Serious Question

[greginfw]

Not sure if this is the correct forum but i like the honest responses so I am posting here. My question regards hardons/erections. Reading all of these reviews from hobbyists and their sessions with providers it seems all of these guys are the next best thing to Ron Jeremy. Most all describe these incredible sessions where they totally wear out the provider and also wear themselfs out. Most describe multiple positions and describe in detail how awesome their session was. Most also describe msog. Oh what i would be to be any of these love making, sex animals........ok, here is my question to the ladies and guys feel free to chime in. (like you needed permission) ps: this is coming from a 50 something guy that has the occassional hart time with a hardon.

1. Are all guys as virile as they describe?
2. Do some of your sessions include the guy having difficulty getting hard?
3. What percentage?
4. Do you see alot of guys who are 50plus?
5. Do you ever do sessions where FS and erections are not as important.
6. If so pls describe

My mind is like a 20 year old but my body occassionally acts its age. I enjoy seeing these great providers but I am curious because at times like these you feel kinda inadequate.....

let the answer begin......thx everyone...

[Nicolet]

I see quite a few mature men, it depends on the gentleman. I have had older men who had no problem getting hard, not sure if meds helped. And there have been some older men who could not get an erection at all, but they still had very intense orgasms. There was one gentleman who I saw a lot, because of heart health issues he had ED. He had seen a lot of ladies in his day and had taken meds before a session. I honestly believed him when he said I was the only woman who could just kiss him and he would be standing at full mast! We were very close and I could tell when he took meds and when he didn't.
There aren't too many who can wear me out, and I include young lovers in that equation! But it sure is fun trying!

[throbin]

I'll be honest I am no Superman even though my name implies a super hero sidekick. I am 53 and have 12 reviews, yes I do have a problem rising to the occasion over 50% of the time. I tell all the girls I see not to think it is anything they did or did not do. I do take meds because of a heart condition and think that has a least a little to do with it. Also I am trying really hard to make it happen within the time frame, just putting more pressure on myself. Good luck to you and wish me luck also!

[atxdream]

Don't believe everything you read. Those that know me have heard me say that 90% of what is said in reviews is total crap or a major exaggeration of the truth. Providers sound like porn stars and hobbyists are either too humble or superstars. I won't read my reviews even when a gent sends it out of courtesy before posting it. If it's not true, I'll worry I'll disappoint someone who has read it and if its true I'll turn beat red everytime I see the author.
More pointed to your questions:
1. Some are more, many are less, most need foreplay to not be rushed. I think 40-45 is the turning point where the connection matters (generally speaking). Jr can't get hard on a breeze anymore. Young guys tend to rub a few out before seeing a provider (anticipation gets them excited) then they have difficulties during appt.
2. It happens. Some can't due to medical reasons, others can't bc they carry the weight of the world on their shoulders. Most of the time the reason can be overcome, when it can't I don't take it personal but I try to give extra TLC so they know well.. that it's ok. For many of those gents, they want to make sure I'm satisfied & so I'm extra clear on what it takes to get me well... Drained
3. I'd rather not say a percentage.
4. Well I don't see a LOT of guys. But a large % of who I see are 50+.
5/6. Yes. DATY only sessions. It may surprise hobbyists, but not providers to know that I can go WEEKS without actually having sex. Either they finish with the bj or they just want to talk, cuddle, and be close with someone. Or its a fetish appt. Or they just want to feel the intimacy of pleasing a woman. Or a combo of the above.

One final note. Please, please, please let your lady friend know if you're taking a prescription or OTC enhancer.

[nubuzz2010]

There's the conundrum, if hobbyists stretch the truth, why would they reveal if they are taking a prescription or OTC enhancer? Hobbyists are looking for something they can't get at home, like a BBBJ to ejaculation. Or to fulfill lifelong fantasies, where providers do make us feel like Ron Jeremy, even if it is a 1-2 hour illusion, we still love it and keep coming back for more.

Thanks to providers, some of our kinkiest fantasies come to life....and there's nothing wrong with that!

[Goddessmaria]

Difficulty with erection happens

There are many factors like

Meds
Diabetes
Age
Nerves
Anxiety

I always found that prostate work helps with erection difficulty myself

[spice-is-nice]

I experienced gradually worsening ED for several years, trying all the meds, the injections, etc. The meds worked very well for a couple of years, then started having less and less effect. Injections didn't work well. Turned out that I had both low Testosterone which kept going down and a conditions called Peyronie's Disease and venous leakage. The latter is particularly recalcitrant to treatment. Basically the inflow to my penis was fine, but the mechanism which traps blood and keeps the erection "leaked".

The only real cure for venous leakage is a penile implant. 3 piece implants are the best--google that and you can find all sorts of detailed information and pictures. I put it off and put it off, and finally had it done in March 2009. My only regret is that I didn't do it sooner. I still need testosterone, both for libido and other effects, and I give myself injections in the thigh every 2 weeks. Once it healed, sensation was completely normal, and I am hard as long as my partner or I want to be. I NEVER have to worry about getting an erection which is incredibly liberating sexually. I make no secret of it, and put it in my P411 profile. The inevitable reaction of the ladies I see is along the lines of "How cool is that!" And, "I have someone I need to tell about this.

So, if you are struggling, go see a urologist who specializes in ED, find out what your testosterone level is, let them measure blood flow into the penis and check for venous leakage, let them check for Peyronie's diseases, and let them help you understand if your meds might be contributing.

Any insurance such cover the workup, and my insurance covered the implant. My end of the implant cost was about $3k. My doctor, here in Houston, is in the top 5 doctors in the country doing implants, and he never pushed me to move ahead with that. His name is Larry Lipshultz.

Even with a guaranteed erection and orgasms which feel as good as ever, I typically prefer coming only once, after staying at a sustained level of excitement, and, with the aid of my partner, playing tease and denial games where she gets me to the edge several times before I come. I also adore DATY, kissing, and foreplay in general. I occasionally have a second orgasm, but it never feels as good as the first. And I prefer sensual loving, not sweaty sex where someone "wears someone out". To each his/her own, but the latter just doesn't appeal to me.

So see a good urologist to be sure what you are dealing with. But in any case, enjoy sex the way you like it, there are plenty of smart, caring women from this board and/or P411 who will adapt to whatever you are looking for, with or without erection, and be excellent lovers.

[bvcs]

Originally Posted by atxdream

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1. Some are more, many are less, most need foreplay to not be rushed. I think 40-45 is the turning point where the connection matters (generally speaking). Jr can't get hard on a breeze anymore. Young guys tend to rub a few out before seeing a provider (anticipation gets them excited) then they have difficulties during appt.

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LOL, I've made that mistake once just starting out.




OP, try not to worry too much about it. You'll enjoy sessions much more if you aren't worried about being judged. Think about all the times you've ever puffed up something in your life to be impressive: do you honestly think people over the internet are less inclined to do so? As much as everyone wants to imagine sex along the lines of a well-directed pornography, the truth is that shit happens; you can either let it ruin it or laugh a little and just have fun (which is what it's about).

I'm not a girl, but I'd imagine time and time again of some guy going at it like a crazed gorilla would make one a little sore. Such that even if the retellings on the internet were mostly true, she isn't going to think less of you for treating her gently.

[*GoddessDallas*]

You can always switch to something kinky and not so sexual.
There isn't the stress to get a stiffy and you can still have an amazingly sexually fulfilling time.

[CharminEyes]

Greg,

Been there, done that - found a solution that works great for me and perhaps for you. Please PM me for details if you want.

[badbottom]

Thanks to some overpowered antidepressants in my formative years I have had ED issues since my early 20's. Some men are virile, others not so much. Some men can keep it hard for hours, but cum once and they are done for the night - others can cum 5 times in 2 hours and still be ready to go for round 6.

The dirty little secret is it happens to all of us eventually, some sooner, some later. Some of us will try chemical reinforcement, others will try other things. In the end, sometimes it works, sometimes it doesn't. If you are like me, it works a lot less than it doesn't. Just let the provider know beforehand. Most are quite understanding, and if you let them know before, they won't feel pressured or that they are doing something wrong. These are ladies with feelings of their own, and most take great pride in their abilities. Let them know ahead of time there might be some issues, and most will be more than appreciative rather than feeling pressured themselves to perform. Plus, there are plenty of enjoyable things to do that don't involve an erection that are still quite fun.

If you are honest and up front, and don't put the expectation on yourself to be a total stud, you might be surprised that without that stress things end up being less of an issue, and you can sit back, relax, and enjoy the ride without worrying about the destination. After all, an orgasm lasts at most a minute or two, that leaves a good 58 minutes or more of time to be doing all sorts of other lovely things.

I am involved in the swinging community, and let me tell you that even the most sought after studs there have nights or even months where stuff just doesn't work. I even know of a porn star who has issues, even on medical supplements. So don't worry about what other people think. If you have a good time, it's worth it in the end, and after all, isn't that what this hobby is all about?

[Ms. Athena]

Its ALL about the Mind Fuck baby.....Your mind is your biggest sex organ and thats my goal......I have made Cocks cum when soft and shown men that they can have multi Os just like women.....So relax and enjoy the pleasure of a hot woman sucking your Cock, it still feel sooo good even if it is not hard as a rock.....Pleasure...Yum!

[nickmcd2003]

Originally Posted by Goddessmaria

Difficulty with erection happens

There are many factors like

Meds
Diabetes
Age
Nerves
Anxiety

I always found that prostate work helps with erection difficulty myself

That surely helps me not with getting wood but being able to get off..nothing beats a finger or toy by someone who knows what they are doing...the orgasms are very intense as well.

BTW, we need to get together!!

[DallasRain]

I LUV cock worshipping....it does not matter if it is hard or soft....it's ALL good!
{there is more to a great session than a hard cock!}

[hensley]

This is really a cool thread. I am having a small problem due to age. You ladies are helping me understand things I should have known a long time ago.