Dating a provider

[Old-T]

So many ways one could comment on this thread. Where to start....

First, while I know there are some married ladies who keep working (sometimes because the husband still acts like a pimp) I would most certainly agree that the odds of a successful relationship increase dramatically if she stops working. Too many opportunities for jealousy, anger, worry, etc. to show its head.

If you talk about it and she does agree to stop--I suspect most (not all) would be glad to stop if they could financially afford to--then I guess your odds are about the same as with any other relationship that is just starting out.


Then we have this:

Originally Posted by 1blackman1

Are you doomed, not exactly. If she loved you and wanted to have a real relationship, she would stop providing. If she keeps going out fucking other dudes for money, you're gonna be in for a hard time.

I agree, but the flip side of that is true as well. If he loved he would make sure she financially does not need to keep working, and he would stop his extra curricular playing as well.

Originally Posted by Sistine Chapel

I think the OP has fetish to get cucked. [B]I'm not trying to go racial but a lot of white dudes (I definitely assume he's white based on this thread) [B]love seeing other guys fuck their bitches and they like sucking the cum out of their pussies after the guy nuts in them.Apparently It's a phenomena with white guys that's happening more and more.

Have to get a gratuitous racial comment thrown in there, don't you? That certainly helps strengthen your argument.

And since you are so good at discerning race based upon a few comments on a message board, why don't you help out your pal IBHankering. He has been trying to figure out MY racial makeup for years, getting dumber and dumber with each try. If you can determine the OP's race then you should have no problem determining mine since I post a lot more than he does.

Race doesn't have to come into every conversation.

[Boudin3112]

Do not know if you are rich are not but the money will always be a huge point of argument because when money is tight she knows how to make it real quick. How much do we need $10,000, ok work for two weeks and we have it. That is how she now thinks and she still loves you. It is not pleasure for her, it is work and she only sees the dollars. You will see that she is getting cum in her hair, she is catching colds or whatever the men have that fuck her. She will not fuck you at the end of the day as she has been used as a sex toy all day. Then can you afford to support her? She will want and try to maintain her level of living. If she works one hour a day on weekdays only and charges a low amount of $250, that equals $65,000 annually and most likely she does not pay taxes so figuring you do, that is $65,000 after taxes or about $81,250 pre tax. That is just for her, not your kids, or your support and those are very conservative numbers. If she charges $300 an hour it goes to $780,000 after tax or $97,500 pre tax. Just her to maintain status quo. If she sees 2 guys a day only 5 days
a week the income rises to $130,000 for an low price of $250 an hour or pretax of $162,500. $300 an hour is $156,000 post tax and $195,000 pretax. 3 guys a day at $250 is $195,000 take home pay and pretax of $243,750. At $300 an hour just working 3 hours a day it is $234,000 take home pay and $292,500 pretax. Also have to consider if she any addiction problems
Now ask yourself if you can afford that. And I have very, very, conservative figures. Did not account for overnights, dinners, tips, gifts, etc.

[Boudin3112]

Also have to consider any addiction issues she may have or you may have. A couple with money problems, sex problems, and addiction is tough. Not impossible but tough. If you let her continue to work because you cannot afford her way of life she will wonder if you love her and you will want to wander as she is. A lot to talk about with her. Be careful and tread lightly

[jack_black81]

Originally Posted by Boudin3112

Do not know if you are rich are not but the money will always be a huge point of argument because when money is tight she knows how to make it real quick. How much do we need $10,000, ok work for two weeks and we have it. That is how she now thinks and she still loves you. It is not pleasure for her, it is work and she only sees the dollars. You will see that she is getting cum in her hair, she is catching colds or whatever the men have that fuck her. She will not fuck you at the end of the day as she has been used as a sex toy all day. Then can you afford to support her? She will want and try to maintain her level of living. If she works one hour a day on weekdays only and charges a low amount of $250, that equals $65,000 annually and most likely she does not pay taxes so figuring you do, that is $65,000 after taxes or about $81,250 pre tax. That is just for her, not your kids, or your support and those are very conservative numbers. If she charges $300 an hour it goes to $780,000 after tax or $97,500 pre tax. Just her to maintain status quo. If she sees 2 guys a day only 5 days
a week the income rises to $130,000 for an low price of $250 an hour or pretax of $162,500. $300 an hour is $156,000 post tax and $195,000 pretax. 3 guys a day at $250 is $195,000 take home pay and pretax of $243,750. At $300 an hour just working 3 hours a day it is $234,000 take home pay and $292,500 pretax. Also have to consider if she any addiction problems
Now ask yourself if you can afford that. And I have very, very, conservative figures. Did not account for overnights, dinners, tips, gifts, etc.

Originally Posted by Boudin3112

Also have to consider any addiction issues she may have or you may have. A couple with money problems, sex problems, and addiction is tough. Not impossible but tough. If you let her continue to work because you cannot afford her way of life she will wonder if you love her and you will want to wander as she is. A lot to talk about with her. Be careful and tread lightly

after all this, basically ask yourself, there's a billion women in the world.....and I have to fall for an escort?

[Sistine Chapel]

Originally Posted by Old-T

So many ways one could comment on this thread. Where to start....

First, while I know there are some married ladies who keep working (sometimes because the husband still acts like a pimp) I would most certainly agree that the odds of a successful relationship increase dramatically if she stops working. Too many opportunities for jealousy, anger, worry, etc. to show its head.

If you talk about it and she does agree to stop--I suspect most (not all) would be glad to stop if they could financially afford to--then I guess your odds are about the same as with any other relationship that is just starting out.


Then we have this:



I agree, but the flip side of that is true as well. If he loved he would make sure she financially does not need to keep working, and he would stop his extra curricular playing as well.




Have to get a gratuitous racial comment thrown in there, don't you? That certainly helps strengthen your argument.

And since you are so good at discerning race based upon a few comments on a message board, why don't you help out your pal IBHankering. He has been trying to figure out MY racial makeup for years, getting dumber and dumber with each try. If you can determine the OP's race then you should have no problem determining mine since I post a lot more than he does.

Race doesn't have to come into every conversation.

I was having a little fun lighten up Old T

[joesmo888]

if that person is your soul mate then who is anyone to judge?

you just have to agree to certain rules.

[Flirtatousfemalefan]

The primary question with being in a relationship with a provider is that a man needs to be psychologically built for this. He has to understand the parameters of her job and needs to look at the situation and compartmentalize the difference between reality and fantasy which she does? If he can master that part of the relationship then he would be okay. However it is the conundrum that one must come to grips with when romantically interacting with one from this demimonde.

[Mssppislm]

Originally Posted by jack_black81

after all this, basically ask yourself, there's a billion women in the world.....and I have to fall for an escort?

True true.

But why would she fall for a hobbyist? Out of all the men in this world?

Granted her identity is concealed while active in this lifestyle. From my observations few are providers an entire lifetime.

Why not get a civilian man who knows nothing of your past?

A few possible scenarios with dating a hobbyist active or former:
#1 Plays the well you were or are a whore card in an argument
#2 He by societies standards is viewed no better than the whore he payed to fuck.
#3 May be hard to fully trust in a monogamous relationship without thinking he's out here online hitting the easy button for some quick ass.

Many many more but these are straight off the dome

Eta: Just noticed Op never even came back to his own thread

[berkleigh]

RUN!!!
I made this mistake TWICE, with the same man, that I met from here.
I can't say that I regret it, as it was a life changing experience I learned from, but I will not engage in another relationship with someone I have met from here again. It's extremely difficult for both sides to accept the reality and Lifestyle of the Hobby.

Protect your heart

[Mssppislm]

Originally Posted by berkleigh

RUN!!!
I made this mistake TWICE, with the same man, that I met from here.
I can't say that I regret it, as it was a life changing experience I learned from, but I will not engage in another relationship with someone I have met from here again. It's extremely difficult for both sides to accept the reality and Lifestyle of the Hobby.

Protect your heart

Some of them are straight up irresistible though.
A few times I've had to remind myself to keep it business.

Stay strong sista

[Gotyour6]

Let me fuck her and I will tell you how I came all over her body and she moaned