Providers, Posting and possibilities, or lacktherof.

[pmdelites]

so, ladies, if a guy contacts you for an appt but you decide against continuing in the process [cos you're not into his likes based on what he writes about, he's a jerk, has too many critical /moaning/complaining/nitpicky reviews [rather than "No" reviews], is too bizarre, divulges private info in the publicly available fields, has a bad reputation from others, etc.],
how do you go about responding to his inquiry?

a. i dont, i just delete the email or messge
b. tell him "sorry, i <insert your explanation here>"
c. tell him "no thanks, sorry." period, end of sentence, end of message.

that is, do you tell him something or nothing?

[this might be related to the "How long shold I wait for responses?" thread; but prolly not cos this thread involves people you wouldnt want to see.
http://eccie.net/showthread.php?t=315078 ]

[Caitie Mae]

Originally Posted by pmdelites

so, ladies, if a guy contacts you for an appt but you decide against continuing in the process [cos you're not into his likes based on what he writes about, he's a jerk, has too many critical /moaning/complaining/nitpicky reviews [rather than "No" reviews], is too bizarre, divulges private info in the publicly available fields, has a bad reputation from others, etc.],
how do you go about responding to his inquiry?

a. i dont, i just delete the email or messge
b. tell him "sorry, i <insert your explanation here>"
c. tell him "no thanks, sorry." period, end of sentence, end of message.

that is, do you tell him something or nothing?

Based upon certain review/post/comment patterns/trends that I have observed while processing your screening, I have come to the conclusion that you and I are not likely to be compatible for future play dates.

I do wish you the best of health and happiness both within The Hobby and beyond it.

[Prolongus]

Originally Posted by Caitie Mae

Based upon certain review/post/comment patterns/trends that I have observed while processing your screening, I have come to the conclusion that you and I are not likely to be compatible for future play dates.

I do wish you the best of health and happiness both within The Hobby and beyond it.

Is this directed at pmdelites only...or all of us?

[Sleepy363]

Originally Posted by RyansFun

Graphic meant if he is super graphic where the whole public can see.... Like descriptions, address, those sorts of things...

Has someone ever been graphic when posting the address/location?

[guest043013-2]

Originally Posted by Prolongus

Is this directed at pmdelites only...or all of us?

I think (and I learned long ago not to put words in the lovely mouth of Caitie Mae,) that she was just giving us an example of how she responds to a request from someone she decides not to see.

But I could have totally misunderstood her post. From the behavior of a few people on this board over the last few weeks, she may have decided to kick all of us out on the curb.

I have had at least one lady who just responded that my screening information was insufficient, but how a lady responds to some of these situations can speak volumes about how she runs her business, how professional she is, and whether I would ever see her. Caitie's response is professional and not insulting or threatening, as opposed to a response like

"I wouldn't touch your penis with anything other than a taser gun."

[Guest021812-3]

Originally Posted by tigercat

"I wouldn't touch your penis with anything other than a taser gun."

There's a guy who recently posted in coed looking for just this kind of thing

[Carrie Hillcrest]

Board personas have influenced my decision on whether to meet someone or not -- but that can be a negative or positive thing. Act like a jerk because you're semi-anonymous, and I can't help but assume your real-life personality is equally smarmy. Conduct yourself like a gentleman despite there being little recourse if you behave otherwise? That says volumes about a man's character.

Edited to add: My response is similar to Caitie's. Level of detail about "why" depends on if there was one thing in particular that concerned me. I want to give him the chance to clarify in case I misunderstood something.

For example, a couple years back I initially turned down one gentleman because his reviews (on another site) made him seem, um... extremely energetic and non-stop active. When I told him I didn't think I could keep up and he'd probably get bored, he admitted the reviews were hugely exaggerated, because the site kept rejecting them when he told the truth. Apparently the truth was too tame! I'm glad I explained in that case; turns out he was super chill, go-with-the-flow, and didn't really care for the kind of acrobatics his reviews mentioned. He's still someone I see regularly.

Originally Posted by TheBizz

There's a guy who recently posted in coed looking for just this kind of thing