Newbies
I am not newbie friendly. However, I have newbie guys BEG me to see them. Promising to move heaven and earth, whatever it takes.
I tell them, "Send me a copy of your driver's license and your paystub, along with a picture of your face with your driver's license next to your face. I will delete it after I receive it. I need to ensure you are not LE. Once screening is completed. we can move to setting a date." And if we have problems BCD on the date (which, thankfully, has not happened to any degree to me), I'll make sure that dude has a motivation to leave my location--fast.
Only the serious ones follow through with my screening requests.
If you want me to trust you, then you have to trust me, too. And newbies need to understand we are TOFTT.
If they see us, and do a few Encounter reports, the process will become a lot easier for them to get dates in the future.
But getting out there will be tough in the beginning.
Guys should be VERY LEERY of providers who do not screen. It means they are not discreet with whom they see.
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