SO's and The Hobby

[jrs78atx]

Was supposed to have a session with you this morning,but you NCNS. You eventually texted back that your battery was low on your phone, but I see that you were active on this thread. I tried emailing and calling and got no resonse and you made me the bad guy in this scenario.

[jrs78atx]

Was supposed to have a session with you this morning, but you NCNS. You eventually texted back that your battery was low on your phone, but I see that you were active on this thread. I tried emailing and calling and got no response and you made me the bad guy in this scenario.

[3daygetaway]

Originally Posted by knotty man

Would you be able to handle that same logic from your wife, SO, or girlfriend?

Every situation is different, but in general, what's good for the goose is good for the gander.

[Frissionary]

Originally Posted by 3daygetaway

but only use my vulnerable, "little boy" voice with my SO.

That's a little weird, dude.

[Little Monster]

Love me some Grey Goose!

[Austinfunandfit]

I could have a provider for an SO, but I'm a kinky fuck. I'd want to hear about work! Only problem would be if she didn't want to have sex because she worked all day. Lol that would suck.

[nuglet]

Originally Posted by Austinfunandfit

I could have a provider for an SO, but I'm a kinky fuck. I'd want to hear about work! Only problem would be if she didn't want to have sex because she worked all day. Lol that would suck.

I would think that's the least she could do for ya. lol

[Whispers]

Originally Posted by nuglet

This lifestyle isn't so different from the swinger lifestyle, just a lot more expensive. Wife sharing, trading is common and most of the swingers I know are very very close emotionally. Not sure how it's supposed to be a problem...

I don't know about that... I've done parties where it was all whores in attendance and swapped whores with buddies a few times over the years.....

But a guy I worked with (that was a swinger) tried to get me to go to a party with his wife (damn hot old lady) and enjoy the evening with her but it just wierded me out to much. That was his wife... Mother of his kids..... I liked her Spaghetti.... But fucking her and then seeing him at work the next day? Couldn't do it.

For most PAYING for sex removes the possibility of emotional connection. The nature of "whoring" objectifies the women.

Remove money from the equation and now the potential partner is a woman instead of a whore...

Originally Posted by nuglet

CHEATING is the issue being discussed, with actually naming the elephant in the room.

I thought the subject was whores as SO's.. when did it become about cheating?

[TemptationTammie]

Originally Posted by nuglet

This lifestyle isn't so different from the swinger lifestyle, just a lot more expensive. Wife sharing, trading is common and most of the swingers I know are very very close emotionally. Not sure how it's supposed to be a problem... CHEATING is the issue being discussed, with actually naming the elephant in the room.

Some people don't understand the mindset of swingers. Yes, I'm a provider, but I bring a swinger mentality into my appts.

Originally Posted by Whispers

But a guy I worked with (that was a swinger) tried to get me to go to a party with his wife (damn hot old lady) and enjoy the evening with her but it just wierded me out to much. That was his wife... Mother of his kids..... I liked her Spaghetti.... But fucking her and then seeing him at work the next day? Couldn't do it.

For most PAYING for sex removes the possibility of emotional connection. The nature of "whoring" objectifies the women.

Remove money from the equation and now the potential partner is a woman instead of a whore...

Swinging involves a totally different mentality. Some ladies that come to my swing parties come for the same reason most guys hobby. They want the variety.
I've heard from a couple of ladies who go to parties that they want to be used and treated like a slut. They get respect and love from their SO.
They are able to differentiate the difference between sex and love. In most instances, sex is just a physical thing. We may fully enjoy the play time with other partners, but it is our SO who gets our heart and they are the ones who can completely satisfy because of that emotional connection.

We are women, not just 'whores'. We have feelings the same as anyone else. Some ladies like to be used and could care less whether they have the respect or friendship with clients, some want the respect and friendship. But this part can also be more YMMV based on the personality of the client. She may be more friendly with one guy because he puts out that need or desire, then another guy may be there strictly for the sex and she won't become as friendly.