A thin line

[MrGiz]

Originally Posted by FlectiNonFrangi

......I don't see any girl weekly, but there are 3 I see on a regular basis, and things are always lose and easy with us.

BINGO !!

My number of preferred playmates is very close to your's... they all know I enjoy playing with a handfull of high quality girls... and they are all happy to be one of them!

[DallasRain]

Heidi you are an awesomely beautiful provider & a kick ass friend!

I am with ya though..I give "bones" to some of my best repeat clients ....and nine times out of ten,I get great results! But there will always be that "one" who takes advantage of uit!

[awl4knot]

Originally Posted by heidilynnla

Between being nice and stupid. There may come a point that I am "all business" because of guys who don't get it. At that time, I will quit the biz.

I never want to be that "jaded" provider. For the most part, I have fun. I attempt to throw a bone to loyal clients. Unfortunately; every now and then, there is a guy who screws it up for all the nice guys.

Why is it that one guy ruins it for the rest who are respectful and behave? In any business 10 percent of the clients/customers cause 90 percent of the problems. While it never is pleasant, it is predictable and you just have to deal with it, or quit. Focus on your good clients and let them make up for the bad apple.

At what point do you drop a great client for having unrealistic expectations?

Once a client has unrealistic expectations he stops being a great client. Dump him and cut your losses.

Awl4knot

[fallshine]

In my personal opinion...

Boundaries have to be set and maintained with all clients. However, I find boundaries with each and every client is different outside of the basics. This is a job and should be treated as such. It is something that in the end you can lose quit or change but if you start to get too personal it will affect your ability to do your job properly or to your full potential. Most people don't realize it at first but over time it has an overall effect. I would set a few extra minutes aside at your next appointment to go over your boundaries with the client. Let him know that you cannot allow him to cross those boundaries and if he cannot except that explain that you may have to drop him as a client.

[London Rayne]

Originally Posted by heidilynnla

Between being nice and stupid. There may come a point that I am "all business" because of guys who don't get it. At that time, I will quit the biz.

I never want to be that "jaded" provider. For the most part, I have fun. I attempt to throw a bone to loyal clients. Unfortunately; every now and then, there is a guy who screws it up for all the nice guys.

At what point do you drop a great client for having unrealistic expectations?

Guys, have you clicked with a provider that ended up having unrealistic expectations?

Bottom line, this "IS what it IS". Respect for each other and the business without crossing the line. Hobbyists and providers have boundaries that need to be respected.

I refuse to see more guys than not seeing them again. By that I mean, I can usually tell with a few emails or a phone call if I am going to click with this person. There are days when I might say, "Well it's only an hour girl," and then there are times I simply don't want the money bad enough to deal with it.

[acp5762]

Originally Posted by London Rayne

I refuse to see more guys than not seeing them again. By that I mean, I can usually tell with a few emails or a phone call if I am going to click with this person. There are days when I might say, "Well it's only an hour girl," and then there are times I simply don't want the money bad enough to deal with it.

You're lucky that you can make those conclusions. Obviously there are things in your life that hold more priority than to see a client that you have doubts about. Other providers are reluctant to do that even if they have the same gut feeling as you. Consider yourself fortunate. May all your encounters be pleasent ones.

[Jackie S]

A number of years ago, a major Grocery Chain made an attempt to improve customer relations. The decided that the one person that had the most contact with a customer was the check out person, more times than not a young girl.

The hired consultants taught the girls how to maintain a cheery attitude, how to smile, and in general terms, how to be "nice".

It Turned out that many men started mistaking the smiling, cheery attitude from a cute young girl for a come on. It progressed to the point to where the young ladies were told NOT to smile and be so cheery.

It wasn't the girls fault, they were simply being nice. But the fact is, some men can take any attention from a Lady in the wrong manner, and do not realize that "it's all part of the job".

Men who become regular clients of Providers can fall into the same trap. I see only one Lady, she and I both have to be on constant guard to insure that nothing is read into actions that would suggest a relationship other than one of "good client-provider".

Men tend to have a weakness for anyshow of affection, it is the nature of the beast. But, women can also mistake a clients overgenerosity, or even his nice mannerisms, for more than what it should be.

I suppose in the civilian world, this is what we call Love. Whether we like it or not, there is always the danger that a client, or even a Provider, can cross that line and actually 'fall in love." This usually has disaster written all over it.

It is difficult to not show someone you really like special attention. Human Nature can, however, take over and things that seem inncent can get out of hand quickly.

This is a tough game. Clients and Providers come into close physical contact, and enjoy a type of intimacy that can breed false signals if you are not constantly on guarde.

[berkleigh]

[quote=fallshine;1603688]In my personal opinion...

Boundaries have to be set and maintained with all clients. However, I find boundaries with each and every client is different outside of the basics. This is a job and should be treated as such. It is something that in the end you can lose quit or change but if you start to get too personal it will affect your ability to do your job properly or to your full potential. Most people don't realize it at first but over time it has an overall effect. quote]

I so AGREE!!!

[Chica Chaser]

Excellent points Berkleigh. Everyone of us the boundaries will be in a slightly different location, and should be.