Safety and screening

[tannana]

Originally Posted by AmishGangster

Regarding record keeping, I saw a very reputable traveling lady in early 2007. 2015 Our paths cross again, I tell her I saw you before, approximately when and where. She asked for my phone number, then says the number I gave her doesnt match any client she ever saw...I had changed hobby numbers. Gave her the old one and she replied with the date, exact location and my fake hobby first name. 8 years later. It was Crazy, wont ever see her again.

If a provider saved my burner phone from 2008, more power to her.

This is exactly why I don't give out real information. On the other hand, she can keep tannana in the Rolodex forever for all I care.

My expectation is that providers do this and I behave accordingly.

[zip2121]

Originally Posted by Ross B

I'm quite curious to know why a lot of gentleman are opposed to providing screening information and provider references?

Most of us have a functioning brain and are smarter than the people giving out personal info to people addicted to recreational activities that involve taboo subjects.

[cabot]

Obviously, a touchy subject!

Jinny (and OP, if you're still around),

A couple of questions from your perspective:

1). You mentioned you do a 'tiny' bit of screening-what info do you require that is not completely anonymous? (I.e. that if we gave it to a provider OTHER than yourself, she could use it to find out name, or work, or family, etc?)

2). From what you wrote- it seems like you wanted was a 'sense' of security; does the additional info you require provide an increase in security, or just the perception?

3). Finally - how does real-life info increase provider security? The only way I see is because it allows them to call police, or friends, to go after the hobbyist if something goes wrong-do you agree? Therefore, the hobbyist is more likely to behave.

I believe that real-life info absolutely decreases the risk to the provider, because the hobbyist has 'more to lose.'

Therefore, by definition, Real-life info INCREASES the risk to the hobbyist, because he has more to lose.

In a zero-sum game like that, giving a provider your name increases the risk to the hobbyist without any additional gain. THIS is the answer to the OP's question (assuming by 'screening' she means 'exchange of non-anonymous information from the hobbyist to the provider')

[sexymaid_69]

Originally Posted by cabot

Obviously, a touchy subject!

Jinny (and OP, if you're still around),

A couple of questions from your perspective:

1). You mentioned you do a 'tiny' bit of screening-what info do you require that is not completely anonymous? (I.e. that if we gave it to a provider OTHER than yourself, she could use it to find out name, or work, or family, etc?)

Speaking for myself and only me,
I personally prefer to see the experienced monger who has an internet presence including reviews, posts and obvious interaction with several ladies.
These gents don't need much screening but I do screen all new clients.
For the well known hobbyist I can screen without any real life info BECAUSE they have a prolific presence and good reputation connected to their online persona. If they're info onlne is outdated I ask a bit more, still without getting to nebby. References, etc.,

Originally Posted by cabot

2). From what you wrote- it seems like you wanted was a 'sense' of security; does the additional info you require provide an increase in security, or just the perception?

It gives me a bit more of a "sense" of security. Submitting the info I ask for also shows me respect from the hobbyist which goes a long way towards making me feel at ease.
And in the obverse,
Some gentlemen are far too eager to hand over info I don't ask for. These gents make me uneasy by quickly offering up real life info that I DON'T want.

Originally Posted by cabot

3). Finally - how does real-life info increase provider security? The only way I see is because it allows them to call police, or friends, to go after the hobbyist if something goes wrong-do you agree? Therefore, the hobbyist is more likely to behave.

In a LOT of cases unfortunately this is true. Which is another reason ya'll need to really be more careful and "screen" the ladies you want to see.
Not the same screening as for a hobbyist but check to be sure she's
Zero drama
Good reputation for discretion
Has never threatened to out a gentleman or caused any un needed worry
Pimp Free.
Personally I believe the pimps are the last person you want to give any real info to. We've seen they can and do keep records and that's a huge nono. When the girls peter out they move to blackmail or worse.

Originally Posted by cabot

I believe that real-life info absolutely decreases the risk to the provider, because the hobbyist has 'more to lose.'

Nothing truly "decreases" the risk to the provider beyond doing her homework and being completely sure the gent she's about to meet is NOT LE or a danger to her.
Some ladies feel safer with more info, some of us prefer less.

Originally Posted by cabot

Therefore, by definition, Real-life info INCREASES the risk to the hobbyist, because he has more to lose.

In a zero-sum game like that, giving a provider your name increases the risk to the hobbyist without any additional gain. THIS is the answer to the OP's question (assuming by 'screening' she means 'exchange of non-anonymous information from the hobbyist to the provider')

There will always be some type of risks involved in this thing of ours.
Some people feel safer knowing more about someone.....ladies who screen excessively, guys who scour Facebook linking up numbers to faces and real life info.

Personally, I prefer to know less about a hobbyist, I don't save numbers, sure, it means everyone has to reintroduce themselves when they text but I won't ever have Johnny Law asking why names like Amish Gangster, Titsfuck or BigStig are in my contact list.
I have some regular outcall clients that while I know how to get to their place I couldn't tell you the address if you shoved bamboo under my nails.

I provide what I expect to get in return.
Discretion, privacy and a "sense" of safety or ease with the person I'm going to meet.

Last thing I want to do is be stressed or worried instead of randy....

Again,
This is just me and the way I do things, just like the hobbyist we are all different in what we do or do not want to know.

If you feel a lady asks too much simply move on.
I have no problem saying No Thanks to a gent who doesn't want screened

It really is just that simple.

[anonsull]

Give an escort your RW info and she'll put it through this https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=8aYk8y9Ym_I Yikes!