for me, it's the woman, her attitude, her skills, her offerings,
and her looks.
yes, i have some criteria that i use to discriminate [see below] who i see and dont see.
so, if she changes any of those, i note it. and i either quit visiting her or i continue. but for me to continue visiting her, her other qualities have to be very very very excellent and outweigh the negative one.
one woman i visited for a while had all of it and i returned again and again.
then she changed her hair to some chartreuse pinkish green. it was unusual by my criteria. not necessarily to others. all else was the same. but the hair just turned me off.
even if i closed my eyes!! so i didnt visit her for a while.
she started coloring it a different color, more agreeable to me, and i returned.
i saw the change, i felt a certain way, i made a choice.
i did not tell her she shouldnt have, was crazy to, or was defeating her purpose in attracting clients [ok, me]. it's her hair, she can do what she want. it's my time and money, i can see who i want.
so, for me, as long as it isnt too weird or extreme of a change and you're still the fine deliteful woman i've known from previous visits, fine by me.
discriminate
-verb (used w/out object)
2. to note or observe a difference; distinguish accurately: to discriminate between things.
–verb (used with object) 3. to make or constitute a distinction in or between; differentiate: a mark that discriminates the original from the copy.
4. to note or distinguish as different: He can discriminate minute variations i
tone.
