What is a Financial Domm?

[*GoddessDallas*]

Originally Posted by BiancaBonVivant

Findom is one of the least understood aspects of the fetish world. It has the appeal of being very easy ("Give me all your money! Now!"), but it's really much more complicated than that. It takes a lot of work, a lot of time, and there is a lot of competition. If you're interested in more practical information (not a how to, but people to watch), Twitter is your best friend. I would recommend looking up #GiveYourMoneyToWomen @BardotSmith @YeoshinLourdes @LiteralPorn @THEBOSSBRAT and @VioletDoll to see how they do it.

You can't copy them, though, as you'd be called out and flayed.

It has ties to general humiliation, body-part worship, tease and denial, psychological domination, and lots and lots of politics.

Most people who attempt it are fucking horrible at it, and most guys who think they like it have no idea what they really want from the world.

It isn't about being a "BOSS BRAT." It is about compassion and you are right. MOST WOMEN will NEVER GET it.

Men who have this fetish, should be nurtured not bashed.
It is a sensual dance...not a bullfight.
GREAT TOPIC!

[BiancaBonVivant]

Originally Posted by *GoddessDallas*

It isn't about being a "BOSS BRAT." It is about compassion and you are right. MOST WOMEN will NEVER GET it.

Men who have this fetish, should be nurtured not bashed.
It is a sensual dance...not a bullfight.
GREAT TOPIC!

Honestly, I have my critiques on how some findommes do their thing, but I'm not a strtict findomme, so I'm just providing information and one way it's handled, but the "brat" aspect of my own dominant personality is something I've *personally* tried to avoid because I wasn't sure how to do it with empathy, but I'm finally at a point where I think I can demonstrate "bratty princess" without being a horrible person.

Domination, in general, requires a lot of compassion. I see a lot of unregulated aggression passing for domination and it worries me, but you're right that it requires cooperation, like a dance, and it's definitely not a fight.

Finsubs are definitely worth encouraging.

[bustybabygirl]

It is a Domme/sub dynamic with a financial agreement. Everything else changes from dynamic to dynamic. Most are heavy on humiliation but not all. Many are online only though some are real time.

[SweetDulce]

Thank you Ladies for the responses!
I'm totally not into humiliation. I have found that to be a big part of the fetish world. So I find myself more submissive. Maybe I'm a switch. Sometimes during gfe sessions I will lightly choke and tease. With some guys I can take full control because I know what I like and want and I know they are eager to please me. But this usually only after several sessions. And in no way would I humiliate them. That just isn't me.

[SkylerScarlett]

Some men like this alot Ive found out. It's not that different than my experience stripping which is almost always a degree of financial domination. Taking a guy to the ATM and getting him to give you more money because of an illusion you've created in where he thinks he will get more by paying more.

So genius it just might work!

[R.M.]

I was doing a search on Findom and this thread came up.
Big fan of Bardot Smith on Twitter. I think I'm getting ready to explore my dom side.
I have had three different experiences in the past nine months.
There is nothing sub about me. I am full blown dom.
I have completed my first short video with my friend The Worm. That was a lot of fun.
Thanks for this enlightening thread.

[SleeperHit]

Originally Posted by SkylerScarlett

Some men like this alot Ive found out. It's not that different than my experience stripping which is almost always a degree of financial domination. Taking a guy to the ATM and getting him to give you more money because of an illusion you've created in where he thinks he will get more by paying more.

So genius it just might work!

Agreed, Findom manifests easily in a strip club as it does online or an incall. It's all about the illusion/fantasy where both participate in getting needs met.

I'm a Switch but when subbing I work the money into the roleplay, I like the mindfuck of it.

Instead of paying her all upfront, she gets paid throughout the session. I bring an alternate wallet with the money. As we go along she's constantly going into the wallet and taking money out of it "a la carte". Billing me for everything; wearing heels, lipstick, kisses, taking my pants off, taking my shorts off, getting hard and the release.

Done right, it'll make you laugh and rock hard at the same time; even more if she is gifted in the art of dirty talk.

[SlowHand50]

Any guy who's ever been married has basically been doing this, whether he will admit it or not.

[Jasmineisariot]

Originally Posted by BiancaBonVivant

Findom is one of the least understood aspects of the fetish world. It has the appeal of being very easy ("Give me all your money! Now!"), but it's really much more complicated than that. It takes a lot of work, a lot of time, and there is a lot of competition. If you're interested in more practical information (not a how to, but people to watch), Twitter is your best friend. I would recommend looking up #GiveYourMoneyToWomen @BardotSmith @YeoshinLourdes @LiteralPorn @THEBOSSBRAT and @VioletDoll to see how they do it.

You can't copy them, though, as you'd be called out and flayed.

It has ties to general humiliation, body-part worship, tease and denial, psychological domination, and lots and lots of politics.

Most people who attempt it are fucking horrible at it, and most guys who think they like it have no idea what they really want from the world.

Bianca gave some excellent advice and tips. I'll add some as to what I have learned.

A lot of people think FinDomme is as easy as going on the Internet, being pretty, and asking for money. It is not! Many Findommes have established cam girl and phone sex girl personas. In these personas, they have cultivated a lot of knowledge and skill as a Dominatrix who knows how to wield psychological power (afterall, often the "sub" isn't there physically so you have to be able to press their hot buttons psychologically). Findommes often offer many other services that range on humiliation and hypnosis etc. You can call them, watch them, buy their videos, and ask for cashmeets if you/they have the capacity etc.

Essentially, you have to think about Findomming as an extension of being a Domme, and a very good Domme at that. Most successful Findomme are good Dommes FIRST. And you don't have to go to a dungeon to learn that necessarily. Many camgirls learn how to psychology of many of these men work as camgirls first and then sort of "graduate" to domming/findomming if you may, in my experience.

I'll also add that @YEVGEN1YA hosts some excellent classes and consultations. She's pretty successful, was featured in Rolling Stone, and my conversation with her was pretty fruitful.

Certainly, a lot of successful/rich men like to see their money spent by women. So I'm not surprised that your area may have a lot of demand. But you have to really understand the art of it and attract those who are serious and really understand what they're getting into.

Good luck!