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Pmon · 03-08-2017, 04:17 PM

In a thread on a national forum I read a statement from a gentleman who said that if a provider had genuine feelings for a client, she wouldn't charge him for her time/services. I can't state how strongly I disagree with that statement, but it got me to thinking that what I love about this hobby is that you can meet lovely women, have a ton of fun, excitement, and new experiences, and when it's all said and done there are no strings attached. That's key for virtually all of us married guys, and probably for many single fellows, too. Granted, if we really click and see each other a lot, we can get attached, and sometimes it's bilateral. But I'm not interested in changing your status or mine, and I sure as hell don't want to be accused of tampering with someone's feelings just so I can get free sex. That's why the transaction that takes place between us is so important. It's the best insurance that our relationship, whatever it may be, remains NSA. And that's what keeps the hobby a hobby.

So if any of you guys think she'll give it up for free if she has feelings for you, let me ask this. Why should she remove the one barrier that ensures your relationship with her doesn't get messy? And why would she take away something that she most likely depends on to support herself? For that matter, why would YOU want her to bring financial burden on herself by giving it it up for free? Besides, let's be honest...even in the best of marriages, sex isn't free. Why should it be here?

Precious_b · 03-08-2017, 11:50 PM

A freebie is never free.

If you've given enough business to the Lady, she will grant that favour to you. At least that is how I viewed it when it happens to me.

Pmon · 03-09-2017, 06:15 AM

I'm guessing not many ladies can afford to do that, but it's a nice gesture. Still, that's something I would never expect.

Guest091823 · 03-09-2017, 08:24 AM

With you on this Pmon. This is kind of an important boundary.
That being said, little perks that can happen with making a good "friend" can be nice. Like a little flexibility with my fussy schedule, a little discount here and there, or comfort in trading services (btw, I build furniture, beds, etc ladies lol) appreciated at my end. I've not really ever been able to be a big spender, but I've tried to be good company and a friend so hopefully my budget is overlooked.
But yeah, gotta have the transaction aspect for boundaries sake.

GigiGabore · 03-13-2017, 03:36 PM

I will do drawings from time to time, usually around December where every hour you book that month counts as an entry in the drawing (a free dinner date).

I also thought about doing like a punch card, lol

Or a rewards program...

I'm into marketing strategies. Lol

Chubbington · 03-13-2017, 03:49 PM

The drawback is that once it's free, why isn't it free all the time/more often?

I've run into the same with birthdays. I've been offered a discount on my birthday, but I've also been expected to donate extra as a present for the providers birthday.

There is a provider I see who seems to enjoy time with me and pays no attention to the clock when I see her. An hour visit can easily go an extra 30, 45, or even 60 minutes when she's not pressed for time afterward. I'm never pressed to donate extra, but can if I want (and she's never counted my donation in my presence). It's a good arrangement for me - I know what to expect and what's expected of me, and it just kind of works.

Pmon · 03-13-2017, 09:24 PM

I've always appreciated the ones who let you stay long because there's a good connection. But I got sideways with one lady who did that, then at a later date gave me shit for not giving her more of a tip than I gave her. I reminded her that she asked me to stay longer than I planned, but that didn't go over well. You just never know. Of all the ladies I've met, only one lets me stay as long as I want, never asks for extra, and never complains about what I give her. Too bad she's 3 states away.