Have you ever??

[mbhoney]

Have you ever thought of a client more then just a client. there are some guys in my life that I honestly can not get enough of. they out weight my bad client's. these guys are my friend, daddy and boyfriend. they help me pay my bills, they satisfy me as if I am cheesecake that they cannot get enough of, we conversate, laugh and they bring me gifts. Have I ever thought of settling down, of course but I honesty love my life at the moment, and I love my clients. I love that I have clients that I can not keep my hands off of. I made a comment I don't do kissing and that was a lie (LOL). I love gentlemen.
I want to share a few experience that I recently had before I share it on my ESCORT life BLOG.
Last week I happen to be staying in Wichita Falls to see a daddy. after a few text messages and him telling me he will bring drinks over, I knew I was going to like him. I change about 10 times to try to find the perfect outfit, wanted nothing more then to impress him.(at this point it was more then just the donation, I wanted him a regular, a friend, daddy and boyfriend). finally found the right outfit. He shows up right on time. when I answer the door, He was just what I was hoping for, Tall, black hair, pretty eyes, sexy face and body. perfect. he bought drinks after admitting to stalking my profile to figure out what I liked to drink. I poured us a drink. we chatted for awhile. I wasn't clock watching I enjoyed every moment. one thing lead to another, he started caressing my legs, pulled me to him to kiss me, I couldn't get enough of kissing him. again he was perfect. we did everything, even went for round 2. he had to work at 5am so he had to leave, even though I tried to convince him to stay the night with me, but 1 hour had turned into 2 hrs., maybe 3. so I understood. I fell asleep with his scent on the comforter and pillows and I loved waking up to his scent that had not faded.

Came back home to Wichita KS and I had A regular contact me (I have known him 6 years), in my phone I have him under cute guy. Guys he reminds me of the rock, built like him, shaved head, just sexy. I was ready for him, when am I not to be honest. I left my door unlocked for him while I took a shower. He arrived as I was getting out of the shower. Hugs and kisses is what I always do with him as soon as I see him. we chat for a minute while I fix my morning drink of vodka and orange juice. we head to the room where he goes right to the Y. relieving any stress I had. He's perfect. I brag about how he is my ideal husband, he tells me jokingly to never quit this job (LOL). we talk more before he left. TBH I have more experience but that will be in my BLOG.

So is it just me or do you have a connection, bond with your guy or girl?
I wish all my dates could be this amazing bu7t only 80% go this well.
Hope you love my experience. XOXO THANKS

[JackJohnson]

I'm certainly glad you've made connections. I've certainly had many friendships develop in the hobby, but most inevitably turn back to money as a basis for the relationship, not in terms of real friendship. They are asymmetrical... girls call and ask for "favors" all the time, but if you call them, your favor is to take care of them for their time. Personally, I'm done with asymmetrical relationships, that are based on "the hustle."



I've had providers call me up, ask if I wanted to get together and drink, etc... and if anything beyond some talk and consuming what I have around, and once things start to get at all flirty, they will retract to, "you know I get compensated for my time, don't you?" Which makes things awkward, especially when the social interaction appears to be their idea, and nothing was mentioned about... once I had even gotten dinner, and we were 2 hours into hanging out... I got pumped for connections (I have a few) and it seemed like while I wasn't a walking ATM, I certainly was a party place with a goal apparently to find new clients form folks I know.


But I've also had good friendships with girls I've met in the hobby, who introduced me to other girls in the hobby, who hung out as civilians, but at some point they always come back to money, to time, and to business... you get asked for money at some point when they need it on a FAR more frequent basis than a normal friend, as girls always seem to have some desperate need they need money for.... ALWAYS.


I believe some of this is perspective on how one sees the other. The girl is in a place where interaction with men in a certain way is necessary to obtain resources, she is collateral to get to a goal, usually money. The male is in a place where they are using resources to obtain some level of intimacy they are missing... what that level is varies from a quick visit... to a desire for a longer term interaction. Those goals often mismatch, and its not always something that can be communicated honestly... lots of lies and deceptions are typically used as protection for both sides. I try to be upfront and honest... and it generally bites me in the butt, but I'm much better off for it.


Everyone hopes for a comfortable middle ground where everyone can feel empowered and intimate and like its a win win for both parties... the problem is that each side is trying to maximize their desires independently, and there is very little collaboration. Just like strippers begin to see the men who maul them on a daily basis as ATM machines to "make that money" - being objectified daily takes a mental toll - spending half your day waiting on phone calls from guys who are sometimes rude always is taxing.. and undermines attempts to make things more intimate.


Exceptions noted, and I hope more girls read this and think about how they approach things after hearing how you've been successful at it.


I can't count the number of times... most recently as a matter of fact... after a girl got all weirded about money stuff or pushing a back door upsell, etc., I started thinking OH MAN, you know I really liked that girl... REALLY had fun, and she could've had shopping trips, fun times, travel... LOTS more than what she got "for her time." Whew. But, it all breaks down on the ATM hustle... right now is always the most important moment.



But they are more concerned with getting the hour, and taking off, and counting their "winnings" than actually developing customer service or connections (which always lead to better connections without throwing up an ad). It's just shortsighted and leaves everyone sort of empty emotionally.


But, it saves me a ton of time and resources... they hustle for the short term, and ignore the potential human connection that would lead to MUCH better things. The hustle seems to be an end onto itself. So instead of a girl who could be kept and not have a revolving door, she takes the money and runs, until she needs something else. Meh.


So it becomes transactional, and sterile, and based not on the intimacy of the interaction, but on availability, shallow looks, promises, menus... etc...



Good post, and thanks for the discussion. Hope this all made sense. Be well, and everyone, stay safe, its crazy out there.

[satan666]

i agree with jj the hobby has gotten stale the provider pool is sad as all they want is to do the hustle. and i knew this coming into the hobby but it has slid way downhill.

i have made what i thought were genuine connections in the hobby but it all boils back down to money.

the thing that pisses me off is you get in a sb/sd situation and the gal wants her weekly benefit but but is not willing to come off any sugar.

it has been my experience that the hobby has gotten worse and there are not many trustworthy providers left. and before any of you ladies get up in arms about that comment know that everbodys tastes differ greatly.

but it seems most gals these days wanna hustle steal and rob clients instead of making a recurring friend in the hobby. and the constant i need money for this or that is old tired and stale if you're not in my pressense don't ask me for money because unless we have a sb/sd or some other arrangement there is no other reason other than straight hobby business why one should come at me for money.

there are too many addicts in the hobby lately and i get it but don't let your addictions run your life i had a gal steal piils from me thinking they were something good and they were wrong.

anyhow the hobby has not had much of the fond place in my heart as it once did due to all the addict hustlers scammers and thieves that have seemed to plaque the provider pool lately. just my .02 hope others chime in.

[Knotty1]

I like my go to gals. Friendly encounters are the best. No worries, just fun. Only one has tried to take advantage of our familiarity, but that is the nature of some people and who am I to change that. I like the arrangement; Being nice to each other and both getting what we want. Providers have a tough go and I respect them. When I encounter someone that doesn’t share my views on courtesy, I just don’t see them again. I think mbhoney’s point mirrors the best part of having a friendly relationship in this hobby.

[Fsn57]

I learned a long time ago, this hobby is nothing but business. If you want anything more than that, you will generally be disappointed. The hobby (escorts as well as SB's) is not the place to find anything more than a professional relationship. Both parties can be polite and professional, intimacy should be limited to the physical and exclude mental/emotional.



Men who are using their resources to replace intimacy that they are otherwise missing in their lives will be the ones with a big target painted on their back. Those guys are the easiest marks for the pros to get money from.

[nthomasfun]

Originally Posted by Fsn57

I learned a long time ago, this hobby is nothing but business. If you want anything more than that, you will generally be disappointed.

100%. You go in with any other thoughts, you're gonna end up having a really bad time. That doesn't mean you can't be nice to people, even friendly. But you're just gonna hurt yourself if you want anything more.