Nervous Newbies - Please Don't Be So Nervous

[Curved65]

I map it out on Google just to make sure I’m on time and for the quickest route so the fun can begin when it’s supposed to.

[Victoria of Houston]

Originally Posted by Curved65

I map it out on Google just to make sure I’m on time and for the quickest route so the fun can begin when it’s supposed to.

Mapping, yes. Makes total sense. But he meant that he did that street view thingy so he could actually see my physical place. And sent me a text describing the specifics about what my bldg looks like, which at first glance of the text, really freaked me out, bc I was thinking "how does this guy know what my place looks like since he's never been there yet."

I then re-read the txt and understood, but it still jarred me a bit and put me on edge. As said, when someone is nervous, it makes us nervous!

[Victoria of Houston]

Originally Posted by Fizley

I would show up half hour early so I could drive through the parking lot slowly and look onto all the cars to see if the anyone stood out like LE. Then I would pick the back of the Hotel and park watching for LE activity....

Now I see well reviewed providers only. Time and the knowledge many well known hobbiests have reviewed you gives me confidence the next time I am in your city to see you.

Great point and which comes back to what I was implying.

If you're looking for trouble, or something that looks suspicious, odds are, you're going to find it.

What is literally an innocuous car driving past or someone walking on the street, in a nervous mind, turns to danger or something "off."


As you said, if you do the research and only see well reviewed/documented ladies, I would hope that would put someone's mind more at ease.

[karmachameleon]

I think Victoria makes some really good points for, not just newbies in the hobby, but even those first time meetings; even if it's two veterans having their first encounter. It happens the other way around, too. Providers have caused me to get a little nervous because of their demeanour or their location. Good providers do their best to make clients comfortable; however, clients have to realize it's a two-way street and work at making that first meeting as comfortable for the provider by being as calm and cool as possible.

[Victoria of Houston]

Originally Posted by karmachameleon

I think Victoria makes some really good points for, not just newbies in the hobby, but even those first time meetings; even if it's two veterans having their first encounter. It happens the other way around, too. Providers have caused me to get a little nervous because of their demeanour or their location. Good providers do their best to make clients comfortable; however, clients have to realize it's a two-way street and work at making that first meeting as comfortable for the provider by being as calm and cool as possible.

Thank you sir, and completely agree!

[Fancyinheels]

Indeed, some excellent thoughts have been discussed here.

I think researching a meeting location beforehand, yes, even satellite and "street view" imagery, makes good sense, and I've always done it when making outcalls to gents at their private homes. Nothing wrong with being cognizant of environment, and who wants to get lost in an unknown area? Some subdivisions have cookie cutter houses that look alike, street numbers that are hard to find, and can be even harder to navigate at night without a visual of the destination.

The need for well-established, reviewed ladies willing to see newbies, plus details about their expectations, inspired me to put together the Houston Newbie-Friendly Provider List with helpful data for frisky fellows all in one place: https://www.eccie.net/showthread.php?t=1366691&page=34

A couple of points made in this thread may find their way into my Practical Primer for New Hobbyists at the top of each page of the HNFPL.

This topic has been appreciated!