Question for the gents...

[bule84]

a discussion about likes and dislikes (both mine and yours) before an appointment would make me way MORE likely to chose you over someone else. It could be via text or email. you could list it as something that you like to do in your show, so they know it is an option.

[JessicaKnightly]

Here's the tricky thing, you don't want to discus any sexual activities in writing. So, where you would never email about what type of condoms, sexual positions, etc. You certainly can ask about all the other niceties. For example, I always look at their P411 profile before hand to know if I should wear perfume or not. I always have candles, music, and their favorite beverage on hand. I will ask if they have a favorite color for my lingerie. So many men love black stockings, but some want something different. I try to gather as much information (do your homework) by reading things they liked in reviews - as well as things they didn't like.
For example,
"She was a 10 in bed and gave the wettest, sloppiest BJ" or "She kept distracting me by... I didn't like that" or "She bit my nipples so sweetly..."
Then through email correspondence, I learn things like they are really into cars, golf, etc and they love Italian food.
Most of my dates are multi hour or multi day so I save most of my "getting to know" them during our time together.
Good luck with your pursuit, it is very satisfying knowing you made his visit with you unforgettable.

[Sitara Devi]

I agree with Jessica-its important to be very discrete in your written correspondence with a gent to avoid any mishaps in the future that could put you in a bad situation. My dates are also multi-hour and multi-day so I save a lot of conversation for our time together. When a gent has made a deposit and we are having our initial phone conversation I use that time to ask if he has any specific requests for our time together or anything about him that he would like me to know. Luckily, most of the clients that see me are well read men who also value discretion and save the "juicier" stuff to share with me when we are together.

[5T3V3]

zero imposition as long as it was clear an in big letters at the top of the form that it was my option to fill out. I think that is one of those things that crosses one over the line from provider to paramour. The down side is once you get the information you are locked into using so to speak ... for example ... If I put that I would love a Diet Coke, I assume you will have a Diet Coke, so I choose not to stop in route to the appointment to get a Diet Coke, when I get there you don't have Diet Coke for what ever reason, I would be polite about it, but in the back of my mind you would have lost a little status having "dropped the ball" --- but I am weird working in fields the require high customer service skills I tend to set the bar pretty high about stellar service - but I reward stellar service equally a lavishly. I am pretty sure the rest of the world is not as picky as me ...

[Gbfsl]

I think it is important to exchange information on what we like and what can be expected in a meeting. I always send an e-mail listing things that I like. As a man in this hobby we can see so many things about you providers...pictures, reviews, your bio, etc. Yet you know so little about us. That is why I send the e-mail.

I have only had one provider in three years get upset that I sent such an e-mail. Most say they appreciate the information.

So your enquiry is not out of place.

[Old-T]

Celeste, one of the things you are certainly finding out is that not all guys want the same thing.

Based upon that difference, you might use that by itself to better identify those you wish to see and those who might not match what you are looking for.

Quite honestly, the replies surprise me: I would never expected that so many would be so vocal about not wanting the option of expressing their preferences. Makes me scratch my head.

[anita]

Originally Posted by Old-T

I will disagree a bit with some of the others. If you have snack, drink requests, and that kind of thing right on the screening form I see it as no imposition at all.

And if I were to receive a "welcome" e-mail with that type of inquiry, and possibly telling me about some of your non-erotic interists while asking about mine, I would not be put off at all.

Especially when worded as you did in the opening post of this thread.

As to kissing, I would wager 9 out of 10 men (or more) would not be adverse to a kiss from a pretty young lady.

Hmm, I like the idea of a "welcome" e-mail, before meeting. I may incorporate that in my routine, meeting old and new friends

By the way, great topic Celeste!

[Moonlight Graham]

[QUOTE=CelesteCarter;1056659409] guys would you feel bothered if a provider emailed you after screening with a simple questionnaire to ask questions that may help them make the experience even better?

Celeste,

I much prefer to answer the "Hey how about let's do this" type of questions through our initial email correspondence, or in person, rather than in a written questionairre. Maybe I like the back and forth and banter better than a form, which stikes me as a bit too, well, formal.

By the way, I loved the video on your website. I think moving pictures have a real future.

And thanks much for asking about how to make the experience memorable!

[CelesteCarter]

Thank you for your reply!

[QUOTE=Moonlight Graham;1056683037]

Originally Posted by CelesteCarter

guys would you feel bothered if a provider emailed you after screening with a simple questionnaire to ask questions that may help them make the experience even better?

Celeste,

I much prefer to answer the "Hey how about let's do this" type of questions through our initial email correspondence, or in person, rather than in a written questionairre. Maybe I like the back and forth and banter better than a form, which stikes me as a bit too, well, formal.

By the way, I loved the video on your website. I think moving pictures have a real future.

And thanks much for asking about how to make the experience memorable!