Easily scared off?

[Guest070818-1]

Originally Posted by samantha thom

It's a good thing, Hercules. I am paranoid, too! I turn down many many appointment request because I am not comfortable in how the guy writes in e-mail. It's that gut feeling I always listen to. I am always weary about guys who INSIST of sending me a picture of him even after I declined saying it's not necessary. I am more interested in your references and if you are clean, polite, respectful and will treat me like a person. And my instinct is always right on this one. Usually the guy ends up writing me back and forth for no reason just to waste my time and looking for a girlfriend or a real life date. And it also tells me that he does not value DISCRETION as highly as I do since he's sending his pictures to many people.

I get quite a few PMs from guys like this too. I'd say about 50/50 of the guys who send me pictures are LE. If the picture was professionally taken and/or looks like a stock photo, then my sirens are definitely going off!

[Prolongus]

I think I've been to that same "keyed elevator" incall. The Providers met me on the landing and took me up. Had they sent me on a treasure hunt, I would have left, too.

It's difficult enough sometimes winding around a giant apartment complex trying to find your room without the extra steps. Make it easy on us, ladies... most of you do.
All kinds of shit runs wild in our heads when it takes forever to find you, which is why I prefer nice hotels.

[TinMan]

I've been asked to do it several times, usually with someone I've seen before. In some cases you need the key to get on the elevator, and the lady doesn't want to go to the parking garage in her Victoria's Secret bra and panties.

I've never encountered a problem on the handful of occasions where I've been asked to pick up the room key, but I can see how it may not be a good idea to do it if the lady isn't a known quantity.

[samantha thom]

It could be kind of awkward if there are people around and you're looking around the fire hydrant or doing a scavenger hunt for this key. What if it's not easy to find and you don't see it right away? LOL

[TexTushHog]

Originally Posted by Randy4Candy

Been there, done that and have a whole room full of t-shirts.

What did Ben Franklin say, "Experience keeps a dear school, but fools will learn in no other!"

("Dear" being used here as a synonym for expensive, for those who are unfamiliar with 18th century English usage.) Not that I would consider either of us fools, of course!!!

[coolaid]

Originally Posted by samantha thom

It could be kind of awkward if there are people around and you're looking around the fire hydrant or doing a scavenger hunt for this key. What if it's not easy to find and you don't see it right away? LOL

Awkward? Who cares? Are you there to bang some pussy or are you there to look like a pussy?

Cancelling on a provider at the last minute because you're too scared to pick up a key and go up the elevator is a pure bitch move.

Some guys seriously need to grow some balls.

Or at least have the decency to tell her why you're cancelling. Don't make some lame excuse, "oh I got called back to work". Pure bitch move all the way.

[addict]

Originally Posted by coolaid

Awkward? Who cares? Are you there to bang some pussy or are you there to look like a pussy?

Cancelling on a provider at the last minute because you're too scared to pick up a key and go up the elevator is a pure bitch move.

Some guys seriously need to grow some balls.

Or at least have the decency to tell her why you're cancelling. Don't make some lame excuse, "oh I got called back to work". Pure bitch move all the way.

Take it easy, Vanilla. Go "bang some pussy" and calm down.

[Hercules]

Excuses for a cancellation in this business are not a requirement. Especially an excuse that spares the indignation of what others view as stupidity. A true bitch move would've been not calling to cancel at all and just walking away.

And my balls are fully functional and intact (and I intend to keep them that way) because I listen to that little voice more and more now.

[yourself]

Hey, It is courteous to at least let them know you are canceling, but you dont owe her an explanation. If a girl can flake for no apparent reason then so can us guys.

I canceled on this girl just last night. I originally booked her after viewing her backpage ad in my cell phone, but canceled after I got a chance to do some research on my computer. I could think of about 6 or seven reasons to flake...so I did.

But at least I sent a text to let her know.

[Tiffani Jameson]

Originally Posted by Hercules

I'll admit. When it come to seeing these ladies I've gotten to be VERY easily spooked here lately.

Some of the things that have me stop seeing a lady simply because it gives me the heebie-jeebies;
*Initial contact with one lady but having another lady I've never seen screen me. Set-up?

No, she could just be really busy, and has hired a screener. Or she could let a girlfriend answer the phone or respond more quickly to emails when she doesn't have the ability to. That way no one misses any money.

*Sudden changes in a lady's way of doing business. Email changes, phone # changes, change in a long-time location. Ask myself "why"? Who she avoiding?

Maybe trouble? Any changes a woman can make to keep herself safe, or to work more efficiently you should be applauding. The only thing that should be constant with anyone is change. When you know better you do better. As a lady, staying in the same location is not smart. You attract stalkers, people catching on to a patterns of your visitors, and more. Maybe someone is harassing her via email or phone. Why would you think that would stop some ladies from having more than one persona or changing names?

*Sudden changes in services previously offered. Once again..."why"?

Because she wants to! Its her body. It's her consciousness. It's her risk. End of story. The day someone cuts my cootchie with their fingernails will be the day I stop offering FIV. The day I decide that I would rather NOT risk getting herpes, I will NOT offer BBBJ. End of story.

*Changes in on-line persona. Not these forums, but in emails and or IMs. If she suddenly disappears and then returns. Or just the way she communicates changes..."why"? Is it someone else posing as her now?

Good one. Even when you're trying to be a ditz or not lead with the intelligence factor, you really can't fake smarts. Or it's possible she's taking things a bit more seriously and it utilizing tools she hadn't had a chance to show previously.

*Anytime a lady goes UTR due to being "outed". Is it possible a family member or her SO will show up at our next "UTR" appointment?

I would hope that when a lady goes UTR, she's followed a level of protocol so that her future actions aren't known to family and friends who are aware of the possibility of her other life.

I'll admit. These things never spooked me as bad in the past. But the risk of worst-case scenarios vs. just getting a little strange seems to be weighing on my mind more and more now days. Am I just getting jumpier in ma old age?

It's very possible that your needs are changing, and your paranoia is the way it's manifesting itself.

It's true, you never know how ladies are really conducting their businesses, but for the most part, some situations give themselves away. Your process of vetting out a good time should not start with mindlessness, but a clear thought process.

Life isn't simply 'bang a pussy or be a pussy'. I've heard from very smart punters that say the older they get their considerations change. They don't visit with a woman that they wouldn't consider in real life. You seem very observant. Use that to your advantage and see if it changes the type of companion you find. It may not simply be a matter of hotness, but the total woman.

Good luck, Herc!