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Dude, we all know.
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Dorm, your posts are a big part of what got me thinking about this! lol
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I have always tended to rotate through a small group (1-3 providers at a time, usually weekly visits). One of them is my all time ATF that I don’t foresee ever stopping visiting - we just click on all levels and I’ve seen her over 30 times so I know it’s mutual. We are smart enough to keep boundaries and not catch true feels although we both have “crushes” on each other and send texts unrelated to scheduling. We both know the boundaries (that neither can ever act on feelings) and we respect that.
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GL, thanks for your perspective. I've had someone in the past similar to what you describe with your ATF. Saw her numerous times; each time was a unique and exciting experience. I knew in my mind that this was a hobby. But when she would mention other lovers, or when I would see reviews on her or notice her P4 OK count increasing, what I
knew about the hobby didn't matter. That "protector instinct" was an indication that I needed to step away, and so I wouldn't contact her for several weeks. I needed to let my feelings reset.
I'm always amazed at how you and others can visit your favorite providers so often. I'm assuming you can compartmentalize your feelings, even knowing that the things she does with you, she's likely doing with other guys as well. I once turned down a provider who offered me a weekly special, specifically because I feared catching feelings by seeing her that often.
Sometimes I don't click with a provider, even though we have a great time; I have no problems moving on in that case. It's the ones I DO click with and want to see again that I have a problem with.. lol. I was just curious what
actions you take to ensure natural feelings of (gulp) jealousy, protection, and a desire for deeper connection don't get in the way of continuing to see your faves. For example, a veteran told me long ago that, after a great visit, the wisest thing to do is see other 2-3 other girls before you visit your fav again. It might seem like a waste of time and money (because you want to spend it on her instead), but it's the best way to keep your mind and emotions guessing. Perhaps I should take his advice.