Why Do You Like Sex?

[mbinlincoln]

I don't think there is ever meaningless sex. You may not attach as much meaning as you will with another partner just the same way not every partner will be as "good." After 20 plus years of virtually sexless marriage I had spanked the monkey with incredible frequency just for an outlet. Frankly my lack of sexual connection with another human sent me into a deep depression. Since deciding to see providers, one or two casual encounters, and now a FWB, I am in a much better place and completely depression-free. If you and your partner connect in some way, it isn't meaningless.

[mbinlincoln]

Originally Posted by SexyKaylen

For me i love to do bbbj and that gets me going to the point that it makes me wanna fuck like crazy...love sex who dont

Still waiting for your BBBJ tour to make it to Omaha, lol

[Gina's Little Secret]

I guess it's because I didn't Have to go to school for it

[awl4knot]

Originally Posted by kymberlane

I can only imagine that sex with a provider is pretty empty or vise versa with a trick. You pay for someone to pretend to like you. Or the guy only wants you and pays you for the pussy, disregarding any other value you have as a human being. Objectified. Feels good in the moment, money is great, but then it leaves u feeling more empty and unsatisfied.

And your imagination would be wrong and stilted. There is a middle ground, a great and varied middle ground, where you can have fabulous, meaningful sex with a provider who you like, appreciate and respect, but don't love. Sure, you can see a provider just to bust a nut, but for me it's so much better when I have that definite but limited connection. And I'm lucky enough that I find it more often than knot.

If you can "only imagine" about sex with a provider, I gather you've never had sex with a provider? If so, why are you here and why are being judgmental about something you know nothing about?

[TheAntichrist666]

I have sex, because I enjoy the way it feels. I enjoy being with a beautiful woman. I rather be with a beautiful woman, than being all lonely and sad.

[tuckahoe]

Originally Posted by Holly Love

For me it's because I love intimacy with another human being, I love to have big o's, and IT FEELS GOOD!

Originally Posted by Sweet N Little

It's fun,it feels good, its a stress release, it' slows aging & it's healthy! Its the perfect satisfaction

I just love how it feels when your being held by a man(for me, a woman)

Originally Posted by theCFE

Personally, I enjoy the intimacy of two minds and bodies coming together in ecstatic communion. There is no greater method of communication than by kiss and touch... you can discover things about one another that friends and family will never know, but lovers may. Sex is the ultimate expression of that intimacy - when done properly, of course. ^_~

Nothing left for me to say except these are ladies I would like to have sex with!!!!

[Fast Gunn]

Well, she is a provider even if she's a very demanding one, but that's another story.

For a provider to imagine what sex with a provider is would be like you to imagine providing sex to a customer for money. Yeech!

Now, that's quite a troubling image, isn't it?

. . . As to why she's here, I imagine it's because she just likes to stir up shit!

Originally Posted by awl4knot

If you can "only imagine" about sex with a provider, I gather you've never had sex with a provider? If so, why are you here and why are being judgmental about something you know nothing about?

[kymberlane]

[Ive never been full service, thats why. And you do not represent every hobbyist out there, from what I read on reviews the majority are seeing the women to bust one--they pay her to leave. And even though Im not a full fledged hooker Ive had my share of sex without love or feelings or mutual connection. Mainly when I was married, lol. The point was that it probably depends on whom your with and your feelings for the other person. Just like your connection with a few providers. It doesnt feel the same or great every time.

Dont be so pissy, sheesh, it was an opinion, and regardless of what or who I am I am entitled to give it on a public board.

QUOTE=awl4knot;1051996568]And your imagination would be wrong and stilted. There is a middle ground, a great and varied middle ground, where you can have fabulous, meaningful sex with a provider who you like, appreciate and respect, but don't love. Sure, you can see a provider just to bust a nut, but for me it's so much better when I have that definite but limited connection. And I'm lucky enough that I find it more often than knot.

If you can "only imagine" about sex with a provider, I gather you've never had sex with a provider? If so, why are you here and why are being judgmental about something you know nothing about?[/QUOTE]

[awl4knot]

Originally Posted by kymberlane

I can only imagine that sex with a provider is pretty empty or vise versa with a trick. You pay for someone to pretend to like you. Or the guy only wants you and pays you for the pussy, disregarding any other value you have as a human being. Objectified. Feels good in the moment, money is great, but then it leaves u feeling more empty and unsatisfied.

Ms. K, This is your "opinion." It verges on stereotype, which is why I responded. And you are right; I don't represent every monger; which is my point - there are many types of mongers. And I don't like being lumped with every bust a nut guy, who BTW, don't want to be lumped with wimp "romantics" like me. But there are lots of "romantics" out there.

Great sex with a great love is certainly the best, but that utopia isn't available to all of us. But that doesn't mean we can't find a suitable substitute in the demimonde.

Finally, it isn't with a few providers that I find great satisfaction. I do my research and see top notch ladies who appreciate men who treat them with respect and make the session fun. I gotta be at 75$%.

[kymberlane]

I wasnt trying to stereotype. Trust me I hate the stereotype of this world, even in what I do, by others who have not walked in all of our shoes. Im just being honest, and usually that isnt what you want to hear on a fantasy board. You are in the minority my friend as far as your respect for the ladies. Most hobbyists are not as kind. And a man who is a romantic is far from being a wimp, in my opinion. I also know that friendships can form here when 2 people meet. You cant prevent chemistry. I was trying to compare 3 situations, and stating that its the one where the feelings are real and personal, no pay for play, no one nighter, that a person would get the most enjoyment out of sex. I do not doubt that the women who are full service enjoy it, they must, but Im sure that most would agree that personal loving relationships from the heart are much more satisfying that love one hour at a time. We are women, emotional beings, its just our makeup. As for men, I dont have a penis lol, So you tell me sweetheart.

And yes FG, Ill stir up the shit all I want, at least that way I get to spend some quality time with you that way.

[Guest071313-5]

Originally Posted by kymberlane

We are women, emotional beings, its just our makeup. As for men, I dont have a penis lol, So you tell me sweetheart.

Testosterone is a helluva drug, sometimes we just need to be licked on by a female and not have to talk about anything afterwards. It's just our makeup. Work, sleep, eat, and breed. That's about the extent of our complexities Kymber baby.

[DallasRain]

Beezdat---you seem like a VERY interesting man!{luv to meet ya sometime...lol}

Kymberlane---HOT avatar!

[awl4knot]

I'll grant you this: two hours with me isn't an antidote for a full on relationship, but It's a lotta fun. Why is that so bad; why can't the sex be intense, satisfying, fun and even tender?
I guarantee you that hobby sex can be all of those things, but it ain't real love.

And penises can stir emotions, both ways.