Real-world info

[jt3456]

I guess I don't know exactly why I'm posting, just posting thoughts. Don't even know if this is the right section.

Anyways, I have been visiting with a provider (not in waco/killeen/BCS) for three years now. I guess that would make it an ATF since I haven't seen anyone else but her for the past two years.

So over these last three years we talk and fuck and generally have a great time. But over the last year we've become pretty comfortable with each other and we've fallen off that slippery slope and end up sharing more and more personal details of our lives.

I've told her that I enjoy her company and the time we spend together but I have no idea if there is any truth to what she shares with me. Her answer was that it's easy when she's comfortable and that it's hard for her not to be her and that she's not good at keeping up pretenses. For clients who visit once and never see again - sure it's easy, but for the length of time we'd been visiting - it would be hard. And her story has been consistent over time and so I suspect the feelings are genuine.

I did get to the point I asked her if I could learn her her real name. She declined and she didnt want to reveal her name. Fine I'm okay with that.

However I've been able to piece together all the things we've shared and now I've found her on social media and learned who she is, who her family is, etc.

So should I tell her that I've found out who she was and let her know that if she doesn't want to be found to put her social media stuff on private/friends only mode instead of public?

Or just let it go...

I have no desire to intermingle my life and hers or try to "get together" with her

Though it was morbidly fascinating to delve into the details of someone I'm sleeping with but really don't know other than what we've shared which may or may not be the truth. It is cool to see she does have a boyfriend/significant other that she's been with since the time she started on eccie. (She denied having one.) But I wonder if he knows - she swears that no one in her social circle knows or suspects what she does, but she does have one friend who does know. And if the b/f does know, how does he feel about all the other guys he's sharing his girlfriend with? and if he doesn't how would he feel if he found how he was sharing?

Anyways just posting random thoughts. I'm not planning on outing her or blackmailing her. I'm just going to take it all to the grave with me one day.

So do guys that stick with regular providers, get to the point where they know real world stuff of the providers they visit with and vice versa, do providers end up knowing real world stuff of the clients who visit with them regularly?

[sean rider]

Unsolicited advice: given she refuses to give you her real name, and she lied about not having a significant other, keep the fact that you tracked her down to yourself. You are in, and she clearly wants, a transactional relationship. Just leave it at that.

[Snow Goose]

so is she not going to see this post?

[SaytownFinest]

Originally Posted by sean rider

Unsolicited advice: given she refuses to give you her real name, and she lied about not having a significant other, keep the fact that you tracked her down to yourself. You are in, and she clearly wants, a transactional relationship. Just leave it at that.

Follow this advice.

[CaptainMastPole]

The more you can avoid learning RW information the better off you are. Once you have the information you are now burdened with keeping it private. Any slip no matter how unintentional and you violate her trust and right to privacy.

I give this advice from a knowing standpoint. I make it a point to not learn RW information or do my best to forget what I learn. Less stress on me and less stress on the providers I see.

[Hephaestus]

I agree with everything said thus far. You asked and she refused ypur query, you discovered innocently. Let the illusion of the mystery remain and continue your relationship which she feels comfortable with and you enjoy with her.

[Tequila Rose]

Do not I repeat DO NOT tell her you learned it. It will come off as creepy and stalkerish even if it wasn't. She did not want you having that info so just let it go. If she ever chooses to share great but Id say she won't. I have a few clients that know a lot about me real world. I also have a lot that know nothing. I am very selective about who gets what info. If I don't give it to you I don't want you to have it.

[jt3456]

Thanks everyone. I appreciate your viewpoints and advice especially from the provider point of view.

I imagine there is always a chance she'll see this post. I'll just have to deal with the consequences like everything else in life.

[jamestippen254]

I'm not sure "morbidly fascinating" means what you think it does. At least I hope it doesn't.

[artist6338]

What Tequilla said!