Verification & Screening Question

[yep]

Hey, complete n00b here, but I've signed up with 411 thinking their verification process would get me atleast in the door, but everyone seems to want that plus refs... I've looked in my area (through p411) and haven't found anyone that indicates willingness to meet someone new... Is it out of line to just message them and ask what options there are? Like the OP said, meeting for lunch prior to any date?

[Sweet N Little]

No it wouldn't be out of line to at least ask, Even though I list plus two on p411 Ive occasionally met some with 0 but did my own further screening.
It never hurts to send a pm and ask "nicely" lol

[atlcomedy]

Originally Posted by yep

Hey, complete n00b here, but I've signed up with 411 thinking their verification process would get me atleast in the door, but everyone seems to want that plus refs... I've looked in my area (through p411) and haven't found anyone that indicates willingness to meet someone new... Is it out of line to just message them and ask what options there are? Like the OP said, meeting for lunch prior to any date?

This whole lunch/meet & greet thing isn't the way in....

Most ladies don't like/won't do it even if it is paid...There are some exceptions but it usually is part of a date that includes BCD time.

Even then it isn't like she'll bypass screening because you went to lunch with her. Believe it or not, there are some cops out there that can pull off charming/non-LE...even make intelligent conversation...for an hour...

Generally speaking the rest of the advice is solid. You should know this topic has been raised a million times. Try seaching on things like "newbie" and/or "screening" for some reading.

[London Rayne]

Originally Posted by atlcomedy

This whole lunch/meet & greet thing isn't the way in....

Most ladies don't like/won't do it even if it is paid...There are some exceptions but it usually is part of a date that includes BCD time.

Even then it isn't like she'll bypass screening because you went to lunch with her. Believe it or not, there are some cops out there that can pull off charming/non-LE...even make intelligent conversation...for an hour...

Generally speaking the rest of the advice is solid. You should know this topic has been raised a million times. Try seaching on things like "newbie" and/or "screening" for some reading.

Exactly ATL. Just showing up is intent, and you're arrested right there at the Starbucks or whatever lol. Everyone I know who has been busted, never took a stitch of clothes off or said a darn word...they got them when the door opened. Yes cops have coffee..drink as well. They can do whatever to bust you, but they RARELY send a deposit lol.