go up ~$30ish. You can always add these costs onto the claim so he becomes responsible.

Generally a summons would be enough to freak him out. If he did give you your stuff back, you could just drop the claim and would only be out the claim cost unless you could freak him out enough so he'd give you that too.

If you do go to court, the standard for burden of proof is preponderance of the evidence. Normally there are no lawyers or jury for small claims. This means that the judge will weight the evidence you provide (receipts, statements, etc... anything to show you purchased the devices) against your ex-BF's rebuttals and rule whichever way seems more likely. NOTE: civil cases are not based upon the reasonable doubt standard you see on TV... it's a much lower bar to get the courts to act in the plantiff's favor. This also means that to beat you in court, your ex-BF will have to perjure himself, because unlike in criminal court, there is no fifth amendment in play. If he doesn't lie to say that the stuff is his (i.e., remains silent), the courts WILL interpret that as meaning the stuff is yours. After a court judgment (presumably in your favor), if he tries not to pay in a reasonable timeframe, you can talk to the county clerk who can fill out the paperwork to garnish his wages.

Hope this helps. Good luck hon.

If you have any follow up questions, PM me.

EDIT: Whatever you do, DO NOT BREAK INTO HIS HOUSE, LOL. Even if you can prove without a doubt the equipment is yours, it doesn't justify B&E!

[Anita Lay]

yes.. what he said