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Lexxxy · 03-25-2014, 09:33 PM

Wild.... How the hell do we convey ourselves? Guys how do you go about asking for it without having a provider shoot you down? Providers how do you test the waters with a gent? I try to go with the flow but what if someone wants it and is too shy to ask then they are unfulfilled?
I had this date today and I see this yummy tattooed up(ink on his neck) 30ish guy in boots and a pea coat with spiked hair come up my Stairs and I'm like oh f yeah this is going to be really wild and just wait until he walks in this door!!!!! He walks in we greet and I'm on him like he's cake! We are all over each other against the wall hands and mouths everywhere I threw his coat on the floor and had his belt off on the floor in 5 secs. I drop to my knees and start undoing his boots and rubbing him through his jeans. We go to the bedroom he puts the donation down I'm taking his clothes off and it's magnetic just wild. I shove him on the bed and get on top rubbing my tits up and down his boxers while I grind my snazzy on his leg and talk dirty to him. He sits up hard pushing me back and goes "this hour date is going to be over in 2 minutes all over the inside of my boxers! We need to cool it babe! I'm going to have a heart attack."

oooooooppps?!?!
I look over at the clock and we were only 7 minutes into our date

I crawl up to do the gfe sweet cuddle thing and he explains he's a 1 and done so everything has to be very slow. I felt like a jerk.
I had no way of knowing and almost ruined the date. I would think it would be vice versa if he was into that and I just came at him with sweet gfe for an hour and he wanted hot wild nasty.
Would some view that as a rush job? That so wasn't my intention I wanted a 3 course meal haha.
I've been in the hobby for years and I still haven't mastered a tactful way to go about this. I usually just go with the flow and if he doesn't take it there it doesn't happen because I'm afraid of situations like today.

eyecu2 · 03-25-2014, 10:30 PM

Well in my opinion if there s passion as it seemed like there was, time doesn't matter as much. After all, even if he blew his nut in his pants, surely you'd be able to entertain him in other ways. Ie: massage, BJ, juggling act? It's times like that when you either need to have a governor on the motor so as not to rev to high, or have a plan b as in he's paying for time and that doesn't mean only in an orifice, but in a intimate way. A nice bath or shower or that kind of thing together can be way the hell fun. I think Pria has made a good living doing just that kind of sexy massage.

Goddess Athena · 03-25-2014, 10:54 PM

You're funny, girl, with your horny self!! When the chemistry takes over there's nothing you can do. I had it happen to me a few times. Good, hot intense sex...mmmmmm.

AmishGangster · 03-25-2014, 11:58 PM

Lexxxy as a skilled orator I'm sure rectified this with a 2nd snack...he's just a guy show him he can do what he thinks he can't!

no salt added · 03-26-2014, 10:01 AM

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Originally Posted by eyecu2

Well in my opinion if there s passion as it seemed like there was, time doesn't matter as much. After all, even if he blew his nut in his pants, surely you'd be able to entertain him in other ways. Ie: massage, BJ, juggling act? It's times like that when you either need to have a governor on the motor so as not to rev to high, or have a plan b as in he's paying for time and that doesn't mean only in an orifice, but in a intimate way. A nice bath or shower or that kind of thing together can be way the hell fun. I think Pria has made a good living doing just that kind of sexy massage.

i agree with eyecu2 an make sure client knows he is payin 4 time whether he nuts once or 8 times in that time period .it sucks to blow fast an have girl say were done when there is time there .guess what fuck youre tip.

Atlas Marie · 03-26-2014, 10:41 AM

Damnnn girl where do I find him? Lmao ink on the neck in my turn onnnn

BSer · 03-26-2014, 12:18 PM

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Originally Posted by Atlas Marie

Damnnn girl where do I find him? Lmao ink on the neck in my turn onnnn

I'm getting a tat on my neck right now

AmishGangster · 03-26-2014, 02:58 PM

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Originally Posted by Atlas Marie

Damnnn girl where do I find him? Lmao ink on the neck in my turn onnnn

So when are you going to get verified and put a showcase up? Inquiring mongers want to know

eaglehorse · 03-26-2014, 06:56 PM

I have a tat on my neck, just like Indian Larry's

no salt added · 03-26-2014, 08:05 PM

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I have a tat on my neck, just like Indian Larry's

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Originally Posted by BSer

I'm getting a tat on my neck right now

go with half body tribal neck tat. see from dusk to dawn extra bonus selma hayak!!

Devo · 03-27-2014, 02:15 PM

You have to understand first, and I don't mean this to be rude, more of a constructive criticism, but, men don't necessarily all want, or look for the same thing, and, attractions are NOT always mutual.

I've never met you Lexxy, so I am not making a judgement call or anything, to be clear.

I prefer to sit down with the provider for a few minutes, and discuss what exactly we can mutually agree upon for activities, and then, proceed with the date.

You have to understand, sometimes it may be just a blowjob, sometimes its full service, sometimes its porn sex, and sometimes, yes, slow and romantic may be on the menu, even for me.

On one given day, your response to this guy may have been absolutely appropriate, the next, the last thing he wanted to do.

No one can make that call without some pre planning, or discussions ahead of time, which, if it was a first date, bluntly, most providers don't feel comfortable doing.

I too have tried to communicate about likes, and activities, sometimes the provider is fine discussing it by email, sometimes after the envelope has been handed over, some, have just wanted to play it by ear,(I personally dislike that plan).

I think some pre planning helps in some situations especially if the provider isn't expecting a mouthful of cum, or facial, and thats the guys objective, that particular day.

lilbud565 · 03-29-2014, 06:34 AM

Pria has website now
xoxopria.com

mtnitlion · 03-31-2014, 05:45 AM

Soooooooo

When did DEVO turn into Dr Phil.

Devo · 04-03-2014, 05:37 PM

Mmmmm kay.........

I find that time spent before the session discussing likes and dislikes leads to a better session, and it gives you a "Feel" for what the provider is all about.

First, you find out how comfortable she is in a sexual situation that can be difficult for some of them, as not all providers really want to be doing that particular job, and if she's just grinning and bearing it, I can tell, and its a real buzzkill.

The bad part is, I know I am fucking smarter, and as well read as Dr. Dickhead, and I can't believe somebody actually pays him to do the job he does.

And, I think sometimes some providers really think we do use our dick as a brain most of the time, I am able to separate my little head from the big one when needed.

Guest061315 · 05-18-2014, 09:36 AM

no..it happens alot..more so than you think..i just slow things up quickly..i talk about whatever that takes their minds off of whats about to blow..flip him onto his tummy..

and give him a sensual body rub..thats helps alot..i def let him lead and watch for cue's where he is ready to get it goin again...some like to take it to the edge and slow up again..alright no issues..lets play..

at the begining of the meeting i cant sit down and discuss activities..being ol school..i just know the man is a cop and he's gonna bag and tag me..regardless how much screening i put down on him..the ol saying "its not what ya do..its what ya say" that comes to mind every single time a new gent brings up activities..