First Contact

[pudknocker1]

Ladies, with all the talk of NCNS and lost phones, miscommunication from both sides and etcettra, i'd like to get your viewpoint on how many times do you think a hobbyist should 'reach out' to a provider before he needs to take the hint or accept she just isn't around?

Example, if a provider doesn't have an ad that week, but from previous reviews has a phone number, Showcase PM, email address, website, P411, etc, is the Hobbyist supposed to send one message per method, wait until there is an ad with clear directions or?

I ask because I've personally had the experience of sending a PM, only to be told when we finally meet 'oh i don't check that' or texting a number to find out it's been changed, or an email address but 'she's forgotten to reply that day or didn't notice yours'. I say this because I've heard or read about these experiences from successful providers i've repeated with or it's told thats the case.

I can only wonder what it's like if someone is getting the cold shoulder?

Guys, do you have an unwritten policy you follow that the ladies might want to know about?

[Calista_Syn]

I personally don't mind getting texts anytime, even if I haven't posted an add in a while. Even if I'm not available then, I can chat, get the formalities out of the way, and maybe set something up for the near future when I will be.

I have an explanation and recommendations on my website about how to contact me, as I've noticed my methods aren't the "norm". Most girls I know don't text, but it's the best way for me. I'm always running around with my kids and have an active home life (home school, college, crafts, gardening etc) and don't usually get to checking messages until the end of the night, sometimes not for days. So if a gent gets the being being ignored feeling, it's just because he didn't read through!

Once contact is made though, and we open a dialog, are screened, and an engagement is set, I try my best to keep the flow going with chat.