Question about activities

[userb1]

I'm new here, I have been reading reviews posted by hobbyists regarding their experiences with providers. I'm seeing most have a pretty long list of activities that were performed during the session.

My question is does the provider do all those activites on their own or are they all requested by the hobbyist? If they are all requested then it would seem to me that you would basically be walking in with a long list or something? Or I guess for more experienced individuals they already know everything they want and they talk about it with the provider before the session begins?

I'm actually hoping the provider does it all on their own because I kind of like the element of surprise not to mention that I'm kind of new at this and it might be a little uncomfortable duscussing these things or maybe they don't like it being discussed either but then again I don't want to be let down or miss out on an activity that I specially wanted during the session. So would just like to know how things are normally done so I'm better prepared.


Thanks!

[rrabbit6926]

One thing to remember is that a review is just that hobbyist experience. It may not be 100% the same and some providers do certain things while they might not with another individual. If you meeting with a we'll reviewed provider most of the menu items wouldn't change much. Normally the provider would ask during the session what you wanted example if you prefer BBBJ or CBJ or kissing and such. You should get a feel for her rules before you actually make contact.

[pyramider]

Every session, or date in real life, is ymwv.

[wanttohavefun]

First thing you don't want to do is start reading from a list of things you want to do, that can screw up a mood and if done early in the date can put them on alert for LEO. Secondly don't mention any activities until after some nudity has been achieved and both of you have been touched where the bathing suit covers.

The better experienced providers will quickly realize you are a newbie and guide you through the session. If she does this then just relax and enjoy it until you are comfortable at that point you can then ask "hey can we ??????".

In my opinion it's best not to walk into a first session with a provider with a shopping list of things you want to do until you are comfortable with the hobby. You might miss something but that is why you go back for a 2nd appointment. As you are getting started you probably do want to go back to the same woman a couple times until you are comfortable with her.

Many things that are listed on the activities list can be YMMV (your millage may vary). Reviews can be tricky, what is available to a guy who has seen a provider twice a month for the last two years might not be available to a guy on the first time. Kissing is a big one where it can be a "once I get to know you". BBBJ vs CBJ, FIV and greek are other activites where access to them can be very subjective. Hygiene also plays a huge part in it and there are some threads already on the subject. If you hear "You want to stick that dirty thing where?" or "Ahh you like onions?" then you might as well walk right out.

[Pink Floyd]

He who hesitates is lost. If you want a blowjob are you going to lay back hoping that she gives you one.

[userb1]

Thanks for all the great info I'm starting to understand now how it would work.

[pyramider]

Just download the porn, its a lot easier.

[thisguy23]

Originally Posted by pyramider

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its safer and cheaper also

[Cpalmson]

Originally Posted by wanttohavefun

First thing you don't want to do is start reading from a list of things you want to do, that can screw up a mood and if done early in the date can put them on alert for LEO. Secondly don't mention any activities until after some nudity has been achieved and both of you have been touched where the bathing suit covers.

The better experienced providers will quickly realize you are a newbie and guide you through the session. If she does this then just relax and enjoy it until you are comfortable at that point you can then ask "hey can we ??????".

In my opinion it's best not to walk into a first session with a provider with a shopping list of things you want to do until you are comfortable with the hobby. You might miss something but that is why you go back for a 2nd appointment. As you are getting started you probably do want to go back to the same woman a couple times until you are comfortable with her.

Many things that are listed on the activities list can be YMMV (your millage may vary). Reviews can be tricky, what is available to a guy who has seen a provider twice a month for the last two years might not be available to a guy on the first time. Kissing is a big one where it can be a "once I get to know you". BBBJ vs CBJ, FIV and greek are other activites where access to them can be very subjective. Hygiene also plays a huge part in it and there are some threads already on the subject. If you hear "You want to stick that dirty thing where?" or "Ahh you like onions?" then you might as well walk right out.

You have some good advice and some bad advice. I, for one, am all about communication. When I walk into a session, I want to know what to expect from a general perspective. I don't like surprises. If you talk about activities in general ahead of time, you will lessen any potential for a misunderstanding and bad experience. There are 2 things I want to know about a lady in terms of activities before I will consider seeing her. First, is she MSOG friendly. Second is she BBBJ or CBJ only. Having said that, it is not the first thing out of my mouth when I contact her. I build up to it during discussions. Also, it is mostly to confirm what I've already researched. If get even the hint she is not MSOG friendly, I won't see her. BBBJ/CBJ is something I can work with but obviously the preference is for BBBJ.

A list is just a list, but it is the starting point of any informed decision. If you need/want clarification, there is no harm in asking.