Dont take the wrong way..but it seems like he may be living his life exactly how HE wants to and you are trying to overthink the situation..
He wants to sit and watch fox news..ok..he has earned it.maybe he doesnt NEED what u think he does and is doing just want he wants.has he expressed he is unhappy or wants to do more or are u assuming he should?
Sometimes doing NOTHING is doing SOMETHING to them. Instead of making him do things u think he should..just adapt to him and find ways to fit into his life..watch the news with him..sometimes saying nothing and just being there means alot..my husband would sit with his dad for hours. Sometimes 10-12hrs a day and they wouldnt say 3 words..but he was there and his dad knew it..
Point is..what u think is best and what he KNOWS us best for him seems to be the issue..
And..dont think he doesnt know that "if you were in his shoes u wouldn't want to either"..as soon as my father in law declined..we kept him involved..that way even with all his medical equipment we toted he never felt like a burden..but when he said he didnt wanna do something we listened..we stopped what we were gonna do and adapted to him that day..as I said..they have far fewer yrs left god willing than us..we give up today so they can enjoy how they wanna live
Btw..we didnt babysit..etc..he was not just part of the family he WAS thr family..so we empowered him..included him..allowed him to make his decisions. THe elderly lose alot of things as thet age and their faculties go..the right to decide how thry live and what they do shouldn't be 1 of them..
Side nite..our last 4 cruises we toted electric wheelchair...push wheelchair..oxygen machine..these giant leg sleeves that inflate to circulate his legs..hoyer lift to get him in and out of excursion...medicine...bed pan..special pillows to prop him up. And this is all for a guy that was alert..and was as normal as u and me..lol..we looked like the Beverly hillbillies pulling into cruise terminal with medical equipment strapped everywhere
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Originally Posted by Vannah
I tried to get him a Kindle awhile back and it's still sitting in the box because he says it isn't the same as a book, and I totally get that. It's like the saying goes, you can lead a horse to water, but you can't make him drink.
I suppose half the problem is just getting him to agree to trying some activities. I've offered to pack up his wheelchair and oxygen tank to go somewhere, but he never wants to. Although if I were in his shoes, I doubt I would want to go out and paint the town red either.
I'll go to an education supply store tomorrow and try to find some interactive games to play with him. Anything beats FOX News!  |
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